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Is it normal to miss the feeling of missing someone? And how to stop that?

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Last Updated: 06/01/2022 at 11:15am
Is it normal to miss the feeling of missing someone? And how to stop that?
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owlsabove
January 9th, 2022 3:30pm
It is completely normal. The only way to stop missing the feeling of missing someone is to realize how much better you are without them. What that means is since you're not missing them anymore, you just miss the feeling, then you are more likely to be attached to the idea of them being there. However, since you do not miss them anymore, then you mind and heart have subconsciously moved on in a way, but part of you still wants to hold on to that person. Realize that you are much better off and stronger without that person in your life.
Dracarys777
January 21st, 2022 7:25am
It is completely normal to miss the feeling of missing someone; and I think I understand what you are talking about. It's almost like missing the way you used to care about a person or missing how close you were yet simultaneously realizing that things aren't that way anymore, and missing that. As someone who has drifted from their best friend, I can honestly say that the most effective healer for me was time, as cliche as that sounds. Time made me realize that I would meet more people, and that it was okay to miss the way things were, while still looking towards the future. I also kept myself busy a lot and put myself out there, it was difficult, but it is a process.
Anonymous
April 17th, 2022 7:17pm
Of course, at least in my opinion. When we lose someone, someone who we cared about, loved and dedicated our time, it’s hard to adjust to the life without them. Days and nights become longer than they are, gaps of that person in our lives fills itself with the obscure emotion we call “longing” or in simpler words, missing. We miss them very much. Every single day for unforeseeable time. And sometimes, we don’t even notice when it happens, we slowly adjust our lives to the ones without them. It happens slowly, but the shift of emotion is barely noticeable, and sometimes, when we think of it, we miss the time when we were healing. Because that’s what it is — healing. A long journey towards getting better. It’s okay to miss someone, it’s okay to think about them, and it’s okay to miss the feeling of missing.
sunlightspirit
May 5th, 2022 7:58am
When we lose someone, whether through death or separation, we reminisce the moments we spent and "miss" those times shared, for a while. These feelings are very intense and emotionally overwhelmingly. However, over time, the intensity decreases as we "heal" the pains from the loss and move forward with our lives, leaving behind the memories as we seek to balance our emotional state of being. This is called healing the soul and moving forward. What is really missing is the intensity of feelings for someone after losing them. Seek within you to find other recent or past times where these intense emotions were other people downplayed your feelings and perhaps even told you to "move on" or "stop thinking like that". Each situation discovered, release the power of those words.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2022 11:15am
Yes, that is normal. When people move and relcoate a well-off distance away, missing someone is a major feeling. But after a bit, you could feel hollow and sad without that person. I bet that at least 2 people you know experience this, because lots of people do. If the person is a close friend, then there's really not anything major you could do, to be honest. You have to be aware of why you're missing them and what they mean to you. That feeling may never go away, because some relationships are so important. Just accept it and see what comes next. Missing people is hard.