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Is it normal to think about the break up even although it's years down the line?

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Last Updated: 12/14/2020 at 3:37pm
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June 14th, 2016 11:53pm
It is not normal to think of a breakup after the relationship ended a long while back. The reason is, you are most likely trying to fix the puzzle pieces together and figure something out. It may not regard the partners involved, rather the situation. Why is this abnormal? Because only an extra-ordinary human being has the ability to think beyond his years. It is abnormal under this situation only; the person in unique!
April 1st, 2015 1:41am
I believe there is no clear definition for what is normal. I think it is natural to remember a break up even years down the line because it is a memory from your past.
April 23rd, 2015 9:20pm
Yes, it is normal to think about the breakup. Sometimes, breakups are often done without any real closure. In such cases, there may be some unanswered questions that linger long after the person is gone from our life. Sometimes, the breakup might not have been our choice- it may have been the other person's decision, which makes it all the more difficult to get over permanently.
May 20th, 2015 5:36am
yes it is normal to think like that. when we really adore someone they are always present in out mind. but when a long time has passed that should not make u disturb at work because life is meant to live. just move on.
May 20th, 2015 5:25pm
Yes its normal i think that you never stop loving someone deep down on the inside because u loved them once so why cant you love them again.
June 23rd, 2015 11:18am
It is normal to think about it even after years. You cannot forget things but you accept and move on.
July 28th, 2015 5:20am
Yes! Perfectly normal. I'm guessing your still not over this person, maybe try getting in contact with them...
August 24th, 2015 5:00am
It is absolutely normal. People give you a lot of memories. To remember the good ones after years is not an abnormal thing.
January 25th, 2016 4:59pm
Yes it's. It's normal. There is no such thing as erasing memories. It works the same as your other memories. It's going to stick with you forever even the deepest long forgotten memories can be trigger. You are living with it all and it's a part of yourself. Dont try to delete it. Accepting it and using it as a lesson.
February 8th, 2016 6:12am
It's normal to remember things but also you have to keep looking into the future, being strong and enjoy wherever youre now.
May 30th, 2016 7:43pm
I believe it shouldn't be normal. If one still thinks about a break up of years ago, it might mean that are unsolved issues with the other person and that the emotions were'nt correctly addressed, leading to a not so good deal with the situation.
June 13th, 2016 6:15am
It's pretty normal, and it's a good thing, it means you love the person who you were with. But remember you're not together anymore, and time's going to heal all your wounds.
June 28th, 2016 7:29pm
Of course it is they were an important part of your life and nobody can change that. But they were what you needed then and may not need now.
April 24th, 2017 10:04pm
Absolutely! We reflect on memories all throughout are life, a relationship/break up is no different. What's important to note is how do we feel when we think about the break up? Are we still hurt? Angry? Confused? Is it affecting our present life, Is it affecting potential relationships. It's normal to reflect on the break up , but is it helping or hurting us when we do it ?
December 11th, 2017 8:12pm
Completely, it's almost impossible to forget things that created an impact on your life, bad or good.
February 13th, 2018 11:52pm
I don't know but I still do. I heard that if you think about something that happened a long time ago that means there are still lessons you can learn from that. So it might be useful to think more deeply. Maybe you'll come to a realization that helps you feel better about it and you'll be able to focus on newer things.
March 27th, 2018 8:31pm
I think that it's normal to think about it but not to the point of over thinking. Ever one wants a positive work/life balance
December 14th, 2020 3:37pm
Let's say you met more people after you were done with that person, you grow apart from them as well but you didn't felt the same way as you did when you broke up with the other one. It is normal to think about it because believe it or not there are people that mark us forever. Even though we might think we are over that, we don't forget what had happened. Those memories will always stay with you. Don't overthink about this, it will not help and you will start questioning what happened and why did things end up that way. It's a waste of time since we can't go back to the past or change what occurred. Don't be hard on yourself, instead find a way to distract yourself when this type of thoughts are coming to your mind.