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Is it okay to be sad after calling it off?

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Last Updated: 04/12/2021 at 8:34am
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Top Rated Answers
incredibleJewel47
February 14th, 2017 10:40pm
It is normal to be sad after calling something off. It's okay too seek help and support. 7 Cups is a great way to talk if your not confertable and talking one on one with someone
ingeniousBerry82
April 18th, 2017 3:38pm
We all are entitled to whatever feelings we have. In this case, it's naturally to Feel when you lose someone. We feel sad losing a mobile phone, a person is similar yet different. But what's meant to be will be. If you think you make the right choice, focus on that and you'll eventually come to terms.
Anonymous
September 19th, 2017 4:47pm
I think it's very normal to be sad after a situation that needs to be called off. We are all here to support and be our best for someone else who isn't really at their best, and when it needs to be moved on, it's not always a nice feeling.
mysticreign90s
September 19th, 2017 5:45pm
Feeling sad after calling something off is perfectly normal. Allow yourself to feel your emotions so that you don't bury them. Acknowledge it, feel it, and heal.
CompassionateMoonChild
October 23rd, 2017 7:32pm
Of course it is okay. Every ending comes with a time of grief. You may have called it off for 101 reasons, all healthy and valid. But something got you invested in the first place. And with calling it off comes loss. So cry, scream and weep it out! You deserve to feel your feelings. Let it hit you hard and express. And then, make sure you allow the new beginning. After all, every end is at the same time a new beginning!
Anonymous
March 27th, 2018 5:54am
If you are not sad after you broke up with someone, then you probably didn't care about that person in the first place. Too many people become a couple not because of any true feelings, but because of ulterior motives. Some people don't want to be alone, some want money, some want sex, and the list goes on. But that is a bullshit reason to be with someone unless it is for love. Someone will get hurt, other people will get hurt. If you want to be with someone for crappy reasons at least let them know. That way they can decide on their own whether or not they want to still be with you.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2018 11:21pm
Yes, yes it is! You shared a a part of you with someone and even if its a short time we get adjusted to them being there.
Karen1961
February 22nd, 2021 12:07pm
Yes, sadness after calling it off is completely understandable. Sadness is a natural emotion to loss. You have to learn how to tolerate sadness without pushing it away or doing anything harmful to you or to other people. Know that you are valuable and that you will get through this. Try to find some distractions that help you through your sadness. Talk to friends and family and see if that makes you feel better. Exercise and eat well and try to sleep well. Stay away from alcohol and drugs because that will not help you resolve your issues. Try to find the lessons in your sadness
Anonymous
April 12th, 2021 8:34am
It is very okay, and valid to feel sad after calling it off. It takes strength and courage to do so, and it seems like you have shown that by doing so. It is a completely normal step in the process and shows that you are a very kind and caring person, feelings are always valid no matter what they are. You have every right to feel how you are feeling and I am glad you are expressing it. Break ups are hard to go through but you are strong and deserve much love and happiness it is headed your way