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Is it okay to beg my boyfriend to stay?

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Last Updated: 12/28/2020 at 4:40am
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electricbird
April 10th, 2018 4:55am
It is okay to fight for somebody you think it's worth it. It's fine to show a person you want them to stay. Or to show someone that you made a mistake but you don't want them to leave, you want to fix things. It is not okay to humiliate oneself for someone that does not value you. It is not okay yo lose your dignity and beg for love crumbs. It is not okay to keep begging when someone is taking you for granted.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2020 4:36am
In a healthy relationship you should not have to beg anyone to stay. If the other person does not want to be in the relationship begging them to stay will only lead to them losing respect for you. If the person chooses to stay they will eventually resent you for "forcing" them to stay. It is important to always acknowledge your self worth and you should never have to beg someone to stay with you. If the person truly loves and cares about you they will want to be part of the relationship. Begging someone to stay implies they do not wish to be about of the relationship.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2018 2:00am
No. Not only Does it put pressure on your boyfriend but you are settling to be with someone who didn't want to stay. The right man for you stays through everything. A man who leaves isn't a man for you. If you neg him to stay you'll only create insecurity and distrust in the relationship. Take a deep breath and remember. You are the most important thing to yourself. Don't beg someone to stay who doesnt want to. Neither of you deserve that
PeacefulThinker
September 3rd, 2018 4:12am
In many cases if you have to beg either a male or female partner its prone to a bad ending and an even worse continuity. Sometimes the worse is for the best and tho i cannot tell you not to beg for it is a most natural reaction. Im just not sure it will work in most cases. If the relationship needs one party worshiped by the other with the use of manipulation then it is psychological abuse, if you beg willingly because of a fantasy or so on it is more acceptable but try to see threw the cage that is love threw those bars that imprison your heart sometimes in a great adventure, sometimes in pure horror.
SunflowerCourage
December 28th, 2020 4:40am
No, it is not okay to beg for your boyfriend to stay. You should not need to convince him in any way whether he should stay or leave a relationship. A healthy relationship is the work of two people both investing their 100% into making it work. For some reason, it seems that he no longer wants to invest his effort, and is ready to leave. If his heart is already elsewhere, it's better to just respect his decision and let him go. I know it is hard to let go of someone you love dearly, but if ending the relationship is really what your boyfriend wants, then respecting his decision and giving your blessings is the best love you can give him at this moment. Good luck!