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Is it still worth trying if he/she broke up with me several times?

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CallmeTaro77
April 26th, 2017 6:00pm
You seem to be confident about how you feel so you keep trying for that person. But isn't it weird that you don't see the same from him/her? Think of that for a moment. You deserve someone who is willing to give you and show you affection and love.
Anonymous
September 29th, 2016 11:37pm
No, its not helping anymore, just sit back and relax, if you two are the soulmate then it takes time
dancingRainbows53
November 23rd, 2018 3:17pm
If you are the only one trying, then maybe you should let him try for once. If he does not try to connect with you, then you know it is not worth the effort. Look at it this way, if he thinks you are worth the effort, he will not go looking for someone else while you are there and if he does, then he did not think of you as someone worth having. If he really did love you, he would try to work things out with you instead of trying to break up with you at the slightest inconvenience to him.
originalbraveheart63
October 13th, 2016 2:28pm
No it's not, if they really loved they would not broke up with ever. You should just find someone that can appreciate you the way you are.
PsYchologica90
October 22nd, 2016 9:08am
Maybe not. Breaking up often is a sign that he/she is experiencing problems with you that won't allow them to stay with you
HouseOfGold21
January 18th, 2018 6:29pm
Personally, I would not advise this. If they have broken up with you several times before, there is nothing saying they won't do it again. It sounds as if they may have some issues of their own that they need to sort out first.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2018 12:07pm
well that all comes down to if you wanna keep being hurt or move on and not get hurt as much but at the same time that has happened to me and i went back to him and after about the third time he broke up with me i was like if he keeps hurting me like this then that must mean he doesn't care about me
Anonymous
July 11th, 2018 7:18pm
No, if he/she has broken up with you several times, it indicates that you are only a second option. That person is more likely to come back to you because he/she knows that you will be always be an option if the other relationships fail.
Anonymous
August 22nd, 2018 3:26am
If they keep coming back to you, yes it is still worth a try. Because that is a proof they are trying too. And also whatever is wrong could be workable. Because not everything is perfect, and this little bit of imperfection may actually spice up the relationship and keep it undying. But if it is we who are running back to them, I think we better stop trying. Because it's a clear proof they are sure about their decision to break up. It is difficult but then that is how it is. Rushing back to a person whose emotions are not on par with ours will impact negatively, flaming distrust and constant insecurity.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2016 9:15pm
When it comes to getting back together with a boyfriend or girlfriend, you need to ask yourself "is this person making me a better person?" Does that person make you happy and want to be with them? You also have to consider his/her happiness. In the end, your decision should be based on what will make both of you happy. Sometimes, happiness can be found with different people. That's alright.
Aliveinsideink
April 18th, 2016 11:06pm
Love is a difficult journey. If their is still hope in the relationship then it is worth trying over and over again. Then someday you may not have to try anymore.
LockeLamoraUK
March 5th, 2018 10:02am
In my experience? No. If two people both want to be together, then they'll make it work regardless of circumstances. If one of them doesn't want to put the effort in, it won't.
trisjlistens
August 1st, 2016 6:30pm
It depends. If you feel like you need to be in this relationship then go for i but if it's just making you feel bad of yourself and it brings out the worst in you, then you have to let go. Sometimes, love isn't enough.
Funfloor
April 25th, 2015 5:27am
Yes and No, Well, here are few tips. And it is upon you to if you choose to use this or not. 1. Take suggestion from people who surround you.( well you are doing it right now). 2. Find a way out, you know what is best for you. 3. Try to control AT( called Automatic Thought). Google and see what is it. ( If you have already tried it then, make an appointment with a therapist. ) and if you have a therapist and it is not working for you then find another one. I think i cover all of the stuff.
Fraz
September 14th, 2016 8:05am
Instinctively, I'd say no. However, you're the only one who knows the situation best. What is it that sets the person apart? Are they worth the trouble? Are you happy with them? Do you feel no one else can offer the things they do? Basically, introspect to find where your priorities are.
OscarWilde99
April 13th, 2018 1:03pm
My personal experience is that you can't help what you feel, and trying to understand that is the most important thing you can do, before you can deal with the issue.
ColdWinterNights
June 10th, 2017 6:13am
On/Off Relationships are not healthy for your mind. These kind of relationships can lead to your having problems with self worth, trust, and your ability to trust and understand someone else.
uniquecreature41
November 18th, 2016 7:27pm
Depends entirely on why you broke up. If you've been at the mercy of this person's whims in the past then think about what there is to gain by getting back with them. It's really as simple as that. If you can see yourself getting ditched again in the future or they haven't changed their behaviour during your relationships then maybe you deserve a bit better. Also consider how much time you've spent being upset by this person and whether or not anymore is likely to be a waste. Set rules and boundaries, if they can't adapt and make serious attempts at amends, ask yourself why you're willing to submit to all the pain again.
beautifulPink89
July 10th, 2018 2:30pm
Relationships are a two way street, meaning both people have to want it. You might love him/her, but they need to feel the same way... Try letting go for a while, see if your ex comes back to you on his/her own. You will get your answer...
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2016 11:09am
From first hand experience, if he/she wants to break it off with you and they try several times, it just isn't worth putting your time and effort into the relationship and focus on things. If I were in that situation, I would try to talk to them and assess the relationship one last time
WesternCanada1
March 29th, 2015 6:37am
This is a question that only you can answer. The only person who was in the relationship wih him/her ws you. No one else. Therefore, try to analyze what this relationship has brought to you and up to what point it has contributed to both of you to grow as a person. And, of course, what are the feeling you have.
Sazbgotyou
March 1st, 2018 7:40pm
I think this is a question that really only you can answer, and maybe it’d be more effective to ask yourself why you keep allowing somebody to leave you so many times, when you’ve managed to stick by yourself your whole life, and your pretty great! Ask yourself what you’re trying for, whether your confusing how she / he makes you feel, with how you WANT to feel. It’s okay to be in love with the idea of being in love, even when the reality isn’t so sweet. But sometimes, reality is what we need, and when you’ve been confronted with that reality several times, it might be worth taking some time to fall in love with yourself instead.
compassionateTouch5999
August 15th, 2019 9:10pm
I have been through a similar situation a coupe of times. I had to make the decision that was ultimately best for my self-preservation. Each time he broke up with me it made me feel lonelier, less trustful, made me think that I was not really important in his life. I would go through a self-analysis of wondering what I did wrong again, would anyone ever love me, a sense of decreased self-worth. Finally, I had to become strong and end the relationship. It hurt really bad at first, but over time the pain decreased to the point that now I am happier, less stressed, and I learned to set boundaries that are healthy for me. I continue to struggle with anxiety and the feeling of loneliness but I am learning ways to build up my self-esteem, confidence, and doing activities I enjoy. I have joined online and local support groups as well.
Anonymous
June 5th, 2015 7:54am
Try to be with yourself for sometimes before getting back into a complicated relationship. Give yourself time to breath.
braveTouch10
October 13th, 2016 4:25pm
Yes.if he /she doing breakup at silly reasons due to lack of analysing..if she/he is not ready to admit their fault or the other partner ,there is no point to continue forgiving ..one of them need to analysis the cause of their breakup.
Anonymous
November 4th, 2016 4:23pm
Yes, love is always worth everything. Temptations cannot be resisted. You will regret it if you let that person go.
FelixLlyod
May 21st, 2018 8:26am
Every relationship deserves chances. The important thing is how you feel. If you feel love and ready for giving another chance to your relationship then it will always worth it.
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2017 6:52pm
It's never healthy going through a breakup many times it not only affects your feelings but makes you feel like the other person isn't taking into regards your emotions when they break up. But it's also essential to think about the reasons why they did what they did, for example why did they break up with you?. Was it a valid reason or was it over something pity. But whenever we are talking about worth here it's hard to keep going when someone keeps on breaking up it feels like more of a game. You need to ethier let go of that person or try once more but put your foot down when they try to break up again and cut ties. But you asking this question makes me think you know your worth you know it's not worth all the agro but you have strong emotions towards their person and you slightly have faith that things would work out. But remember one thing.. is it worth all the stress all these drama? What is it doing to you? Think about yourself more then the other person cause at the end of the day your the person who sounds like is getting hurt the most.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2016 6:40am
Sometimes it is. There's a reason why they might break up with you. Maybe because they feel they're not worth that much to you or they're not good enough. Sometimes you just have to be there for them because of you truly love him or her you would do anything to stay with her.
ASilentObserver
July 13th, 2017 6:21am
It depends upon if you guys really want to give another chance to the relationship with a thought that you guys will better communicate, understand, trust and respect each other. Because most of the time reason of break up is either due to a trust, communication, respect or understanding issue. And, probably you guys go with your guts feeling to know what is better for you.