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Is it still worth trying if he/she broke up with me several times?

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PsYchologica90
October 22nd, 2016 9:08am
Maybe not. Breaking up often is a sign that he/she is experiencing problems with you that won't allow them to stay with you
Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 2:37am
In my experience, no. I have been lead on in that way and had friends in the same boat. It ends up being a game... as if they are dangling a carrot and you're the horse chasing after it. It is as if you are a back-up plan. It is not healthy to remain in such a relationship. You deserve someone compassionate and willing to work things through without the threat of coming and going.
originalbraveheart63
October 13th, 2016 2:28pm
No it's not, if they really loved they would not broke up with ever. You should just find someone that can appreciate you the way you are.
CallmeTaro77
April 26th, 2017 6:00pm
You seem to be confident about how you feel so you keep trying for that person. But isn't it weird that you don't see the same from him/her? Think of that for a moment. You deserve someone who is willing to give you and show you affection and love.
dancingRainbows53
November 23rd, 2018 3:17pm
If you are the only one trying, then maybe you should let him try for once. If he does not try to connect with you, then you know it is not worth the effort. Look at it this way, if he thinks you are worth the effort, he will not go looking for someone else while you are there and if he does, then he did not think of you as someone worth having. If he really did love you, he would try to work things out with you instead of trying to break up with you at the slightest inconvenience to him.
Aliveinsideink
April 18th, 2016 11:06pm
Love is a difficult journey. If their is still hope in the relationship then it is worth trying over and over again. Then someday you may not have to try anymore.
trisjlistens
August 1st, 2016 6:30pm
It depends. If you feel like you need to be in this relationship then go for i but if it's just making you feel bad of yourself and it brings out the worst in you, then you have to let go. Sometimes, love isn't enough.
Fraz
September 14th, 2016 8:05am
Instinctively, I'd say no. However, you're the only one who knows the situation best. What is it that sets the person apart? Are they worth the trouble? Are you happy with them? Do you feel no one else can offer the things they do? Basically, introspect to find where your priorities are.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2016 9:15pm
When it comes to getting back together with a boyfriend or girlfriend, you need to ask yourself "is this person making me a better person?" Does that person make you happy and want to be with them? You also have to consider his/her happiness. In the end, your decision should be based on what will make both of you happy. Sometimes, happiness can be found with different people. That's alright.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2018 12:07pm
well that all comes down to if you wanna keep being hurt or move on and not get hurt as much but at the same time that has happened to me and i went back to him and after about the third time he broke up with me i was like if he keeps hurting me like this then that must mean he doesn't care about me
WesternCanada1
March 29th, 2015 6:37am
This is a question that only you can answer. The only person who was in the relationship wih him/her ws you. No one else. Therefore, try to analyze what this relationship has brought to you and up to what point it has contributed to both of you to grow as a person. And, of course, what are the feeling you have.
Funfloor
April 25th, 2015 5:27am
Yes and No, Well, here are few tips. And it is upon you to if you choose to use this or not. 1. Take suggestion from people who surround you.( well you are doing it right now). 2. Find a way out, you know what is best for you. 3. Try to control AT( called Automatic Thought). Google and see what is it. ( If you have already tried it then, make an appointment with a therapist. ) and if you have a therapist and it is not working for you then find another one. I think i cover all of the stuff.
Anonymous
June 5th, 2015 7:54am
Try to be with yourself for sometimes before getting back into a complicated relationship. Give yourself time to breath.
braveTouch10
October 13th, 2016 4:25pm
Yes.if he /she doing breakup at silly reasons due to lack of analysing..if she/he is not ready to admit their fault or the other partner ,there is no point to continue forgiving ..one of them need to analysis the cause of their breakup.
uniquecreature41
November 18th, 2016 7:27pm
Depends entirely on why you broke up. If you've been at the mercy of this person's whims in the past then think about what there is to gain by getting back with them. It's really as simple as that. If you can see yourself getting ditched again in the future or they haven't changed their behaviour during your relationships then maybe you deserve a bit better. Also consider how much time you've spent being upset by this person and whether or not anymore is likely to be a waste. Set rules and boundaries, if they can't adapt and make serious attempts at amends, ask yourself why you're willing to submit to all the pain again.
OscarWilde99
April 13th, 2018 1:03pm
My personal experience is that you can't help what you feel, and trying to understand that is the most important thing you can do, before you can deal with the issue.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2018 7:18pm
No, if he/she has broken up with you several times, it indicates that you are only a second option. That person is more likely to come back to you because he/she knows that you will be always be an option if the other relationships fail.
Anonymous
August 22nd, 2018 3:26am
If they keep coming back to you, yes it is still worth a try. Because that is a proof they are trying too. And also whatever is wrong could be workable. Because not everything is perfect, and this little bit of imperfection may actually spice up the relationship and keep it undying. But if it is we who are running back to them, I think we better stop trying. Because it's a clear proof they are sure about their decision to break up. It is difficult but then that is how it is. Rushing back to a person whose emotions are not on par with ours will impact negatively, flaming distrust and constant insecurity.
youwillsurvive
January 11th, 2015 5:26am
It is all up to you. If you doubt it will work, you should trust your own instincts. Nobody from an outside point of view can give you relationship advice.
HelpWisely
September 22nd, 2015 4:42pm
It depends on how your relationship was before the breakup. You would have to consider if you really love him and want him/her back into your life.
sweetlinda22
November 9th, 2015 10:22pm
If you have to ask, then no. Spare yourself the several attempts not to mention effort. Instead channel this energy into new possibilities. Who knows for sure how many more times you'll have to try and try and try again after that?
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2016 6:40am
Sometimes it is. There's a reason why they might break up with you. Maybe because they feel they're not worth that much to you or they're not good enough. Sometimes you just have to be there for them because of you truly love him or her you would do anything to stay with her.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2016 11:09am
From first hand experience, if he/she wants to break it off with you and they try several times, it just isn't worth putting your time and effort into the relationship and focus on things. If I were in that situation, I would try to talk to them and assess the relationship one last time
Strangemusictechnician67
September 21st, 2016 8:05am
This all depends on the situation of the breakup. Often times, no. But some instances may be a yes. Its all depending on the personal relationship
magnanimousDeer10
October 2nd, 2016 6:26pm
no it is not. boundaries are as important as and even more than the attempts to survive the relationship. self care is essential.
Anonymous
October 7th, 2016 7:16pm
Sometimes it's worth it, sometimes it isn't. If there's a chance it might last and you know you both love each other, then it could be worth it. If they don't love you or love someone else more. Then there isn't.
Anonymous
October 17th, 2016 4:01pm
Sometimes it is better for your wellbeing to move on. As much as it hurts to begin with you're better off withoutn them
Anonymous
November 4th, 2016 4:23pm
Yes, love is always worth everything. Temptations cannot be resisted. You will regret it if you let that person go.
HouseOfGold21
January 18th, 2018 6:29pm
Personally, I would not advise this. If they have broken up with you several times before, there is nothing saying they won't do it again. It sounds as if they may have some issues of their own that they need to sort out first.
FelixLlyod
May 21st, 2018 8:26am
Every relationship deserves chances. The important thing is how you feel. If you feel love and ready for giving another chance to your relationship then it will always worth it.