Is it still worth trying if he/she broke up with me several times?
Last Updated: 11/26/2020 at 9:30am
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It's a lost cause. Breaking up creates so much negativity that it becomes a struggle to hold on to and remember the good times.
It all depends on your breaking point. We can take only so much before we break. Make sure it doesn't take a toll on your everyday life. Have a serious conversation with him/her to see where you both stand.
No, if it doesn't work out then you should give up after sometime. Maybe you're not meant to be and you're destined to find someone better.
It's never healthy going through a breakup many times it not only affects your feelings but makes you feel like the other person isn't taking into regards your emotions when they break up. But it's also essential to think about the reasons why they did what they did, for example why did they break up with you?. Was it a valid reason or was it over something pity. But whenever we are talking about worth here it's hard to keep going when someone keeps on breaking up it feels like more of a game. You need to ethier let go of that person or try once more but put your foot down when they try to break up again and cut ties. But you asking this question makes me think you know your worth you know it's not worth all the agro but you have strong emotions towards their person and you slightly have faith that things would work out. But remember one thing.. is it worth all the stress all these drama? What is it doing to you? Think about yourself more then the other person cause at the end of the day your the person who sounds like is getting hurt the most.
That totally epends on you. I have seen many relationships who play this break up-patch up dance regularly. The question is if you both are truly happy with each other or not.
On/Off Relationships are not healthy for your mind. These kind of relationships can lead to your having problems with self worth, trust, and your ability to trust and understand someone else.
To be honest, if you broke up several times, it means there is a problem which remained unsolved. If you solve that problem, you might find the answer.
Yes unless she likes some one else. You should keep trying and not give up no matter what and I hope you succeed
Definitely people make mistakes all the time. Especially when they think it's the right decision. It's always good to forgive and forget. It'll take time but it'll be worth it.
I would try to talk it over again with the person, if you think they are going to break up with you again it is up to you to take that risk,].
No because it means the person is stringing you along, it would be best to find someone new who actually thinks you're worth their time
Honestly, it depends on what the past break ups were over. Also, if you find yourself in love with this person after being put through those breaks up. Do you love you back? If the break ups were over something little, then there's no reason to worry. If they make you happy, then keep trying. If it doesn't work out, at least you can say that you tried your best.
If the reasons why you broke up have changed, it's possible it may be worth it. Or maybe not. In other words, will the problems you guys had reoccur? Or do you see yourself in a deadly cycle of breaking up over and over again? Have you guys spent enough time apart to see why you guys broke up, and have one or both of you changed enough to start again? Or is the feeling of wanting to try again an impulse, which might lead to a regretful, hasty decision?
I think this is a question that really only you can answer, and maybe it’d be more effective to ask yourself why you keep allowing somebody to leave you so many times, when you’ve managed to stick by yourself your whole life, and your pretty great! Ask yourself what you’re trying for, whether your confusing how she / he makes you feel, with how you WANT to feel. It’s okay to be in love with the idea of being in love, even when the reality isn’t so sweet. But sometimes, reality is what we need, and when you’ve been confronted with that reality several times, it might be worth taking some time to fall in love with yourself instead.
In my experience? No. If two people both want to be together, then they'll make it work regardless of circumstances. If one of them doesn't want to put the effort in, it won't.
It is not easy. Sometimes You can't even do anything. You just have to work on yourself. Don't take any quick decision. With time you'll find a better answer.
it is good to give our loved ones 2 or 3 chances because they deserve this. but giving them more than that is like allowing them to commit mistake again and again. we need some sort of restrictions and control to be on the right path, if we get all the freedom there is a great chance that we will go or let them go on the wrong path... like a lot of love and care along with fulfilling all the needs and demands of a child in spite of right or wrong.. we end up spoiling the child.. we should only allow for the goods and stop the bad so we should not overdo anything .. we are humans and we commit mistakes but repeating the mistake is not a good thing..
It really depends on the person's true self.. if u really love his character and agree people make mistakes then go again
Probably not. If they really loved you/ wanted to be with you they would've never broke up with you in the first place. Don't waste your time on someone that doesn't want you❤
In the end, that is solely your decision. However, based on my experience, on and off relationships are often toxic and don't have happy endings for both partners. I was in a couple unhealthy relationships where it was on and off. In the end, it drained me of my energy and took away my sense of self. The more I stayed attached to my ex-partner, the more sense of self and independence I lost. While my experience isn't the same as yours, I highly recommend moving on. It may hurt for a while, but in the long-term you will be happier.
If a partner broke-up with me several times, I would surely question myself if it’s worth trying. I can only speak from experience, on my case it turns out to be toxic for both of us in the end and love shouldn’t be toxic so I had to give up. Love brings out the best in a person but when it turns toxic it can also bring out the bad and the ugly. Choosing to try is choosing hope but one needs to know when to call it quits, and you’ll know. You’ll know when it’s time. If it brings out the worst in you, if you feel it’s taking a toll on your everyday life, if everyone else sees is the same and you don’t, if saying “I love you” becomes daunting and becomes a duct tape to end an argument, if you start to doubt yourself, if you start feeling you’re not good enough... it’s time to rethink and maybe time to set both of you free.
I personally feel like it is a bit risky to try again after so many break ups. If you do decide to rejoin in a relationship with someone who you have been on and off with, you both need to know what exactly you want out of the relationship, and have that clear communication so that your hearts don't get hurt again. Do you both want a long lasting relationship? Those are the sorts of questions to ask. Depending on their answer, that will help guide you to knowing whether this is the right relationship to be in for you.
i had been in love several times before. i looked at a person and thought “this person is cool, but love feels awful”. i was naive and young. but i kept fighting so hard for a feeling that doesn’t make me feel happy. when i was with my ex boyfriend, i was in a bad place mentally. he would think i was “less fun” because i wouldn’t hang out as much. so he would hang out with other girls and cheat on me. looking back, i fought for that relationship because i thought that was the right thing to do. now, several years later i’m dating someone else. we’ve been together for two years and we always try to understand each other’s point of view. things aren’t always sunshine and rainbows, in fact we took a break in the middle for a month because of our personal mental health issues. but at the end, we BOTH wanted each other. we both realized the value we hold for each other, and we both worked hard to be what we needed for each other and ourselves. it comes down to the person you’re with and how much you love each other. in the first relationship i talked about, we didn’t love each other but we still were together. that caused conflict, betrayal and the relationship went nowhere. but in the second scenario, we ended up being happier than ever after putting in extra work and energy to understand each other’s needs. don’t stay for someone just because you think you have to. stay because you love them, and they love you too. stay because you see yourself with nobody else. stay because they respect and love you. i hope that helps!
It depends on the reason. Maybe you can talk to them about the breakups and why they happen, or maybeyou can focus on a new crush
I would suggest that you weigh up the positives and negatives about this situation. Does this make you happy? Do you make each other happy? Do you feel joy when you are with her? Or do you feel as though she may end the relationship again? Sometimes it is better to move on, as hard as it can seem at the time. But if you truly love each other, try talking to her. Let her know how you feel.
It better be. If not, you woudn't have to go back to him/her since long back. But if you seriously think its not worth it, then push yourself a little harder than before.
Im not exactly allowed to give advice, but you should do what you think is best if you think it is worth trying then go for it if not then dont
The answer to this question very much depends on how your relationship is with that person and why they keep breaking up with you. Ask yourself some questions on how you think your relationship with them is and about the reasons they leave you and if you want that or not. Just remember there are plenty of people here to chat with!
they say that things happen for a reason, maybe the multiple break ups is a sign - sometimes it's best to move on instead of going through pain and suffering multiple times.
if you feel good about trying it another time you should. but if you think you are not happy everytime he breaks up with you, you should get this negative attitude out of your life,
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