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Is it still worth trying if he/she broke up with me several times?

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EmpatheticSeashell007
September 4th, 2019 2:39pm
Would you really want to be with someone if you were the one who broke up with them several times? If they are letting you go so easily, do they even care? Or is it because you always gravitate back to them? Is this a connection or just your availability? If it were a connection, would it be severed so many times? You already know the answer to this. Deep down inside, you know you deserve better and if you don't, you should know. Because you honestly do deserve someone who is afraid of losing you, not someone who can up and leave then come back whenever.
Anonymous
October 7th, 2016 7:16pm
Sometimes it's worth it, sometimes it isn't. If there's a chance it might last and you know you both love each other, then it could be worth it. If they don't love you or love someone else more. Then there isn't.
magnanimousDeer10
October 2nd, 2016 6:26pm
no it is not. boundaries are as important as and even more than the attempts to survive the relationship. self care is essential.
Strangemusictechnician67
September 21st, 2016 8:05am
This all depends on the situation of the breakup. Often times, no. But some instances may be a yes. Its all depending on the personal relationship
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2017 6:52pm
It's never healthy going through a breakup many times it not only affects your feelings but makes you feel like the other person isn't taking into regards your emotions when they break up. But it's also essential to think about the reasons why they did what they did, for example why did they break up with you?. Was it a valid reason or was it over something pity. But whenever we are talking about worth here it's hard to keep going when someone keeps on breaking up it feels like more of a game. You need to ethier let go of that person or try once more but put your foot down when they try to break up again and cut ties. But you asking this question makes me think you know your worth you know it's not worth all the agro but you have strong emotions towards their person and you slightly have faith that things would work out. But remember one thing.. is it worth all the stress all these drama? What is it doing to you? Think about yourself more then the other person cause at the end of the day your the person who sounds like is getting hurt the most.
Nichole121002
August 1st, 2018 12:30am
Probably not. If they really loved you/ wanted to be with you they would've never broke up with you in the first place. Don't waste your time on someone that doesn't want you❤
Kabira
March 22nd, 2017 6:02am
That totally epends on you. I have seen many relationships who play this break up-patch up dance regularly. The question is if you both are truly happy with each other or not.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2016 6:40am
Sometimes it is. There's a reason why they might break up with you. Maybe because they feel they're not worth that much to you or they're not good enough. Sometimes you just have to be there for them because of you truly love him or her you would do anything to stay with her.
sweetlinda22
November 9th, 2015 10:22pm
If you have to ask, then no. Spare yourself the several attempts not to mention effort. Instead channel this energy into new possibilities. Who knows for sure how many more times you'll have to try and try and try again after that?
HelpWisely
September 22nd, 2015 4:42pm
It depends on how your relationship was before the breakup. You would have to consider if you really love him and want him/her back into your life.
ASilentObserver
July 13th, 2017 6:21am
It depends upon if you guys really want to give another chance to the relationship with a thought that you guys will better communicate, understand, trust and respect each other. Because most of the time reason of break up is either due to a trust, communication, respect or understanding issue. And, probably you guys go with your guts feeling to know what is better for you.
miraculousWillow27
July 4th, 2018 8:37pm
Sometimes it is just better to walk away than face continual heartache! If it is meant to be they wouldn't have left you in the first place. Some people aren't ready to be in a serious relationship despite their feelings.
kindTouch2324
April 19th, 2020 8:56am
Personally I do not think it is worth trying. I think that it is obvious that the other person in the relationship has one foot out the door if not both and uses you as a comfort item. I think that after a 2nd chance a person does not deserve any more chances. Give your a heart a chance to find someone that is all in rather than a person that is halfway out and disconnected. Compare it to a pair of shoes. If shoes are super uncomfortable every time you wear them are you going to keep wearing them or get rid of them. I would let them go and find a new home.
FelixLlyod
May 21st, 2018 8:26am
Every relationship deserves chances. The important thing is how you feel. If you feel love and ready for giving another chance to your relationship then it will always worth it.
kyllas
March 27th, 2019 5:22pm
Sorry to be harsh, but I don't believe so. If they continuously are hurting you, it doesn't seem like it is worth it. It may hurt in the beginning, especially if you are used to their support in your life. However, you need to consider the long-term and how you might be permanently affected if you continue to have your heart broken. It could lessen your trust in relationships even if a new person is perfect for you. If they keep breaking up with you, then they most likely don't want to have you in a relationship, but they want to keep you in their life. Keep that in mind.
CarefreeApricot
January 31st, 2018 8:00pm
If the reasons why you broke up have changed, it's possible it may be worth it. Or maybe not. In other words, will the problems you guys had reoccur? Or do you see yourself in a deadly cycle of breaking up over and over again? Have you guys spent enough time apart to see why you guys broke up, and have one or both of you changed enough to start again? Or is the feeling of wanting to try again an impulse, which might lead to a regretful, hasty decision?
Anonymous
August 5th, 2020 12:23am
No dude, several times, I'm assuming 3-4 times. He might be playing with your emotions. Please stay away from such people, and try to work more on yourself. Instead of wasting time on him, try to focus on your ownself. It won't be easy, but will work eventually. If you think that he's the only one, then please realise that this world have about 7 billion population, you would get some or the other person. And that person would treat you right. Stay happy, don't give anyone power to mess with your mental peace. You are special and you deserve someone special.
herefory0u
July 8th, 2020 1:52pm
No, it's really not. You're wasting your time, this person is clearly messing you around, being indecisive and that's really not fair on you! Think bout your mental health and well being. You don't deserve to be left in a constant loop of uncertainty. It's not a healthy relationship if you're constantly breaking up. It's normal to have arguments now and again but to break up several times is a red flag. You deserve to be in a stable relationship were you are able to talk to each other about any problems you may have and work it out together.
AFellowPilgrim
May 31st, 2020 4:15am
If the other person broke it off several times I would think that would be the answer to your question itself. Don't pine away for someone who doesn't really want to be with you. Get out and get interested in life. Find some things that interest you where other people are also there. Take a class, volunteer, go to various types of meetings that interest you. Take an interest in other people. Ask them questions about themselves. Show yourself to be friendly. And take time to breathe and relax. Be good to yourself. Along the way you mind you may find someone special.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2018 7:33am
If that person broke up with you several times, it really means they don't have any interest in getting back with you. You shouldn't be chasing after them again and again after-all, they don't want to be in a relationship anymore so why spend precious time of your life chasing after them for something that isn't going to happen.
Lovegiver102
May 13th, 2020 1:26pm
No it's not worth fighting for. If he truly and really care about you he would have stayed with you. I understand it may be hard to leave but it may be for the best if it's hurting you. Explain to him that your relationship means more then he's giving you and end things. You may find you feel a lot better after leaving like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. It may be hard and your heart may hurt but I promise it will get better I promise things will get better for you. Because there are people that care about you
Anonymous
May 7th, 2018 12:11pm
It is not easy. Sometimes You can't even do anything. You just have to work on yourself. Don't take any quick decision. With time you'll find a better answer.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2018 7:03pm
Since you broke up several times. I guess its okay haha. If she meant breaking up with you permanently then she would not have came back, right? So you should try yes. Just do not let her break uo with you this time. Dont make mistakes. And if you think you are forcing her then do not try. She might not be interested in yiu anymore. In that case, you should not try. I hope you get that. You might try it. Love is not easy. Dating is not easy. Relation is not easy also. :( :)
CinnamonPancakes
September 13th, 2018 6:14pm
Absolutely not. From experience that person is unsure of something within themselves and therefore cannot commit to you in a relationship. It is not worth the fight to keep trying to hold on to someone that only makes you feel second best. It is difficult to leave someone like this because sometimes they are so manipulative that they make you feel like you need them in your life and they are your only option. Take it from me they are not. There are plenty fish in the sea and you deserve someone that makes you their first and only opportunity. Always look after yourself first and the right person will come along.
Elissax
October 25th, 2018 2:28am
In my experience, no, you gave it your best go, but now it is time to move on and see if you could both be happier and more stable in different relationships. Whether or not you remain freiends is entirely down to your personal and unique relationship but if it ended on bad terms or you both still feel strongly about eachother, I strongly suggest cutting off all major contact until you are both in good places and all romantic feelings have left. If you have already tried several times to make it work and it hasn’t, this is a clear sign to move on to a healthier relationship.
Ashwrites
October 26th, 2018 10:01am
Are you worth being broken up with several times? It's okay to try once, twice or even more than that for the sake of love. But afterwards it becomes clear that they have other expectations from life. You're worth someone who wants you, and tries for you. Know your worth, love yourself till you find the one who'll really choose you. If they really are the one they'll come back, you don't need to be the one pulling them back every single time. As they say, if it's yours it will come back to you. Give yourself a chance.
SadCupoTea
July 27th, 2019 4:48pm
In the end, that is solely your decision. However, based on my experience, on and off relationships are often toxic and don't have happy endings for both partners. I was in a couple unhealthy relationships where it was on and off. In the end, it drained me of my energy and took away my sense of self. The more I stayed attached to my ex-partner, the more sense of self and independence I lost. While my experience isn't the same as yours, I highly recommend moving on. It may hurt for a while, but in the long-term you will be happier.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2019 1:54pm
Honestly no, i don’t think so because once is worth another go because people can change, thrive in a relationship again but if they break up again with you multiple times you deserve better and it’s clearly not working to the best of what you both deserve. Due to the fact if they do break up with you multiple times there’s something missing in both of your parts of the relationship. But it doesn’t necessarily mean that you will always be broken up with because that’s not true, you just need to find the one person who will not break up with you
Tina167
September 7th, 2018 2:56pm
An on and off relationship is an instable relationship you need to watch out for all the other patterns of your partner and if he/she is ready to have a meaningful relationship...Life is too short to waste time over fixing a relationship if things doesn't work then believe that universe has much more better plan for you in store.Most of the times we get stuck in this situation just giving ourself the false hope that things will eventually be like it use to be the time you both started dating and above all let go anything which is causing you lack of mental peace
Anonymous
July 11th, 2019 8:42pm
It’s definitely worth trying if he or she puts the same effort into the relationship. But if there is not communication or effort into making it work you come to realization that there are plenty on people out there with very good intentions and kind hearts. Relationships aren’t meant to be on and off. When you truly love or want to be with someone you take the time to understand the problem or situation you’re currently facing. We have plenty of time in the world to continue meeting people. Mean while enjoy the beautiful world you’re living in soon you’ll see how valuable you are. Stay happy and enjoy your wonderful life!