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Is it still worth trying if he/she broke up with me several times?

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February 2nd, 2018 9:26am
I can understand why that decision would be hard for you! I would make a pro and con list for trying again, versus not trying again and see if that helps clear up the answer in your mind!
February 4th, 2018 6:53am
One thing you need to ask yourself is is he/she worth fighting for. If yes then ask yourself again what are you/him/her doing wrong that makes you go apart? If you get the answer if the two you will be able to know where you need to stand.
February 7th, 2018 9:46am
no it's not worth you should try and move on from it and try your best to be happy and to find good people in your life that can be there for you and can make you happy
February 7th, 2018 7:29pm
what made you break up several times before? there might be a pattern there, of reasons you break up over again. if the issues are not resolved then there will be no hope or things working out.
February 8th, 2018 3:26pm
No defiently not! if you love that person truly just make them realise that but don't beg before them for attention because uhh don't need to beg infront of your loved ones.
March 1st, 2018 10:43am
Honestly it depends. Reading this I think the issue is with them, not you. You can try and keep being the best you can be, keep trying to get them help and *shudders* attempt to change them if you really want to.
March 1st, 2018 5:14pm
It depends . If he/she broke up with you for pathetic reasons and broken your heart many times itโ€™s probably not worth it as you may just end up broken again in the end .
March 8th, 2018 12:32am
Not in my opinion.
April 5th, 2018 2:30am
If the relationship ended several times and it still didn't work out then that's saying that something is wrong. If you yourself still want to pursue he/she then go for it! But remember what happened previously.
April 8th, 2018 7:33am
If that person broke up with you several times, it really means they don't have any interest in getting back with you. You shouldn't be chasing after them again and again after-all, they don't want to be in a relationship anymore so why spend precious time of your life chasing after them for something that isn't going to happen.
April 11th, 2018 8:05pm
If it is a negative experience for you, I believe it is not. But you are the best judge of you. You know you better and you know that person better and you know the situation better. Follow your heart and a path of positivity.
April 12th, 2018 3:52am
If the things get better once you get back together, it's fine. Because that means you're improving your relationship and you are making good changes. If things are still the same and you are having the same problems for the ones you broke up, then it's not a healthy relationship because you are doing the same things and just hoping not to break up.
April 12th, 2018 9:21pm
With a relationship that is on and off on several occasions, it would be best to discern why this keeps happening. Are they the same reasons? Are problems not being fixed? Also, trying to understand why your partner is doing this rather than working things out is a key. Are they insecure and afraid? Are they using this as a scare tactic to get out of trouble with you? These things can only be answered by you and should be examined before you make a choice. Remember, if you aren't sure because you have many feelings, ask yourself "If my best friend was in this situation, what would I tell them?"
April 13th, 2018 4:56pm
Honestly no because if the person has already broken your heart one to many times they are going to keep doing it...
April 15th, 2018 6:04pm
No. Clearly there is something lacking between you two, something that isn't clicking or you just have different personalities
April 18th, 2018 11:41pm
I've broken up with people several times before. I did it because I was confused about my feelings and didn't feel that the other person did enough to keep me which made me feel unwanted almost. If you want to keep the relationship going then you need to ask what the reason is for the multiple break ups, try to be completely honest about your feelings and what could possibly be going wrong. Just remember to respect yourself and try and get a realistic view on it, sometimes it's better to rip the band-aid off, let go and move on to save yourself from a prolonged struggle. Most importantly, I guess it all depends on the individual case and it's up to you 100% to decide what you do next.
April 19th, 2018 2:37am
I would ask myself if it's always the same reason? I think that's a think to consider. It depends really. You know best. Maybe you can talk about it with a listener to make you feel more clear about the situation.
April 24th, 2018 8:15pm
In my opinion it isn't but that's a decision you'll have to make on your own. Do you really want to put yourself through that again?
April 25th, 2018 5:46pm
this is what i myself am going through and its suckssss but what i did was i talked to him like a deep conversation stating what we want outta the relationship if it will be different. and just went from there
April 29th, 2018 6:39am
Depends on what reasons you guys had for the breakup. If it was an on off dating kind of thing get closure from her and ask yourself if you love her enough to try one more time. If you don't think your feelings are strong or if your reasons for break ups were quite bad, I suggest moving on.
May 10th, 2018 2:29am
It has been my experience with on/off again relationships that they're never really going to be stable. The broken nature of the relationship is often because one or more of the people involved aren't invested in the relationship. Why keep going back to someone you know is going to keep breaking your heart?
May 12th, 2018 8:13am
Depending on how it ended each time. Whether it was ugly or relatively mutual. Maybe if it has happened several times, it may be best to try and see how life without them would be
May 20th, 2018 12:24am
Probably not. As much as you may hate it, you can't force someone to love you. Just know that there are plenty of people out there that will love you as much as you love them. Don't waste your time waiting for something that will never happen. You deserve to be happy.
June 20th, 2018 2:48am
Every situation is different and I.T is important to look at the reasons why this consistently happens. I can't imagine that the relationship is super healthy if the break ups are consistent. I.T may be best to give yourself some space and listen to your gut.
June 21st, 2018 4:15am
In my opinion, it is not worth trying. The fact that they broke up with you several times is proof enough that they do not appreciate you and take you for granted, and chances of them breaking up with you again are high.
June 27th, 2018 5:56am
First of all, to know if it worth trying or not, well try to remember what are some of the reasons used for breakups? In my opinion, if the breakups often happen between you two for the silliest reason ๐Ÿ˜‚ then you might consider to put a full stop there.
June 27th, 2018 3:45pm
A good place to start when this question arises is to ask "why did he/she break up with me so many times?". Both people usually contribute to conflict in a relationship but sometimes the other person is just not in the right mindset to be able to love us the way we deserve to be loved. If you find that you were the main reason for the break up, focus on fixing those aspects before you try to make the relationship work. However if his/her reasons for the break up are related to them alone and it is not within your control, perhaps it is best to be thankful for the good times but to ultimately let go of them. Do what is best for your heart, and stay true to the needs of your soul. I wish you all the best xx
June 30th, 2018 2:18am
No. You deserve better and shouldn't keep going through that. They obviously don't appreciate you. You will find someone much better ^^
June 30th, 2018 4:02am
I'm going to be very bias here and very "me" and maybe even ubprofessional... but no! It is not worth trying again. Beside my own experiences, there have been hundreds of other relationships that struggles and struggle simply because there is an ignoring of what really needs to be done that would be absolutely best for both people involved. Yes, it feels romantic that whole "try and try and try again" but think about what everything is actually telling you. What your PARTNER is telling you. Believe them when they say they "don't know anymore" or anything that indicates they're not really there for you anymore. You know what's romantic? Ease. Happiness. Togetherness. Being on the same wavelength. Etc. And, yes... it is absolutely exists outside of the relationship you're in right now as hard as may be to fathom. Give your effort to someone who wants it... and who wants to give it to you, too.
July 4th, 2018 8:37pm
Sometimes it is just better to walk away than face continual heartache! If it is meant to be they wouldn't have left you in the first place. Some people aren't ready to be in a serious relationship despite their feelings.