it’s been 4 months now since my ex and i broke up, ive been through a lot of grieving that I can’t cry anymore ive embraced the pain and when i attempt to accept things my heart burns and resist why?

It has only been 4 months, you are still healing.. The important point is that you are willing to move forward and to heal..Know that you have given the 110% in whatever you did and thats what matters..Whether it worked out or not is not in your hands..Let it go to achieve better..All the best..

Grief for a relationship is a very real and painful experience. I feel for you, having been through many break ups myself. In my experience, it takes time and a lot of self-love to reach a point where you can find acceptance of the relationship ending and the pain can lessen. Our hearts and brains will do everything they can to hold on to what we have lost, because that's how human attachment works, psychologically - the power of love is very strong. Even in cases where we know the relationship ending is for the best. You will get there - be kind to yourself for the pain you feel - you're clearly very strong for pushing onwards like you have already.

The grieving has come to be a natural part of your life, and an intense reaction, like crying, is no longer forfeited. But at the same time, you are holding to the memories you shared, and the person that he was. You wish what you had in the past would return, but when you see the real world proving otherwise, you are still hurt. You still do not feel prepared to move on. You still wish for him to spend time with you. Do not see your relationship with him as a time that was beautiful, but died out, but rather like a time where you have learned more about yourself and him and had the chance to meet him to bless you with beautiful memories. Memories will exist, but they must be cherished for what they were before an unfortunate event, not shifted by our negative perception afterwards.