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Me and this guy where Hooking up for seven months and six months ago he tells me he loves me and then calls this all off. Why? I catch him staring at me when i am at stores he shows up at but wont say

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Last Updated: 09/08/2020 at 12:52pm
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September 3rd, 2018 2:52pm
He calls it off? Maybe he is nervous about taking it farther. I would talk to him or try to reach out about it. He maybe scared about what the future holds for the both of you. Or maybe he had a change of mind about you but remember you are perfect and do not need to change a bit. At the stores, I would try to approach him if you are comfortable or if not, just ignore him and tell yourself that you are good enough. You don’t need to change for anyone and you never do. Trust me.
December 18th, 2018 9:20pm
Sometimes people do unexpected things, behave in surprising ways. It seems like the guy you've written to us about did something you didn't expect. It's always hard to understand why someone does something and sometimes there are complex reasons. I like to believe everything happens for a reason. Perhaps there's a reason he called it off. This reason might seem clear to you in the near future. Maybe, for now, this entire situation is meant to teach you a lesson. I believe that unexpected things that happen to us are always meant to teach us something- either about ourselves or about others. For now, I suggest you wait patiently and use this time to discover yourself.
February 11th, 2020 9:39am
The question would be what happened in his life lately that might have caused the breakup. There might have been a big change in his life to make a drastic decision. Try talking to him if your not sure to find out. Best to find things out from the source.
September 8th, 2020 12:52pm
Maybe he has commitment issues? There is a possibility when people despite having strong feelings for each other are not able to get into a committed relationship and therefore distance themselves apart. This can be due to his horrible dating experience in the past. Maybe, if possible, talk with him out on what he thinks about you two in general and why is it that he thinks the option of calling it off will be better than getting along into this relation when both of you live each other. PS: Don't try to push the conversation too hard as it will do more damage than good.