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My Boyfriend left me in the past for his EX. Him and I got back together and now even though he left me and came back I feel scared that he will do it again. Is it normal for me to feel scared?

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Last Updated: 10/27/2020 at 4:00pm
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June 4th, 2018 4:35am
You have an experience which gives you good reason to doubt what the future holds, so yes it is absolutely ok to feel scared. It is important to work through this fear by building trust with your partner, and this involves acknowledging the effect past events have had and working toward creating a new dynamic, such that you can feel secure in the knowledge that they will not hurt you again.
July 2nd, 2018 8:24am
Trust is hard to earn and once it is broken it will take a long time to achieve it back. In this case your bf has broken your trust and to earn it back he will have to prove to you that he will not leave you again.
August 14th, 2018 6:26pm
It's completely normal for you to feel scared, but you went through this once, so you'll be more experienced this time, still, try to trust him this time, perhaps he realized his mistake & he truly loves you. I'm pretty sure you'll be okay!
April 13th, 2020 2:29pm
It is okay for you to feel scared. That is normal. You’re worried about him leaving. It is perfectly fine to feel this way. It’s just how you react to things. You shouldn’t worry about whether your reaction is normal or not. Every person is different, and every person reacts differently. I understand how you feel, I was in the exact same situation once. It is hard to know if he is going to leave again. It’s actually not really possible to know without invading his privacy. But if he does, he did it because he couldn’t realize how amazing you are. It’s perfectly normal to feel that way, but sometimes there isn’t anything we can do about it.
June 9th, 2020 8:08pm
Yes, it is okay to feel scared. But trust can be re-build step by step. It is always good to focus on working on your inner stability and balance by practicing meditation, yoga and other selc care techniques to stay connected with yourself. It creates stable ground for any kind of relationships.
October 27th, 2020 4:00pm
Yes, it's a normal feeling. I would be scared to trust anyone again too. You have a kind heart to give them another chance or you love them too much to ignore such mistakes. Still, I would think it through before jumping back in. That shouldn't happen again. A person shouldn't jump from one relationship to another based on a hunch. It cause immense pain to the other person. It lowers their self confidence. If someone is doing that, they don't know themselves well and they need to figure it out. You shouldn't settle for someone like that and ask them to be sure if they want in, or just need timepass.