My boyfriend of 14+ years broke up with me two years ago. I justemailed him suggesting we try to be friends and talk. He said he was "busy and conflicted and wasn't ready to talk." What should I do?
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Last Updated: 07/28/2020 at 7:06pm
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Respect his feelings, and let it go. Sometimes we are able to be friends with past boy/girlfriends, but other times it is not possible. He is clearly not ready to establish a friendship, and that should be respected.
Anonymous
July 28th, 2020 7:06pm
Some people just need space or they don't feel comfortable just yet. Ask yourself what is the true nature of your email. Do you really want to be friends with him or are you also conflicted? Take this time to reflect on yourself and find the answers within yourself. Perhaps being his friend is not good for either or you at the moment. I have dealt with a similar situation. It took about 4 years for me to be comfortable with my ex and it took him a little longer than that. People are different. There might still be some feelings lurking around and that's ok. Give it some time. Also, do not feel bad if this person does not want to talk to you. Your are stronger than you know
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