My boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on me, should we break up?
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Anonymous
November 20th, 2015 8:58am
It depends on the situation. There is no clear answer for this either way. You would have to talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend, see if there is something that could be salvaged, if not sometimes some things need to end, if that is the case focus on yourself and grow from the experience.
Anonymous
November 21st, 2015 3:17pm
If he has a genuine reason to be apologetic, talk it out. Else, realize you deserve so much better. :)
Yes. Whats the point of a relationship when you lack the fundamental basis to one - trust. You will constantly be paranoid and just the thought of him/her being with someone else will drive you completely insane. There are ppl out there who will genuinely appreciate you for who you are :)
Anonymous
November 25th, 2015 1:58am
It all depend on how you feel about the situation.. Only you will know if you can for five or move on..it's never easy being cheated on, have some time for yourself and think about it before jumping into a decision
Anonymous
November 25th, 2015 3:28pm
Talk with him/her first. Can you get back together. It is all your choice. Listen to your heart but also your brain.
Anonymous
November 26th, 2015 8:10am
Yes .... i would say break uo but if u really love him/her and he/she feel sorry give them a chance
I think you should talk with your BF/GF, then you will decide, for yourself, if you continue or break up
It is most likely that you are in a dysfunctional relationship if your partner has cheated on you. Recovery from betrayal is hard and it will take more work than ever before.
before breaking up with them. just listen to yourself, what you want to do. if you are unsure just give him/her a chance till you take a decision.
I don't think so necessarily if you really love the person. I had the same thing happen. I was cheated on and they broke up with me out of guilt. If you establish your patience and really care, I think you don't necessarily have to break up. The problem should be addressed through.
it depends on the reason he/she cheated , if you do love your partner you should give him/her another chance to fix problems between you both.
There's a reason why things happen. You guys should talk first. Ask why did that happened, what's wrong in your relationship, did you missed something for him/her to look for that on another person. Never let your emotions decide on it. Yes, heart is to be followed, however, we have our minds. It is there for a reason. It will help us decide on something for us not to regret. You got into that relationship, with the risk. Now you have to take another risk for it not to be wasted. Remember, it is hard to be cheated on. But it is harder to leave the person who used to be your best friend, play mate, and a family to you.
Anonymous
November 29th, 2015 5:20pm
It is very difficult to say this but despite the amount of feeling you have for that person, you deserve someone who will love you and only you.
The answer is depends on you, can you believe in your partner after you found out that she/he cheated on you. If you can, that's mean you still have feelings for them so make your relationship more strong, but if you can't trust them break up and find the better person for you
I think that all depends on you. If you are capable in overcoming the fact that you were cheated on then, there might still be hope. But if it's something you won't be able to move past or question faithfulness, I think it might be best to move on.
Yes you should break up because they chose to choose someone else over you. They could do it again if you forgive them.
It depends. How do you feel? How does he/she feel? People commit mistakes. Are you able to forgive? Can you still trust this person? :)
Anonymous
December 4th, 2015 5:01pm
well the best thing to do when a guy or girl cheats on you with someone else is to end the relationship move on , forget them and look for someone who cares about you .
Anonymous
December 4th, 2015 6:05pm
That is something only you can decide. You have to take into consideration may factors here. Do you think they will do it again? Or you ready to take the risk? But in the end it is important you do whatever you feel deep inside is best for you!
Anonymous
December 6th, 2015 11:04pm
You deserve a person who is NOT going to cheat on you. Someone who is going to be loyal no matter what and there is no excuse for cheating. Sadly, most people do not change over night and I doubt this person who cheated is an exception. If you want to be with someone who doesn't treat you like you deserve and stay loyal, than you can stay with this person. However, personally I think you should break up and do better. For all you know, you are missing the opportunity to find a guy who will always stay faithful. Yes, breakups are awful and scary, but through doing this you will gain confidence in yourself and self pride for standing up and going after something you deserve.
discuss it with them, find what you both agree on and take it from there, its not up to anyone else but the both of you to decide if you should be together or not
If you can still trust them and they are willing to become better! Don't otherwise yea definitely!/it might hurt but it will be worth it
Definitely have an honest conversation with your partner - every situation is different. There is no one-size-fits-all answer for this kind of thing.
Calm down and talk to each other before making any decision. It could be for real or it could be a misunderstanding but whatever it is, it is best to talk calmly. No matter what happens, life is always a learning curve.
think what do you want really.U know better wht is right for you.I will help u to go with your path.
You should think about the root reasons about why did they cheat on you. You can directly talk to them about this and show them that you have affection for them. Hopefully you will get your answer.
You should listen to what they have to say first. Look into your heart, don't just ask a stranger for the answer. It all depends on your relationship.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 8:33am
I think it's be best to talk to them before taking any action first. There's a possibility there's another story to it. Maybe you think he/she's cheating but actually he/she hasn't been. It's always better to clarify first. If he/she is indeed cheating, then I guess.... breaking up might be a good option. It's hard getting over it for sure cause you were probably very committed to that relationship, but relationships are two-way. If they're one-way on your part, you'll just end up hurting more. Definitely apply it to your situation before taking this advice :)
Talk about why it happened in the first place before you proceed. There must be a reason behind the action. If it's a habit then, donit for your own sanity
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 2:43pm
I talked about it to my boyfriend and we soughted it out so I didnt have to break up with him and we were both friends again
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