My boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on me, should we break up?
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That is entirely up to you. No one can tell you if you should besides yourself. It can be hard to continue to be with someone who has cheated on you. It is hard to be with someone who betrayed you the way that you did. If you can work past it and you want to work past it, than you don't need to break up. But if you do not think that you two will be able to work everything out, you may want to consider breaking up.
I think it depends on if you think you can forgive and trust them again because otherwise you are going to get hurt.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 1:08pm
yes, he or she doesnt worth you , you worth someone who see you indispensable and un replaceable. the world is full for others guys and girls and there must be a one who can see you like that
however, you fist must see yourself so worthy and those who bothers your dont desire you. not desire even to think of them or to loss some of your tears because of them
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 2:34pm
Yes. Someone else will make you happy and will love you for who you are. Don't let them back into your life
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 5:36pm
If your partner seems sincerely sorry, I always believe in second chances. Especially if they were honest with you about cheating.
Have you talked about the affair with your partner? Find out whether your partner is really sorry for his or her actions before considering a break up
Yes, Once a cheater always a cheater, Sometimes you just have to give yourself th benefirt of the doubt.
It all depends. How long have you been with this person? Were they in their right mind? Had you just gotten into an argument? There are many factors that play in that situation.
I myself have a boyfriend of two years. My boyfriend proved to me that he was sorry and has earned my trust back.
Although many people believe you should break up after he/she cheats in my opinion, if you believe they will change then you can give them a chance. But if they cannot stay loyal to you after that I believe they are not good to you and will end up hurting you.
If they can earn your trust again then I believe you have a chance in your relationship
Even though your significant other cheated on you this doesn't necissaily mean you have to break up. Cheating a bad thing but if both of you can communicate and if you can truely forgive them and you think that it is worth it then go ahead and stay together. But cheating does make you hurt and like many other people, you can break up with them.
This is a very tricky question and depends on personal circumstances. Cheating is hard but if you feel the relationship is worth fighting for are able to come through it and trust your partner then throwing something away isn't a good idea.
However if you feel too hurt and don't think you are able to come back from this then maybe going your separate ways would be best.
It all depends on your personal relationship.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 12:23pm
If you love the person it should help guide you on what path you should take. If your cheating partner shows no signs of changing or being sorry, you should breakup. But if you feel inside you can trust the person again in the long run, then you shouldn't. This is a big decision that you should decide on your own. Follow your instincts. Don't feel the need to stay with the person just because you fear being alone. There are so many people out there that won't cheat on you and could potentially be a better boyfriend/girlfriend.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:34pm
Cheating on someone is never okay, if someone cheats on you it means that for a split second they weren't thinking about your feelings. You deserve better
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 1:59am
It depends on how intimate you two were. If it's possible for you two to talk it out by yourselves, figure out why it happened then go for it. If that isn't an option, try therapy, and if that doesn't work, maybe you two weren't meant to be.
It depends. Do you want and can you forgive her? Is it worth it? If so, make a new start and be happy. If not, break up.
Definitely. Once a cheater always a cheater. Plus I don't think you can love two persons at the same time.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 4:56pm
It really depends do you think you can have a chance with this relationship or you think you should see other people it's up to you.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 7:55am
I would say in this situation, you should break up with that guy. Because, if you will not do this, you can't be happy in your life.
The best thing to do is talk through the situation and decide on whether you can trust that person enough to go forward. Always do what makes you happy, do not follow through with something if you are unhappy or unsure.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 6:57am
Yes. You deserve better than that, especially is you have given him/her more than one chance. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Not necessarly. maybe you can both sit down and talk about what happen to see if there is anyway of forgiving each other to move your relationship futher
Yes you should. A cheating partner will always cheat no matter how many chances you give them. Only 1/15 second chances work out
ask your self what you want, talk each other about the reason why he\she cheated on you. take your time , forgivness is always the hardest part
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 2:46am
You should talk it first. But if he or she cheated again, then make a move. Its stupidity if you consider it again
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 3:56am
My answer is yes, because they might take it to advantage that you didn't break up with them the first time you cheated, so they might cheat again; knowing you're not going to break up.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 12:56pm
First, you should have an honest conversation. Forgive, but don't forget.
You deserve so much better.
In this type of situation it is completely up to you. Once your significant other cheats it's really hard for them to earn your trust back. But, if you want to be with this person and you are willing to work through it with them then, do just that. Good luck! :)
If you feel that you two can't recover from it, then the relationship should end. If you're willing to work it out with your partner and try trusting them again, you should do what's best for you and take baby steps
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 4:24pm
Well i think breaking up is not the solution. Until you know that he is acutally really sorry for what he/she did. If they are asking for a second chance and really loves you. Then you should give it to them
That all depends on how you feel about the situation.
Honesty and trust are one of the most important things to have in a relationship - along with communication. If you have a feeling that he / she can't be trusted or honest with you, then that will probably hurt you even more in the end.
Sometimes cheating can be worked out - everyone makes mistakes. But if it's brought up later on in a fight or a repeat action, it could become unhealthy.
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