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My boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on me, should we break up?

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December 30th, 2015 12:23pm
If you love the person it should help guide you on what path you should take. If your cheating partner shows no signs of changing or being sorry, you should breakup. But if you feel inside you can trust the person again in the long run, then you shouldn't. This is a big decision that you should decide on your own. Follow your instincts. Don't feel the need to stay with the person just because you fear being alone. There are so many people out there that won't cheat on you and could potentially be a better boyfriend/girlfriend.
December 30th, 2015 6:34pm
Cheating on someone is never okay, if someone cheats on you it means that for a split second they weren't thinking about your feelings. You deserve better
December 31st, 2015 1:59am
It depends on how intimate you two were. If it's possible for you two to talk it out by yourselves, figure out why it happened then go for it. If that isn't an option, try therapy, and if that doesn't work, maybe you two weren't meant to be.
December 31st, 2015 8:55am
It depends. Do you want and can you forgive her? Is it worth it? If so, make a new start and be happy. If not, break up.
December 31st, 2015 3:43pm
Definitely. Once a cheater always a cheater. Plus I don't think you can love two persons at the same time.
December 31st, 2015 4:56pm
It really depends do you think you can have a chance with this relationship or you think you should see other people it's up to you.
January 1st, 2016 7:55am
I would say in this situation, you should break up with that guy. Because, if you will not do this, you can't be happy in your life.
January 1st, 2016 12:56pm
The best thing to do is talk through the situation and decide on whether you can trust that person enough to go forward. Always do what makes you happy, do not follow through with something if you are unhappy or unsure.
January 1st, 2016 5:24pm
That all depends on why they did it and how much you trust them. I would usually say yes unless there are very specific circumstances.
January 3rd, 2016 6:57am
Yes. You deserve better than that, especially is you have given him/her more than one chance. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
January 3rd, 2016 6:59am
Not necessarly. maybe you can both sit down and talk about what happen to see if there is anyway of forgiving each other to move your relationship futher
January 3rd, 2016 10:11am
Yes you should. A cheating partner will always cheat no matter how many chances you give them. Only 1/15 second chances work out
January 3rd, 2016 3:56pm
ask your self what you want, talk each other about the reason why he\she cheated on you. take your time , forgivness is always the hardest part
January 6th, 2016 2:46am
You should talk it first. But if he or she cheated again, then make a move. Its stupidity if you consider it again
January 6th, 2016 3:56am
My answer is yes, because they might take it to advantage that you didn't break up with them the first time you cheated, so they might cheat again; knowing you're not going to break up.
January 6th, 2016 12:56pm
First, you should have an honest conversation. Forgive, but don't forget. You deserve so much better.
January 7th, 2016 4:37am
In this type of situation it is completely up to you. Once your significant other cheats it's really hard for them to earn your trust back. But, if you want to be with this person and you are willing to work through it with them then, do just that. Good luck! :)
January 7th, 2016 7:35am
If you feel that you two can't recover from it, then the relationship should end. If you're willing to work it out with your partner and try trusting them again, you should do what's best for you and take baby steps
January 7th, 2016 4:24pm
Well i think breaking up is not the solution. Until you know that he is acutally really sorry for what he/she did. If they are asking for a second chance and really loves you. Then you should give it to them
January 8th, 2016 1:30am
That all depends on how you feel about the situation. Honesty and trust are one of the most important things to have in a relationship - along with communication. If you have a feeling that he / she can't be trusted or honest with you, then that will probably hurt you even more in the end. Sometimes cheating can be worked out - everyone makes mistakes. But if it's brought up later on in a fight or a repeat action, it could become unhealthy.
January 8th, 2016 2:50am
That would be entirely your decision I cant make that for you. It's something you will have to decide on
January 8th, 2016 5:26pm
Yes, you should.If they did it once, they would do it again.A relationship is based on mutual respect above all else and if they have cheated on you it means they don't respect you enough.
January 8th, 2016 8:00pm
Depends on your situation. If you are willing to work with them and still love them, there is no reason to break up, but maybe a break is needed.
January 9th, 2016 3:42am
This always depends on the type of your relationship and your personal feelings. I think there is no defnitly answer to this question. But you should defnitly speak with your partner about the incident.
January 9th, 2016 4:19am
I believe you should. Absolutely no one is worth being disrespected and deserves to feel that way. There is always someone who will treat you better!
January 9th, 2016 10:51am
a relationship is a bond or a link made with trust once its broken you have lost the relationship theirs no meaning of braking up after that
January 9th, 2016 10:58am
I think you need to double check, maybe triple check, that that's what exactly happened. After that, talk it through and decide what is best for you
January 9th, 2016 1:56pm
There is no general rule, because it depends on so many things. Every situation is unique, every relationship is unique, every love is unique. So There is no should. It is a betrayal of your confidence, yes, but the why's, the how"s, and everything else matters immensely. So talk about it, and think about it sincerely within yourself, and whatever decision you end up with is okay. Forgiveness is not weakness, and breaking up is not coldness or hard-heartedness. Just make sure the decision is comming from within you, and that you"ve taken the time to listen to your partner. Be kind. Be empathetic. And Love and value yourself.
January 9th, 2016 4:19pm
Yes, cheating is never accepted and if you forgive one time it might happen again, even when it does not the feeling of trust if lost forever.
January 9th, 2016 5:01pm
Sadly, absolutely. Once the trust is gone from a relationship there's only the slimmest chance in the best relationships that it'll return. It'll be a hard lesson to learn but prolonging the relationship otherwise will only lead to more suffering in the long term.