My boyfriend or girlfriend wants to break up with me, how can I change their mind?
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You can talk to them about how you feel. At the end of the day, it's their decision. You are strong, and can take care of yourself.
You can't. You can talk to them and try and come to an understanding with them, try and compromise with them and see if they are willing to give you another shot but if someone has made up their mind, you can't change it. You can accept it and although you will be upset and hurt by splitting up, you won't feel that way forever.
Ultimately, you can't. Accept the choices they made, they will have to move on and live with them. If it's meant to be they will come back. If you love something, let it go, if it comes back, it's yours. The same can be applied to people. Be at peace with yourself and with them. If they jump ship and never return, it's their loss.
Alas, you cannot. The only person you can act upon is yourself. Try to understand how this situation developed. Focus on yourself and try to revive the very person that he/she fell in love with that is still within you.
look for your expectations with you. give love and support as well as care. find out reason why they want break up and if you really want him/ her back try to make them happy if possible
I think the first question would be, do you really want to change their mind? Relationships can be tough but it's important to look at things from different angles and perspectives. Was this a healthy relationship? Do both parties still very much maintain in interest in wanting to pursue the relationship? There are many aspects of a relationship and before you fight so hard to salvage, you need to look deeper to determine if it should be.
Speak to them find out what is the reasoning behind their urge to break up, this way I can fully understand how they feel which makes it easier to discuss matters and possibly clear up any misunderstood information. after clearing the air of any miscommunication, if there was any ill treatment or wrong doing on my behalf a truly heartfelt apology can work wonders. If these don't seem to work at first then I would give them a bit of space to clear their minds calm their hearts and think about what I've said in my apology and how i would have cleared up any misinformation then speak to them again starting the conversation very light and avoiding any heavy emotional conversation unless they bring it up.
You may have to try understanding why your girlfriend/boyfriend wants to break up and discuss solutions by working together harmoniously. If they do not want to fix things however and as hard as it might be, you have to allow them that space to consider if the relationship is worth fighting for or not.
You be respect and love them regardless, and respect their decision. Be mature and just show them how much you love them and Im sure they will realise it themselves. Don't worry bro if she really loves you and is worth it, she will stay trust me. There were a Million times i thought my girlfriend was going to be leave me, but she truly loves me and we are still together
Try talking with him/her. Make him/her realise what he/she will lose if you will break up. :) explain that you both won't be talking again, won't be meeting, experiencing those good moments together, or won't share secrets, it all will be just gone.
It's really hard to do so, make sure you don't lose yourself trying to please them
I think contemplating why you want to be with someone who does not want to be with you is a better use of time than changing another's mind.
Think about if the relationship is really worth holding on to? Whether the problems have arisen due to a stressful lifestyle? How much work the two of you had to put in to make it work? Sit down and talk. Be honest with your partner, and ask them why they want to break up. Acknowledge their feelings and start from the beginning. Be calm, be strong. Don't be the person your partner wants you to be, show your genuine side. Give each other some space. If it still doesn't work then he's just not the one. Good luck!
The best thing you can do is just talk to them. You'll hear people tell you to give 100% and it feels like you already are so I would say to give 110%. That 10% is you going to talk to them one last time to see if it's possible to stay together. If it works, then cherish that relationship correctly. If not, hold your head up high and just know you tried and be proud of yourself.
Sweetheart, speaking from experience, if they want to end the relationship for whatever reason, let them. Don't force anything that no longer wants to happen. Try your hardest to work on resolving whatever the issue is but don't force anything to happen. What is meant to be, will be. If they love you they will always want you. No excuses.
It's never a good idea to try to change someone's mind - the power dynamic will always be slightly skewed from then on if this happens. It is better to be loved by someone who actively wants to be with you, than to try to make someone stay when they might not be able to give you what you need. It is better for both of you, and the relationship, to allow people to stay and go as they want to. :)
Talk to him about what went wrong in the relationship. How you two can improve it. Just try communicating with him. with an open mind. I would be more than happy to be a mediator if you two need one
If its a true love for you, you shouldn't have to do anything other than be yourself and love sincerely
When your girlfriend or boyfriend wants to break up with you, then you can't make them stay. Every one in this planeet is free. You shouldn't change their mind. There are ways to fix the problems in a relationship, but no way to change someone's mind.
You can talk to them to understand why they are making the decision and ask if there is anything you could do differently. Other than that, there is not much you can do. It's painful - but clinging to someone who doesn't want to be in a relationship feels even worse.
To be honest, in my opinion their mind cannot be changed if they have reason for break up. Unfortunately if partner wants break up, it means he/she doesn't see future for that relationship. I think you should get to know real motive for their thoughts about ending relationship. Sometimes your partner might feel overwhelmed with problems and wish to sort out them by their own. In that case he/she maybe needs only more space and time. Just make sure what your partner wants and make sure you know why.
We cannot force people to love us, no matter how much we want them to, or how much we love them. Trying to change their mind sounds like effort you should not have to force into the relationship. If a person wants to break up with you, no matter how much you have done for them, you have to ask yourself: is it really worth staying with them anyway if they're going to treat me like this? It is important to remember, however, it isn't your fault. People change, as will you. It will get easier.
You shouldn't try to change their mind. If they wanted to break up with you and then stay they won't exact have the same spark they had in the beginning
If someone wanted to break up with me then I would let them because why would I date someone who didn't want to date me. But, if you really love this person then you need to have a serious conversation with them about how you can make the relationship work.
You shouldn't have to change their mind. If they really care about you they wouldn't want to leave you.
You can never make anyone change their mind, but you can remind them of why you're together in the first place.
It's not your job to change their mind. If they want to break up, its their choice. If they wanted to be with you, they would stay
Do you really want to change their mind? There must be a reason why he/she wants to break up. Try to find out why you relationship is struggling and talk to your partner about ways to improve things. Sometimes there are little things that irritate your partner and when they sum up it might be hard to find a way back to look at the person you fell in love with.
i think you need to tell them how you feel and explain your side of the story. be patient and give them time
I don't think it's right to change their mind. It's not right to force someone into a relationship that they don't want to be in. If you guys aren't meant to be then that's just it
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