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My boyfriend sent nudes to a girl while we were dating, but it was the first day. I left him for 3 months and he's changed a lot, i still love him. Should we get back together?

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Last Updated: 06/06/2022 at 8:40am
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Top Rated Answers
generousRabbit93
July 31st, 2018 5:51am
it was one mistake and if he has shown he did change maybe give him a chance and see how it goes because you never know
Mountain14
August 13th, 2018 3:26am
You should make sure that he changed. Actions worth more than words. But also, don't be controlling.
Anonymous
May 11th, 2020 4:01pm
I can not tell you to get back together with him or not, but what I can tell is that this is your decision. If you think he has changed into the better person you want him to be and you still love him and want to be with him; get back together with him. It is important to listen to what your own heart says. What I can tell you is that this might be something you would want to talk through with him, so you both can understand the sides of the situations. And also keep in mind that everyone makes mistakes.
Haboo
July 13th, 2020 7:25am
The sad answer is that he probably has not changed, especially not in the tiny span of 3 months. It's hard to say what you SHOULD or SHOULDN'T do, because it's really based on how much you can actually bring yourself to trust him and how much heartbreak you're willing to endure. But I will say, if you try to get back together, there is a chance that it will work out, but there's a very good chance that you're just going to get your heart broken. If you want to take that chance, then god speed my friend. I wish the best for you.
Latika01
December 29th, 2020 5:45am
This is a sensitive topic it all comes down to whether you believe you can trust him or not. Sit down and listen to both your heart and mind, before making your decision. So that way you won't regret anything later. Also sit him down for a one on one conversation, share your thoughts and feelings with him on the matter and observe how he reacts, If hr is understanding and open with you as well take that into consideration. However, if he seems dismissive of the situation or your feelings as a whole then I would suggest taking a step back.
allofaavacado
April 13th, 2021 7:11pm
That’s wonderful if he’s changed but sometimes people may seem like they have changed but haven’t, when we are interested in someone we only show the at versions of ourselves. I’m sorry that he hurt you and it upset you. Can you trust him again?! A relationship is nothing without trust, you will get in your own head and upset yourself regularly if there is no trust there, even when he has done nothing you will still doubt him if you can’t forgive and forget. Love is not always enough, trust is important. I hope you make the right decision for you and find happiness.
bubblyDeer475
June 6th, 2022 8:40am
if i were in your shoes i would not get back into that situation. however people can change and if theres solid proof he is changed and won't hurt you again and if it will make you happy if you were back together then go for it! as soon as you see a red flag i would say be cautious, don't let him walk over you again, you deserve happiness and i hope you find it. whether thats with this person or not. good luck, whatever you decide. and make sure you think about how it made you feel when it happened, and if you would like to feel like that again (encase he does something again).