My boyfriend told me he hooked up with someone else when we were on a break.

Ask your boyfriend politely what he would like to do and what he would like to say. Engage in a conversation calming then after he talks, you make your decision.

It is not loyal of your boyfriend to do this, yet at least he is being honest to you and telling you the truth. When on a break, it can be hard to resist others.

You were on break, to me that is completely acceptable since you guys were no longer together at the time.

Think about how you feel now? You might feel betrayed or maybe not even trust him anymore. Think to yourself is this a relationship you want to work on or if you want to end it.

Breakup period is what we call realization period, it is a period when we have to think about ourselves. Breakup period is a period that we're very vulnerable. If you have been told that he hookup with someone you need time to cast forgiveness. Don't rush! Think before you cast forgiveness

It might be common for few people but Some may mind it. So it differs from person to person, society to society and culture to culture. If you think it's normal then don't let him go because it was during break up and if you don't think its normal for you then you need to take a better decision.

I do not suggest getting back together with him. Did you think this was okay? If no, he broke your trust. That's all there is to it.

The response to that action is a personal choice. Some people will accept that as an excuse and some won't. It's your personal choice.

It is okay. You two were on a break, that is not considered cheating. If he is still with that person when you're trying to be with him, then that is the problem.

You two were technically on break, with that it doesn't mean you two are together but are giving each other space about the relationship you two use to be in. If he found the answer to you two during that break then honestly you should be happy for him and know that there's someone out there for you.

Well, to him you guys were on a break. Which means you two were not together. was the break initiated by him or you? He may have felt it was a breakup while you felt it was a chance to reevaluate your relationship. Talk to each other before making any big decisions.

I think if its worth it, then you should have a serious talk with your boyfriend as to what does he think of this relationship and where does he want to take it. He needs to be clear about his feelings towards you.

Talk to him about it, and see why he did it. He may have been upset about the breakup and found comfort with someone else. This is by no means an excuse, but if he seems genuinely sorry about it then that shows that he cares. And if it was out of character for him, you might want to try to forgive him (although don't feel like you have to).

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Best thing to do is to confront your boyfriend without a fight. Ask him what caused him to do so, understand the story from his perspective and mention your feelings. It's up to you to decide what to do next. Choose what's best for you, not for him.

This feeling sucks. At least he has been honest. Ask yourself what you are more upset about: that you didn't hook up with someone else at the same time, or that he came back to you, or that he told you about it. If you know what makes you most upset, you can find ways to cope with the situation.

If you were on a break, your relationship was on hold. If you didn't define the break beforehand, it's possible that he could've interpreted it as a breakup. As long as you are not afraid of him cheating when you're in a relationship, it should be something taken with a grain of salt.

I would have to do a lot of thinking, ask for friends' opinions and maybe even do a pro and con list to figure out if I could let it go and move on or not

This is a very difficult statement when it comes to people finding others because of their interest. It's painful to deal with and to contend with when you hear someone tell you to your face that they did find someone else. Makes you wonder exactly what it is that caused him or her to go in the direction they chose. It is very hard once again for me to truly answer this without bringing my own self-esteem down.

If you were on a break tht oesn't mean you weren't together and theremust of been a reason for the break so he should of repected that when he hooked up with someone

Well how do you feel about that? If he would do that again you may think about your relationship twice but if that’s not going to happen again, it might not be that bad? Still it is also very important that he told you what he did. That would mean he trusts you.

If you were on break you can't say he cheated but you should evaluate the situation and if he's good for you.

I know that even though you might know that it was a break and you shouldn’t be hurt, but you can’t help your feelings. If you think that you can be over that and forgive him then you should work things out with him, but if you think that he’s not worthy and if you don’t trust him anymore then you can’t change your feelings

Decide if this has broken your trust for him and if he respected you or not. Never let somebody step on your persona. Betrayal is never something to go past by so reflect on what's more important for you: the relationship with him or yourself. Do what your heart says.

If he can disrespect you once this way, then he will do it again. Don’t allow him to use the excuse of a “break” to hurt you!

You need to confront your boyfriend. Let him know that your not ok with the fact that you guys were in a realationship and he went after someone else. He needed to let you know. It's unfair that you have to deal with that. He is not worthy of you. He doesn;t deseve you because he would do something like that. The upsetting part is that your still with him. I bet you can do so much better. You were loyal and he took your heart and someone else's v-card. Don't stay with him. You deserve so much better. Soo much better.

"We were on a breeaak!" ~ Ross Geller - Friends Everyone has different perceptions as to what a break is and what the rules are. It is important to discuss with your partner, what your goal is for this break and some possible do's and don't's. However, if this has not taken place, do not worry! In this situation, it is important to speak to your partner, once you are ready, and discuss the situation. Communication is key! Through this discussion you can both express your feelings and what this action means to the both of you. During the situation of finding this out, do not jump to conclusions and surround yourself with people who love you. There are loads of possibilities as to why they slept with someone else; misunderstanding the term 'break', doing it intentionally or doing it unintentionally.

Have a talk with him. Ask him why he did it and do you know the girl he hooked up with. If it is someone you know. Maybe you should ask her some questions later. After talking to him. Give yourself some time to think. It's okay for you to feel something. He is/was your boyfriend. Can you forgive him. How would he feel if you hooked up with someone. Don't do anything to harm yourself. It could be time to move on. Who says he won't do this again. You are going to be fine. Give yourself time to move on hugs

The issue here, I believe, is to dig deep and be honest with yourself-against any fear you may feel- and ask yourself what kind of a relationship do you truly want? What kind of a partner? Only you know that answer. Sometimes, to get what we want, we have to say 'No!!' To what we don't want. Take courage! You are precious and important and there is someone who will love you as you deserve-whoever you choose that to be. (Safety side note, would recommend abstaining from sex for at least 3 months until he has been tested, so that you are not at risk of getting a disease passed on to you.) Hugs and courage to you! You are strong and worth it!!💗😁

Listen with your heart on what your next step is going to be with him. You decide on how you should take that information and act on it. Its all up to how you feel. But talking is key. Talk to your boyfriend and ask questions. Also think about why you were on a break in the first place and what place you are in now. Will anything change? Or is it to late? Think more with your heart then your head. More importantly trust yourself and do what makes you happy. Its your life to live to the fullest

And that makes you feel angry or not cared about? Was this break fully explained with strict rules? Were there guidelines and boundaries set or was it just an I need space situation? If something was set and he didn't abide by them I would be upset. If there wasn't any he might haven misunderstood and took it as a breakup. Have you asked him exactly what he thought the break meant? This may just be a horrible miscommunication that you can work through, if that's what you would like to do. Talk things completely through before making a decision.