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My girlfriend has asked for a break from me, she said she wants to regain my value in her life as she thinks she has taken me for granted, I love her, how do I sort out everything with her?

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Last Updated: 09/14/2020 at 11:19pm
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January 5th, 2017 2:46pm
This sounds like something she will need some time to consider and think about, before she makes a decision. I think you'd be best to let her have some time alone, but make sure she knows that you'll be there for her when she's ready. It would be a good idea for you both to have an agreed amount of contact during the break - perhaps just checking on each other's emotions each night - to make sure you keep a bond that she can rely on, without feeling like she's taking you for granted again. You'll need to make sure that, whatever her decision about the future, you respect it and allow her to pursue her chosen path. Whatever the outcome, make sure you can both accept it and move forward. Best of luck!
July 2nd, 2018 10:41am
Sometimes break is important. It doesn't mean you two are breaking up but it's just a space which is needed to improve relationship. It will give her time to think what wrong she did. This space can act as healer. You can take things in positive way. You can respect her decision, she will respect you too in your decisions.
November 1st, 2016 3:25am
It sounds like she thinks you deserve better and that she believes she has taken you for granted, you clearly are a loving person, talk to her and listen to her needs and then you'll know how to sort things out with her I hope this helps in some way or another I wish you the best
December 19th, 2016 8:34am
Give her a little space and time, then talk to her. She has to learn to forgive herself 1st before she can let anyone in her life..Talk her though how to do so will help a long way..
November 26th, 2019 2:19am
If you love someone set them free, if they come back it was meant to be. I think your girlfriend is very mature to walk away, to ensure her heart is in the right place. It must be a difficult to be without her and not know what is going to happen next, though giving her time is probably the best answer to your question. Sometimes time apart from someone we love helps us reevaluate what they really mean to us in our lives. Maybe take this time for yourself as well, make sure that the relationship means the same to both of you.
April 27th, 2020 11:53pm
This sounds like a painful and maybe even confusing experience for you, since when we love someone all we want to do is to be with them. However, when someone we love asks for space, we must honour the love we have for them by respecting their boundaries and give them the break they are asking for. This may seem scary, but it is absolutely necessary for any kind of healthy relationship to have and respect each others boundaries. Now is the time to engage in your own self care routine and take care of yourself. Show yourself lots of love. You deserve it.
September 14th, 2020 11:19pm
I think it's also important to evaluate your own circumstances and experiences. Possibly, look at what things you want to improve about yourself on a personal level since she is also working on herself as well. When you both focus on yourselves individually, you open up the air to better communication for the future! It's normal to have breaks in life and doesn't necessarily mean that anything is wrong. It's important to reevaluate certain aspects of your life on a normal basis and this may be a great time to do that. Thus, by focusing on yourself and improving who you are as a person, you can ensure your partner that you two will regain value together successfully.