My partner and I keep breaking up and getting back together again. I don't know what to do any more.

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March 18th, 2016 7:00pm
Fights in a relationship are normal. But breaking up and getting back together frequently is however, not healthy. It doesn't lets your mind to move on, and keeps going back to that one person.
March 23rd, 2016 2:31pm
Tell them how you feel about it. If it's not something you want then just block them out but only if you want to!
March 26th, 2016 11:44am
Oh no really that doesnt sound good at all, well i can help you with that tell me more about these breakups
March 28th, 2016 4:03am
If your partner and you keep breaking up and getting back together. Perhaps you need to ask yourself what lead to you guys breaking up? I have two really good friends who have been in your situation. They would get close and then break up and continue the same cycle. If you guys are breaking up it's clear that you are not meant to be together. Perhaps you need to spend some time apart from this partner and avoid contact so you can gain some clarity.
April 9th, 2016 3:43am
If you break up and make up repeatedly, before you ask yourself why you make up with your partner, you need to ask yourself why you break up. If one of you lacks respect for the other and mistreats them, then the relationship is not healthy. You can choose to be back with them if you truly believe that they are worth it, but if there is a clear problem with a clear solution, you should avoid having a relationship together until the problem has been dealt with.
April 14th, 2016 10:10pm
If the relationship keeps promoting a break up, and if the causes are recurrent, then it isn't healthy for either party and it's time to separate for good.
August 3rd, 2015 6:29am
Take some time apart to cool down and think things through. It's normal to have disagreements, but breaking up constantly over them is not a good sign. Identify what's causing the breakups, and see if they can actually be solved. If you are breaking up for the same issue each time, which you had already talked about working it out without success, then that may be a sign to call it quits and start moving on.
December 16th, 2015 10:01am
It's time to move on. It's hard, it hurts, and it seems like it can work, but ifor you and your parter keep breaking up, its apparent that you both need to go work on loving yourselves and if it works out down the road awesome! But life is too short, and there's so many people with values that match up to yours. Give yourself a break from the Rollercoaster and even if it hurts, go work on the person you want to be for a little while.
January 20th, 2016 4:25pm
From what I have seen, Its often because both parties are in denial about what they really want. 99/100 if its off and on its best left off. You broke up for a reason if that reasons is cleared up okay maybe, If its not or if its something that doesn't go away. It will only repeat again and again.
January 24th, 2016 11:38am
I recommend you to talk about it with him and give some time to see if it works. If not I think you should end it because I know you deserve better and sometimes you should be your own person. Everything's going to be alright :)
January 30th, 2016 7:04pm
Remember why you break up, then remember why you get back together. Once you have, decide which one of those is better for your life. Love yourself and good luck x
February 3rd, 2016 3:48am
Perhaps its time to take a break and find your own identity again as hard as the transition could sometimes be.
February 11th, 2016 10:25pm
I think you need to break up permanently. The reason of your getting back every time can be out of habit.
March 25th, 2016 1:05am
If that's how you want to live your life and all then go for it. But if not then i suggest that you guys talk it over and decide what to do, there isn't much else, having a deep conversation about what to do should be the first step so that you're both on the same page.
April 7th, 2016 9:56am
Keep going. You will get used to it. Its not a big deal. everything will be ok. Its common among teenagers.
April 9th, 2016 6:42pm
Are you happy in this relationship? Because if so then maybe it's the best choice for you. But make sure you are doing this for you and not others
April 23rd, 2016 2:23pm
Well Honestly If you still love your partner, give him another chance, if you don't its time for you to move on
April 23rd, 2016 10:27pm
You need to decide if you really want to be with your partner. If it's on and off it may be a time to just stand back and really take a good hard look at you twos relationship
April 24th, 2016 10:35pm
either work out your problem maybe even with a therapist or it could be it is not a stong relationship and maybe you should see new people.
October 11th, 2016 12:16pm
Know the reasons why this keeps happening. Own to your part of it and assess if the relationship is lacking commitment or if it is worth staying for.
June 5th, 2018 2:13pm
The big question is do you still want to be with this person? Most people I know that have revolving door relationships are generally afraid or don't know how to be alone.
July 3rd, 2018 6:59pm
You are afraid of new relationship. That's why you always end up with your partner. And if you are breaking up that much it means something is has to be fixed
March 13th, 2015 9:24pm
The most important thing is to do something, whatever that something might be. Choose between the two things, being staying with him/her or breaking up with him/her. Whatever your choice might be, make sure to stick with the choice.
November 2nd, 2015 2:59pm
Try to understand what both you want and look forward to and then decide how helpful it has been for your personal growth.
December 9th, 2015 12:15am
I know this person may seem important to you but you have to think what is best for you in this situation. Ask yourself is this person right for me? Can I keep going through break ups with them? Would it be best to end things once and for all or to keep trying?
December 11th, 2015 12:10pm
are you both happy? you should both talk about your true feelings and what you both agree on, it starts to get unhealthy to break up and make up over and over and it'll become exhausting which will eventually just get you both down
December 12th, 2015 11:55am
write a list of the reasons why you want to be with him and why you don't want to be with him. and if there are more to one side, consult a friend or family member to help you make your final decision.
December 12th, 2015 3:51pm
it helps to strengthen your relation more by knowing the things where you are breaking up and where you are coming together.this helps you know your strengths and weaknesses.
December 13th, 2015 4:18am
Try and identify the reason behind why you and your partner keep breaking up and then come to a conclusion of how you are going to going to work through it.
December 16th, 2015 1:05am
You should sit down and talk about it, then you will find out what's wrong. Or, if you don't feel the same way about your partner like before and if love isn't mutual then you should go separate ways.