My partner and I keep breaking up and getting back together again. I don't know what to do any more.
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The most important thing is to do something, whatever that something might be. Choose between the two things, being staying with him/her or breaking up with him/her. Whatever your choice might be, make sure to stick with the choice.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2015 12:15am
I know this person may seem important to you but you have to think what is best for you in this situation. Ask yourself is this person right for me? Can I keep going through break ups with them? Would it be best to end things once and for all or to keep trying?
are you both happy? you should both talk about your true feelings and what you both agree on, it starts to get unhealthy to break up and make up over and over and it'll become exhausting which will eventually just get you both down
write a list of the reasons why you want to be with him and why you don't want to be with him. and if there are more to one side, consult a friend or family member to help you make your final decision.
it helps to strengthen your relation more by knowing the things where you are breaking up and where you are coming together.this helps you know your strengths and weaknesses.
Try and identify the reason behind why you and your partner keep breaking up and then come to a conclusion of how you are going to going to work through it.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 8:17am
This is an unhealthy relationship. I call this the roller coaster. One day, you're fine. The next, you're broken up. This will eventually end and it usually isn't by staying together.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 11:30pm
Stay apart this relationship appears to be toxic. And are you committed to each other don't stay if you're unhappy
Communicate with your partner about how your feeling and explain exactly what is going on in your head and see if they try and fix it if not they resort to needed measures.
Have a serious talk with that person.reevaluate your relationship, and if things go wrong, enough! You shoukd think and stop for a while.
If you guys love each other than keep fighting for your relationship but first see what's creating the problem between you two and try to solve it.
well, just think if you love your partner and if your relationship cost that much for you, to resistance those feelings, when you break up. I also were at the same situation. I was torturing, because of my relationship and one day i said "it must be over! I will break up with her. this relationship is so dangerous for me and my feelings." we break up and tbh i'm really happy now
is it always for the same reason or do you just constantly fight in order to find a solution you first have to analyse the problem itself i would spend some time alone thinking if this relationship is worth fighting for if after thinking for some time you come to the result that it is then keep fighting and try to tackle your problems but as i said first find the problem and then find out if its worth fighting for or not hope this helped and have a nice day :d
Talk to your partner about how confusing it is to be braking and getting back together all the time
Breaking up and getting back together is a sign of a unhealthy relationship. My last relationship was just like this, we would break up weekly it was crazy. All it will do is cause stress and unhappiness in both of your lives and you don't want that right? You deserve a healthy and loving relationship with the partner of your dreams instead of trying to fix a relationship with someone you're obviously not meant to be with no longer.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 3:26pm
Have you talked to him about how you feel? Try to give him space to open up or be honest on how you feel
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 8:10am
Try to talk to him about your relationship.If he seem to be negative to all of your porpuses you should really think breaking up with him for real.
Relationship can end up as love and hate..but what truly matter is your happiness and peace of mind.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 11:01pm
if your relationship keeps going on and off, take a moment to think if he/she really loves you or if you really love him/her
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 8:30am
Personally if a couple keeps leaving each other and getting back together I would say that they are not right for each other. Ina relationship, there is supposed to be communication and a connection with each other. If you keep leaving and coming back it doesn't seem like the bond or connection is very strong including communication.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 7:27pm
Talking generally solves every problem without communication we wouldn't be able to know what other feel , maybe you and your boyfriend should have an honest talk and see what both of you think
Figure out what the real issue is and work on it from there. If it an issue that can be easily soved, Great! If it's not it might be a good thing to end the relationship.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 3:55pm
In times when you are having second thoughts about your relationship always ask yourself, "Is he/she worth it?" and think of the reasons why you gave your relationship another shot.
You and your partner keep getting back together and you don't know what to do? How do you feel about that?
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 2:01am
Is there a reason why you keep breaking up? Perhaps that reason needs more attention and is something you could work on?
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 3:48am
Talk to him and decide if you are going into this relationship or not, but you cannot be breaking up and getting together all over again so many times
If I were you, I would ask myself: "Is it worth the pain of a heartbreak?" If it's not, then why stay with your partner if you just know that y'all are possibly going to break up again?
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:24pm
Well if you are looking for a serious relationship, i think that you should call this off. If you really love this person talk to them and tell them how you feel about the relationship but consider their feelings too. And in the end if it doesn't work out there are plenty of other fish in the sea.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 9:47pm
Well in this case try facing him and talk with him try to find out what's wrong and if you can make it right if you don't have feelings for him you don't have to stay with him it's not right for both of you
I don't think you are going to like what I am going to say, but I think it's obvious the relationship doesn't have much future. I think you should pull back, and meet new people.
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