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Before you delete his question ask yourself 2 questions. Are we going to remain friends and are we ever going to get back together?
There may be some pictures you decide to keep, but if there are some which only make you sad they should go. It's good to remember your past relationship but the key word is past. In order to fully move on you can't be keeping little parts of them. It will feel hard but it's better, I promise!
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 4:07am
Yes you should because that's the only way you will fully move on, if the relationship is over then holding on to pictures is gonna make the process longer. I used to delete all pictures and it was quicker to move on.
Well if it does trigger you it's better delete them or maybe you can just save it somewhere and keep it in your shoe box ...In few years it won't haunt you ..but it will just be a memory. ..☺
It depends how those pictures make you feel. If you want to keep some happy memories do it, but if it makes you miserable delete them.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 9:29am
Most people do but you don't have to. If you he is part of memories that build your life I wouldn't. Even though you don't go out with him he still was a part of your life
If it helps give you closure and peace of mind, I think you should delete all the pictures of your ex, especially if you are seeking closure and can't seem to get your mind off him / her.
Anonymous
January 14th, 2016 2:58pm
I think you should because if you keep them you will be reminded of the memories you had together. This will make you feel depressed.
Anonymous
January 14th, 2016 3:11am
Generally it can be helpful to cut all contact, as it allows people to move on quicker, also if you had a bad relationship with them then this is even more true.
Yes you should and you should delete his number
It's better to do so if the experience was painful and hurting. Because looking at these images might remind you of your past and provoke negative feelings.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 11:16pm
no, keep the ones that still have some sort of sentimental value to you, because even though you feel like you will never be able to get over you ex, you will and in a few years time they will make you smile and become nostalgic
Depends on you.. Deleting your ex images dosent matter try to get over that by taking and being normal even after seeing those images, if u feel beeter when u delete the images then do it, but I suggest u is get it over that by being normal even after seeing those try to get the positive energy after seeing those also, use the pain to achieve something high.
From my experience, it depends on what terms your relationship ended. If your relationship ended mutually and on good terms, I do not see the use in all of the effort towards deleting them. However, if this wasn't a mutual decision, having those photos sitting around reminding you about it, is the opposite of beneficial.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 6:44pm
Yes! Those pictures will remind you of him and the time you spent with him. You must not forget the good times, those you must cherrish. But if you keep the pictures they will keep you from moving forward
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 2:08pm
it would be better if you do .. you don't want that mind of yours to get wild at night and give you bad ideas
Anonymous
October 1st, 2020 8:56pm
Honestly, this is a personal choice. Some people will say yes absolutely you don't need the reminders. Some people will say no because of the memories. There isn't really a clear cut answer, but for me I always look to your happiness at the pictures if you should keep them or not. Do they make you really sad and homesick for a person? Maybe consider not keeping them. Do they make you laugh at times and aren't so upsetting? Maybe keeping them for now is your jam. Whatever makes you the happiest. And don't feel you have to delete all your pictures of them right away, you can always start small and slow as well. :)
Yes ! Move on ! Having pictures of them will only remind you of the person. That is part of moving on. If not you might get tempted to look for them again.
I would recommend you only delete pictures when you are ready to. Do not rush into deleting something if you aren’t ready to do so. Take your moving on process slow and steady, it wins the race. It’s never easy to let go of things we’ve lost, but one day you can look back and think about how strong you’ve been. If you think deleting those photos will be beneficial to you, 100% do it. But if you feel you aren’t ready yet, don’t push yourself. Listen to what your body needs and be patient with yourself. We all react differently to pain.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 9:40pm
Depends entirely how you feel about it. Do you want to do so? If this your happy memory of the good times with the person you once cared a lot, it could be just that. If you don't want to be reminded of this, you can just delete it. It all depends on how you feel.
No, you should delete most of her but keep some of the two of you, when you get older these become valuable memories which you will cherish, the experience you had with your ex made you who you are today
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 1:53pm
If you think it will help you to move on, then you should. If keeping these pictures doesn't make you suffer, you can delete, but you don't have to.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 11:29am
If this makes you depressed or angry or upset,then yes.But if you want to keep memories then no.But I think you should delete all of them..I mean he is your ex..
depends on you, personal opinion " delete it and if he/she doesn't care about you then why should you care about them ??
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 3:38pm
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Yes, otherwise you will dwell on the past and your feelings for them. You should try to focus on something other than your ex when trying to get over them.
Thanks for reaching out! This is 100% up to you! There are pros and cons of doing so and this is something that you really want to think about carefully before deciding what you wish to do with the pictures of your ex. From personal experience in the past I have made the decision to delete all pictures I had of my ex and I. In the moment and for the time being it was beneficial because it did help me move on quicker however, sometimes I do wish I had some of the pictures so I could look back and remember those times. It's important to ask yourself if the relationship was an unhealthy or healthy one for you. Do you see you and your ex being friends only? Do you hope for your ex to become your boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife in the future again? At the end of the day it is whatever you feel comfortable with!
If you still feel possessive or obsessive, deleting photos help build a healthy barrier between you and your ex. If you are in a new relationship, ask your significant other what they think about you keeping these photos and have a conversation about what they feel.
To get over a person the quickest possible, it is best to think about that person and what could have been as little as possible. Pictures can constantly remind you of what you had. It is better to not look at them.
It would be best to. Especially if it ended badly or if it was a bad relationship from the get go. It's healthy to move on and just doing a small thing like deleting the pictures, can you help you tremendously.
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