Should I tell my boyfriend that I cheated?

There are two approaches to this topic. Every person must decide for themselves what path they want to take. If you cheated on someone and you tell them, you are transferring your burden to the other person. But if you don't say it, you will have to live with the burden yourself. This is not the right approach though. This will lead in you feeling awful, every time you talk to the person you cheated on and if they eventually find out, it will a world of hurt, ten times as worse as if you would've told them sooner. If you really love them and they really love you, you will be able to talk about it and get to work through it. Ofcourse it will take time before everything will be back to normal, maybe it won't every go back to what it was, but that is what happens. Life will move on and you can get through this!

Have you ever heard of something called "the Golden Rule"? In a nutshell, if he had cheated on you, wouldn't you like to know about it yourself, too? Think about this.

What the worst case scenario here? And think about the best case scenario that can happen between you two

It is better to be honest in a relationship. You can expect him to be angry so be calm and ready to accept the consequences. If he still loves you, then you should commit that it won't happen again.

Yes, especially if you are sexually active. Everyone deserves to be fully informed of the activities of their partners. Your boyfriend needs to be able to make informed health decisions.

yes, it will come out sooner or later. is better if you're honest and tell him the truth. Than lie to him and carry that weight with you all the time . Good luck!

Honesty is always the best policy. Im not proud of it but I had flirted hevily with another guy while I was dating my now husband I told my husband and he forgave me. You may not have the best out come like I did but honesty will make you feel free and better.

I think it would be best, to be honest with him. It wouldn't be fair if you kept it from him but make sure you're safe.

Yes. The basis of any relationship is trust. Trust can be lost, abused, destroyed, but it must always be rebuilt if the relationship shall have a future. And trust can be rebuilt. It's neigther fast nor easy, but it's the only way your relationship has a future!

Being honestly is best better then they find out can cause more argument etc and all you just stay calm and admit it

It's always better to tell the truth before the roots rot, and in my point of view you have to. There's no point in a relationship if there's no honesty -> trust going on. I advise by sitting down with him and telling him everything calmly. He probably will get mad but later on he will appreciate your honesty. I cannot promise you will stay together but it's much better to be honest than hiding.

Honesty is key in every relationship, but despite the fact that some refuse to admit it. Sometimes things are better left unknown. If you genuinely learned your lesson and have no intention on cheating again. You could withhold that info from him, but it really just depends on the person and relationship.

That is a question that is best answered by you. There are some things to consider before telling him what happened; i.e., will he end the relationship, will he want to know the details of the encounter, why you cheated, was this the first time, was it a one time encounter, and the like. The reason you want to tell him should also be considered. Are you telling him to clear your conscious or for the betterment of the relationship? Being truthful is something that we should always strive to be, just be prepared for the consequences of your actions.

You should! It will cause you guilt and stress, and end up being more difficult than your initial decision to not tell.

Well yes it’s the right thing to do, you’ll feel much better once you’ve got the secret out of your system. Like they say, honestly is the best policy. Cheating is wrong and you know that. You should really speak to them about it.

It’s always best to be open and honest. Keeping things in will only cause guilt and shame which can really take a toll on your life. The best thing to do in your situation is to be honest but not be surprised with the reaction you receive. We all make mistakes, some are more forgiving of those mistakes than others.

Now I do not know your boyfriend or the situation; however, I think that you should definitely tell your boyfriend. Keeping a secret and harboring guilt will hurt your relationship, him, and you. Instead, find a good time to calmly discuss what happened and how bad you feel. He might leave or be upset, but that is human nature. I'm sure it is better in the long run to tell him now.

now ideally you should. But if you want to continue relationship with your boyfriend and you don't have any intention to see the other person any more, please consider advantages and disadvantages of being truthful. Its appreciative that you are feeling guilty. But think of its consequences on your relationship. However if you do not want to continue with your boyfriend, it is always good to come clean and give them the right reason of breaking up. This gives better closure to things.

Yes. if i were you, id wanna make sure your the one to tell him and not the other person or their friends. PLus, itll take off a heavy weight off your cheast.

Yes, it’s very important to share with your significant other that you had an affair. The longer it’s kept secret the worse of an impact it’ll have.

To have a clean Karma, better be true and let destiny do the best. Maybe if you discussed this with him, he will nderstand your situation

Yes, because in the long run you feel really guilty. It's better for him to know now than later. I hope this helps you make your decision:)

Yes. Better late than never. The longer you keep it from him, the more hurt he'll be when you do tell him or if he happens to find out.

As the saying goes, honesty is the best policy. You don't want him to find out on his own. Forgiveness is given more often to those who admit their mistakes rather than hide them.

As much as you don't want to admit that you have cheated, if you tell you may feel a sense of relief. Even if things don't end well you can at least say that you were honest.

Yes. It may not seem like the best decision, but it’s better to tell the truth and have an honest relationship and just hope he forgives you. It’s always better to tell the truth and know it may not end well than hide the truth and keep secrets. Yes, he may decide your guys’ relationship isn’t for him, but if you don’t tell him the guilt will eat away at you. Tell him right away when it happens rather than wait and have him be more upset that you kept it from him for so long. You can choose to do the right thing and tell the truth. Even if it doesn’t seem like the right choice.

Well if you still like and care about him then by all means you should tell him what happened! I know this might feel risky and scary but its really the only way to make peace with yourself and with him as well. You won't achive much if you try to hide it anyways , he would find it out sooner or later anyhow.

Yes, it’s important to be honest and if you’ve cheated your heart can’t be in the relationship anymore so why waste your time as well as theirs? It will hurt however could you imagine further down the line the impact of it? It could leave even more scares for your partner, scares which they’ll carry with them for he rest of their life and probably impact/affect their other relationships. It’s also important when telling your boyfriend and being unfaithful that you explain and answer any questions for closure - it’s not fair to leave the other party with unanswered questions that may haunt them. Not telling them would be a lie that would haunt you for some time!

Honesty in a relationship should be the number one priority besides loyalty, telling your boyfriend that you cheated will not only show that you are honest it will also make you feel better, since it won’t be festering in your mind creating more lies, back stories and anxiety. Sit down with your boyfriend and have a one to one conversation about this, if you say it face to face he will appreciate your honesty more, if you are honest with him and yourself from the beginning there will less likely be tension or paranoia between you both within the relationship.

That is a tricky question. Honesty is the best policy in my opinion. It can be hard to be honest, especially telling your partner about another relationship you’ve had(even if it was a one night stand). If he loves you, the two of you can find a way to get past it. If he is upset you were honest, then it might be best, unfortunately, to move on. My best friend tried to get my now fiancé to cheat on me with her and it was really difficult, but we talked about it and i was able to forgive both of them, but she and I are no longer friends. Good luck!!