Should I tell my boyfriend that I cheated?

Telling a boyfriend or girlfriend that you cheated is hard and can come with many emotions. Think about how you would feel if someone cheated on you and didn't tell you. How would you feel? Also, if they were open and told you there are the possibilities to move on or work something out. I guess when someone keeps the truth comes with the feeling of guilt and there is the idea that at some point you get found out. So, what do you think? To tell or not to tell? Do you feel guilty? Do you feel something in the relationship caused this?

Trust is extremely important in any relationship. You might think that nobody will ever know but the truth has the ability of making itself known. It might be better in the long run if you tell your boyfriend now. Personally, I don't think you should cheat but considering that you did this is something that you should talk to your boyfriend about. It's a big deal and it's better if he hears it from you than from someone else. That could potentially make it worse for everyone involved. By telling him directly, you still have the chance to make sure he understands your side and have the best chance of continuing your relationship after this.

Yes, it's better for him to know about it from you then from someone else. If he finds out from another person he will think you were trying to hide it and get even more mad. Being honest will help the situation and admitting that what you know that what you did was wrong. Keeping it from him will also make you even more guilty because you are keeping secrets after what you did. You can't undo what you already did so living up to your actions will make him feel a little bit better. Finding out from you will be better then him finding out by anyone else.

Honesty is one of the building foundation for a relationship. It's also the key reason why there's an increase in trust issues and so many fall outs. If you really think that he's the one and you want to continue the relationship it's important that you remain honest. People make mistakes and there comes a time when we realize how wrong we were. If something like that was done to you, how would you want him to react? Would you want him to be honest and tell you about what he did? Place yourself in his shoes that should help you to analyze the situation. If you think it's not working out tell him that too. There's no point in staying in a relationship where true love doesn't exist. Both of deserve better. After all it's better to hurt someone with the truth than comfort with a lie. I hope that helps you reach some clarity.

Always put yourself in his position. Would you have wanted to know if your boyfriend had cheated on you. It's not my place to advice you on how to go about your life but always think from the other person's perspective. Respect your boyfriend as an individual and as a human being you loved or used to love. It's also okay if you don't want to tell him because you're guilty or just because you are afraid of his reaction. You entitled to your own feelings and that's completely fine. You are the best judge of your own choices and decisions.

This is your decision and your decision only. However, there are some things that you should consider. 1) if you were cheated on would you like to know it? 2) if you don't tell him, it will be on you to carry the burned of hiding something. Being honest can be difficult but honesty is also the foundation of a great relationship. Many couples go through cheating and they become stronger after that. In any case, whatever you decide to do, you'll learn something about yourself. Everybody does mistakes, sometimes they can leave us huge scars, but in this case you have the opportunity to improve the relationship with yourself.

Loving someone means you're willing to be completely honest and open with them because the love you both have for each other won't change a thing just because of a mistake. It may or may not even be your fault in a situation like this, at the end of the day you'll probably feel guilty that it happened and you'll need support from your boyfriend to help you cope with the emotions. I haven't walked a day in your shoes so I can't tell you what to do, Although I do trust that you have an understanding boyfriend and that I'm always here to listen.

Yes! Being open and honest shows integrity, and that is something everybody in the world needs to be. Even though admitting to a mistake can be difficult, it's a choice you have to make not only for him but your self as well. He deserves to know the truth even if it may hurt. Think about how you would feel in a situation like this if the tables were reversed. Always remember the golden rule. "Treat others how you want to be treated". Besides, maybe you should think about the reason you cheated in the first place. Maybe your boyfriend just isn't the right one for you.

What do you think you should do? What do you chose to be the right answer? You could choose either way and have multiple different outcomes. Think about what the right thing to do to you is. Whatever you chose know it was what you wanted. If you have doubts you can always take time to deal with them however think of your situation as someone elses what would you tell them to do. What do you think is the right choice. It is completely up to you what happens. Whatever you do know your in control and that it was what you wanted to do. Be your own person.

I believe this is a double edge question. On one hand you have to tell just in case you feel guilt and for karmic reasons as I am sure you would not want someone to do the same to you. On the other hand, we have to decipher the true reasoning behind the cheating. Was it out of unhappiness, neglect, abuse, there are so many variables that have to be decided in order to give an answer. But, I am a firm believer in karma and believe that there are many ways to end something versus going to the extreme.

I think honesty is what makes a relationship move forward. Hiding infidelity is in no way beneficial to the growth of a relationship or the individuals involved. Although cheating can end a relationship, it'll be a lot worse if it is hidden because it will be like living a lie and can lead ti a build up of resentment. Coming clean may not be easy, but it's better than hiding. If you are the victim in the relationship, you'll want to know if your partner is unfaithful. Being kept in the dark and finding out by yourself can be very painful. Save your boyfriend that pain and come clean.

If telling your boyfriend you cheated feels like the best option, then you know what to do. I was cheated on multiple times in the past, and the paranoia that accomapnied the knowing but not knowing, drove me mad. I thought that I was going crazy. However, once my boyfriend (at the time) told me he had cheated, a huge weight was lifted off of my shoulders and I was able to breathe again. From my experience honesty is the best way to heal and to move forward with your life. It isn't a easy decision to make, but you will make the right choice, I am sure of it!

That depends entirely on why you're having that conversation. Most times, people tell their significant other that they've cheated because they're not able to handle the guilt and want to feel better. Oftentimes, they don't think about the kind of hurt they're going to cause and they're not really trying to repair the relationship. Make sure you're telling your boyfriend because you want to fix the relationship and be ready to deal with the consequences, which most often will mean the end of the relationship. Don't pressure your partner to forgive you or to continue the relationship - if it's a dealbreaker for them, you're just going to have to accept that. All that doesn't mean that it's never possible to recover from someone cheating in a relationship, but it's honestly rare. You're likely to be better off doing some soul searching and figure out what led you to cheat so you can deal with that and handle future relationships more appropriately.

I personally would tell you. There is nothing I hate more in this world than lies. If infidelity is bad enough, at least tell him. Keep in mind that it is also much better if he discovers through you rather than through other people. I think that although cheating on your partner is wrong, the most important thing is to confess it and that he decides what to do about it, that is, continue the relationship or break it. If you don't tell him, he will live deceived, he will live a lie. He surely trusts you and would like to know what has happened first hand.

i can understand how you are feeling, i want you to know you are not alone. i also been in similar place. i want you to know that it is way better to be direct to your boyfriend than him learning from others. its thought and i cant expect everyone to do it but people usually long for honesty more than sweetening lie. but listen to you heart when it comes to your decision. noboy knows you better than yourself so you can find the best solution for yourself. i want you to know you are well supportted amazing. and you are way stronger than you tink you are

Yes, you should always be honest in a relationship. It will be much worse if he finds out later; especially if he finds out from someone other than you. Couples can work through problems with enough love and trust, but every moment you choose to keep something like this from your boyfriend, the trust diminishes more and more. You should tell your boyfriend as soon as possible and try to talk it through. Even though it can be scary to face someone we care about and admit our mistakes, we should understand that it was a mistake and be upfront about it so that we can move on and change. It isn't fair to him because he deserves to know, and it isn't fair to you to have to live with the guilt. Do the right thing. I believe in your relationship.

Yes, without a doubt. Hiding this fact and then having your significant other find out this act, throws in that doubt that trust has now been broken. Being upfront and honest at all times no matter what is what can keep a relationship growing past these difficult situations. Never let it go unsaid and never spoken. Your significant other may think that it is themselves who is to blame for what you did. And we both know that your actions are yours alone to bare. Don't let your significant other believe in the falsehood that they are responsible for your actions. You never want to build a relationship on the aspect of a lie. It is not good for either of you. Just always be open and honest.

You need to consider the reason why you cheated. Are you unhappy in the relationship or was it a drunken mistake? Will he find out from someone else if you choose not to tell him? Keeping secrets is often something that eats us up inside and it may be that not telling him has as much of an impact on your relationship as telling him might. Ultimately, you know your situation better than anyone else does and you probably already have an idea of what you think is the best thing to do. He is likely to feel hurt by what has happened, which is understandable, as nobody likes to be cheated on, so this is also something you need to tsle into consideration.

In my opinion - yes! Relationships are built on honesty and trust. Even though it will certainly hurt him, keeping secrets won't do any good in the long run either. Only if you are honest you two can figure out how to move on from that, maybe your feelings of guilt will be a little less. Even though it is very difficult, I would try to not beat around the bush. Try being direct about it. Maybe you should think about what to say in advance. Having your "speech" already prepared can help to not hurt your boyfriend more than necessary.

i mean...at the end of the day it's up to you! but communication is vital in any healthy relationship. Personally, even though i'm sure they would be devastated, they would appreciate that you were open and honest with them. If you decide to tell them though...understand that it will take some time for them to come to terms with it and expect them to be upset for a while. However, as long as you keep a steady line of communication open within the relationship both of you will become happier within the relationship itself. I hope this helps you out!!

yes, Honesty is the best thing to do in any situation. you have to think about different scenarios. Yes, he may leave or he may stay. But you still have to think about if he will find out a different way and that outcome. That outcome may be completely worse than just telling him yourself. Most people would rather hear it from their partner, than a random in the street or their friends. You have to put yourself in his shoes. You would want to know about this if it happened from them instead of someone else on the streets.. Right?

Honesty is the best policy. If you truly care for your boyfriend, it would be in your best interest to be genuine and honest with him. Otherwise, the feeling of guilt may overwhelm you to a point where you will not be able to tolerate it anymore. You should also be able to reflect on the situation and ask yourself, "If my boyfriend cheated on me, would I want him to be truthful with me?" If this answer is yes, then there is no reason why you shouldn't tell your boyfriend. At that point, you could give reasoning to why you think it may have happened and what you can do to improve the relationship if he feels it can be saved.

Yes. He deserves to know. He will feel far more pain if he finds out on his own, and it sounds like you feel guilty about it. If you do feel guilty, telling him will ease your conscience and (maybe) give you another honest shot at the relationship. It will be up to him if you get this chance or not. Keep this in mind: if you go to him about it before he finds out, there will be a much higher chance he stays with you. Honesty is appreciated, and it shows that it won't happen again (and that you feel badly about it). On the other hand, if you don't want to keep the relationship, it doesn't matter as much if you tell him or not. I would still recommend it, but how you handle breaking up with him is up to you. Good luck!

Honesty is always the best policy. If you want to be with him then having this secret will only hold you back in your relationship. If you tell him the truth there is a chance he could forgive you and then you could be together without the fear of the secret coming out. From personal experience, I would say that they always find out so telling him would be the best idea because it sounds better if it comes from you. It may be really scary and it feels like you messed up but telling him the truth means you can start a new plate.

In relationships, honesty is always the best policy. This may be a hard topic to being up to him now, but being up front about it is important. By hiding this from him, you run the risk of feeling guilty all the time and feeling afraid of the consequences if he were to find out later on his own. Most secrets don't last so by dealing with this now, you can decide together what the next steps may be for you both as civilly as possible rather than having the added weight of you hiding it from him on top of the cheating.

I think it's important that you're honest in your relationship, it's better if he's told by you than if he was to find out from somebody else. Be truthful and apologetic with him if you want to increase the possibility of your relationship continuing. It will take some time for him to trust you again, and I can't assure you that you'll be deemed forgiveness instantly or at all. However it's best to tell him what you did and why you did it, and explain that it was not done because of him because that can ruin self-esteem pretty badly. Good luck with everything!

I’ve cheated in a past relationship and struggled with guilt and anxiety because of it. It may sound selfish, but I decided to tell my ex- boyfriend I cheated for selfish reasons, so I could free the mental cage I had put myself into. While it had hurt my ex- boyfriend beyond measure, him knowing the truth allowed better closure for when I broke up with him soon after. If you are truly remorseful I would tell your boyfriend the truth because honesty is an important aspect of a relationship. It may weaken his trust in you, but it will give you a chance to earn it back. This will hurt to tell him, but the emancipation from the guilt is worth it.

The short answer is yes, but obviously it can be more complicated than that. This is, of course, a decision that doesn't just affect you. Even if he doesn't know, or never finds out, it can still affect him, and it's worse if he hears it down the road by someone other than you. If you don't want to tell him, consider why. What do you think he'll say or do? You probably know him better than me, but I would assume he would be upset. I know it can be hard to do this sort of thing because it's sort of like enforcing your consequences, but just play it by ear.

I know this is a tricky subject and you are probably worried about how they would react. I would start by asking yourself some questions: Do you think your relationship will be better if you do? Do you think that you would want the same? How do you think they will react if they find out later? Would feeling guilty cause you to react differently in the relationship? Now, if you do decide to, sooner is typically better but I am sure you would find the right time. Be true to yourself and learn from the situation. I wish you luck and I hope you find your way

It depends on your motive. If you are only telling him so you can soothe your guilt, that you should not. You are just trying to make yourself feel better, other than doing what is best for him. If you are genuinely trying to do the right thing, then you have to decide whether telling him the trust will do more good than harm. Some white lies could be very helpful for the relationship. Nevertheless, it also depends on whether you still want to maintain the relationship. By telling him, it might lead to ending your relationship with him.