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We broke up, but I feel like I want to get back together with them. What should I do?

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Anonymous
November 7th, 2014 11:51pm
I'd say, talk to them and tell them that you want to try it one more time. Do what's in your hands to get that person back so if it doesn't happen, at least you won't feel guilty for not doing everything you could to save the relationship.
JaneCollege
November 5th, 2014 7:39pm
When he broke up with me, all i wanted was him back. All my friends knew this was impossible, and they tried so hard to politely tell me that he wanted it to be over. "He is just confused" I told myself at first. And then a friend of mine said it: "It is the end of an era" It was exactly the opposite of what I wanted to hear, and not exactly what I needed to hear. I crumpled up into a ball and became a puddle of tears. I went through the stages of grief; denial, some major anger for a short time, bargaining, huge depression, and after a year i started to touch acceptance. I wanted to get back together for a long time, but the feeling was not two sided, so I had to accept that. I was stubborn and it was hard, so reaching that point was a struggle. I am sure it would have been fine if he was happy, but he broke up with me for a reason. I had to face that it was not my fault, and that I can find love again.
Anonymous
November 5th, 2014 1:48pm
Work out if that's what you really want. Do you just want someone to be with, or do you want to be with that someone? If you really want to be back with them, start by talking to them again and letting them know. If they don't want to, then there's no point in hoping for more. Depending on why it stopped working, fix the bad things that have been done or that caused the break up. If you aren't 100% sure if you want them back, have some time without them and figure out if you really want them back. Then again, contact them, but don't be too straight forward. That could scare them off.
helpmeHelpyou61
November 4th, 2014 6:43am
Talk with him/her. If you both feel that it is the right thing to do then do it. It is the easiest way.
Anonymous
October 29th, 2014 8:30pm
You should definitely express to your partner how you feel. It's always good to express your feelings because you don't want to have any regrets..