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What are some ways of stopping thinking about someone?

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Last Updated: 08/16/2021 at 6:39am
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Top Rated Answers
littlemermaid222
November 2nd, 2015 2:09am
1 Delete them from any social media. 2 Keep yourself busy with sports or any other activities. 3 Focus on people that make you feel better. 4. Don't hate that person. 5. Remind yourself how beatiful you are and that you don't need that person to keep being who you are
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 7:09pm
The best way to stop thinking about someone is to START thinking about yourself! Remember who you are, what you love to do, and the life you live. The more you focus on yourself, the happier you have the potential to feel.
Ametrine
July 6th, 2015 12:12am
Stay busy. Immerse yourself in things that interest you. When you are in an element that you feel passionate about, it makes it almost impossible for your mind to wander.
Willofheart
July 13th, 2015 5:38pm
Get rid of anything that reminds you of this person, keep yourself on the right track by replacing the time you spend thinking of this person with a new hobby, it will make you feel good.. surround yourself with people who share interests with you and those who care for you, lastly forgive the person cause it would be impossible to forget them if you dont forgive them, stop dwelling in the past and you'll be free to move on
Anonymous
September 21st, 2015 4:13pm
If you think of stopping then you will never stop, try to do something that will makes you stop, do sport..
Peace26
September 14th, 2015 11:25am
I started writing all those imaginary conversations i ised to have woth my busy gf.. Its helping a lot.. Try it
optimisticStar73
November 6th, 2017 8:53am
Find new hobbies, spend more time with friends, focus on yourself. Every time a thought of this person comes into your head make yourself think of a reason why they aren't in your life and eventually they will stop.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2015 7:13pm
Keep yourself busy. Surround yourself with your friends and family. Take up a new sport or read a really good book. It's important to spark your interests and figure out what YOU are interested in an passionate about. Focus on making yourself the best person you can be.
TalkitoutwithBree
March 10th, 2015 4:22am
Surround yourself with people you enjoy being around, and do activities that keep you happy. This is a great way to keep your mind off someone.
Anonymous
May 17th, 2016 8:01pm
Take time to focus on yourself for example, exercise. It makes one focus on themselves instead of the situation and real eases endorphins which essentially make you happy
FoxInTheBox
December 21st, 2015 8:14am
Getting yourself distracted, rather than laying on the bed all day, feeling sad. Always better to go out in the open world, do things you like - something that will guarantee you a nice time!
Anonymous
June 14th, 2016 10:12am
Don't do things you used to do with that person. Don't see movies that remind you of that person. Distract yourself by doing exercise.
Anonymous
September 5th, 2016 12:49pm
Do all the things you love. For example, ypu could listen to some of your favorite music. You could draw, go for a walk in the park, be around animals, etc. find a way to distract yourself as best as you can.
EchoBox
September 6th, 2016 6:19pm
Get yourself busy in your fvr8 thing or hobby that really helps because we replace it with something positive
enchantingApple96
July 18th, 2017 5:44am
Make yourself busy with your hobbies, interests and exercising. Meet a lot of new people as much as possible and disconnect yourself from the possibility of seeing him online/in person (delete the pictures, unfollow from social medias, etc.)
Anonymous
September 12th, 2017 3:53pm
Trying to acknowledge that you are thinking about that person. Once you realize, it is easier to move on think about something else. Think of it like a passing wind, acknowledge it, but try your best not to get affected for it. Do a task that'll occupy your mind and motivates you more. For example, when I cook, I had a lot in my thoughts. "Is it done yet? Is it done yet? Ah I need to get my salt soon." Although the thoughts of the person might come sometimes, being careless in cooking can lead in safety danger. Therefore you'd be more focused on your cooking. But first of all, you gotta know that your health and safety is important!
cuddlyDay48
November 13th, 2017 6:28pm
I will load myself with so much work,full schedule,self development and I will also consider other people rather than dwelling on one person
SLOTHPOTATOES
December 4th, 2017 9:40am
Taking a nice bath, and relaxing. Distressing is the way to go. Having too much in your mind can be a hand full.
Anonymous
December 5th, 2017 4:01pm
Try to get distracted. Find a hobby or a new one if you don't have one already, and if you don't know what you enjoy you can spend time trying out new things, which can be reading a particular genre, horror, romance, etc. Maybe manga, try taking walks or riding a bike if you have one. Watch shows, try anime. There is a lot of possibilities! And of course, don't keep thinking about how you're going to get rid of the thought, it'll only make you think of it more. Have a great day :)
Azillion17
March 6th, 2018 3:23am
try keep your mind off of them by doing something to occupie your time ...avoide communication ,talking ,chatting,seeing etc
Anonymous
September 9th, 2019 5:24pm
Find something else to do to distract you from "that person" like: Find a hobby to stick with: start to play a new instrument, buy books and spend time with them, lean how to cook. Another idea is hangout with friends. I bet you even forget about that person quickly.And last idea, it's kinda negative but it works: simply just study or work hard. It really tires you but you will not have a second to think about that person anymore. And good thing is, when you work hard it will get better for your future. You can have a promotion at work or have a high mark at school or university : ))) And at that time you will feel thankful because of that person. That's my opinion. Hope these idea works for whom read these
PlacidPenguin
July 7th, 2020 3:08pm
Step 1, realize you are doing it. Step 2, Name the pattern, as in "I am caught in the Jane Doe Trap and need to get out." Step 3, Tell yourself a realistic optimistic truth. As, "Yes, I miss this person dearly, but it is not the end of the world, and I really will regain my peace in time. Step 4: Distract yourself by choosing to think of something else (Like having super powers or somthing. As you practice these steps, you get better at them, so that you realize your caught thinking about the person sooner, your name the pattern so that it is externalized from you and something you can control, then you sooth yourself with a calming truth and move on. Those thoughts will come back into your head again and again, but the more you practice these steps, the sooner your brain will switch to other thoughts, so they don't stew and make you feel bad all day.
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2021 1:04am
There are many ways to stop thinking of someone. First I would ask myself why do I want to not think about this person? Perhaps they did you wrong. Maybe you’re holding a grudge against them. Isn’t that reason enough to stop thinking about someone? Next I would look for hobbies, interests, things to do with your time instead of spending it thinking about someone you clearly do not wish to think about. Letting go can be very complicated. It’s okay to say enough and make yourself happy. You come first. First thing I would suggest is no contacting the person because you’ll only think about the person more. Lastly, please feel free to start a conversation with me if you’re having trouble with this. I will listen and you’ll likely have other things to think about. Otherwise I wish you the best of luck.
Evangeline55
August 16th, 2021 6:39am
You can do things that you enjoy! Whether it be listening to music or playing video games. The majority of the time we think about someone a lot, it’s because they give us someone to lean on. It’s important to remember that you can depend on yourself as well! Throughout time we often have a hard time focusing when we miss someone, or think about them a lot, but even small things like taking care of yourself by brushing your teeth, or doing a homework assignment can help you feel better about the situation. None of it is ideal, but it will help you.
LittleLemon96
May 16th, 2016 10:11am
1 - being busy, this is the most powerful way to stop thinking, your mind will be occupied about the current thing you do so you won't think about him/her, 2 - find out your hobbies. 3 - go out with friends that won't talk about that person. 4 - read books or watch movies. 5 - find a job because you will have a routine that will make you busy for a longer time. 6 - travel. 7 - join charities or associations.
Greatlistener87
April 25th, 2016 2:30am
Keep your mind busy with other things. Try occupying yourself. You can keep yourself busy to keep your mind off it but it will not solve the issue. The way to sole it is to forgive and let it go.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2016 1:40am
It sounds like you are trying to get someone off of your mind. To do this you need to practice other things and do things that will get this person off your mind.
friendlylistening
December 22nd, 2015 3:51am
You can go out and watch your favorite movie ever or going out with your best friends to the mall or to lunch.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2015 3:03pm
Probably you can try for some distractions like cultivating your hobbies.. Get busy in your work. Spend time more with things which makes you interesting.
Sunshine15
June 6th, 2015 1:57am
Immerse yourself in fun activities or activities you enjoy. Jam to music, take a bubble bath, ride a roller coaster, whatever you'd like! You'll be having so much fun that it will take you mind off them. You can also try deleting memories like pictures, text messages etc.