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What can I talk about with my boyfriend?

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Last Updated: 07/23/2019 at 11:50pm
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
September 4th, 2015 8:11am
It's always best to talk about what you know. You could talk about your shared mutual interests, your personal hobbies, your personal goals, your goals for your future together.
PoliteOcean
September 4th, 2015 8:22pm
If you are in a relationship you should feel comfortable enough to talk about whatever you feel comfortable talking about. You shouldn't have to wonder or worry about "what" to talk about. That should just come naturally. Sometimes you don't have to have words at all. Sometimes silence is ok to have.
GableX
September 6th, 2015 7:14pm
About the things you like mutually and the things you wish to do together. Plus the plans in the future.
Anonymous
September 9th, 2015 7:32pm
Your boyfriend is supposed to be your best friend. FRIEND is the operative word here. And you can talk to him about anything. The weather, your dreams, your goals, his family, plans for the future, things of the past, wishes, hopes, worries, movies, silly things.... the list should be never ending. If you cannot talk freely with your partner, perhaps that is not the right partner to have.
Iamallcalm
September 10th, 2015 9:28am
Alot of stuff to be honest. Is there any kind of sport both of you like, or maybe just about the day :D
MatiasMtz
September 11th, 2015 1:23am
everything! how was you day, that new song you heard and you liked, a pretty bad movie you watched last night, or just about the things you like and why...
goldenButterfly
September 11th, 2015 1:28am
Uhm.. Maybe your daily life if u don't see each other a lot. I mean cus he's not going to ask u about every single things that you're doing , so I guess he'll be happy that you're telling him about everything without trying to ask u.
Dinaa
September 11th, 2015 11:01pm
You can always try to get him to bond with you and share his past with you, get to know him on a deeper level, become his friend before his girlfriend, connect with him so he'd start telling you about his insecurities, fears, weaknesses, turn ons, past etc... winning his trust will strengthen your relationship and get you a lot more closer too... And you must do the same as well, just... be smart about what you share and what you keep to yourself ;)
Anonymous
September 13th, 2015 12:42am
Be yourself, Just chat about what you and him likes and dislikes are and what your in to and be open to any topic
Popsicle1990
September 13th, 2015 7:37pm
If your partner is considerate it is good to talk about anything with them. Sometimes people can be too close and cant understand but its important to keep them in the loop of your emotions.
JanNichole
September 16th, 2015 1:01pm
Problems - share each others problems and try to find solutions for it Dreams/Wishes/Bucket list - share each others dreams, wishes or bucket list to help each other make atleast a few of it come truee
Anonymous
September 17th, 2015 6:36am
Firstly, there’s something you need to remember. Silence is not a bad thing. Don’t feel awkward or shuffle your toes when both of you aren’t talking. Just take a few calm, deep breaths and relax. At times, silence can be a perfect thing to help both of you fall more in love with each other. After all, silence in a conversation is the best sign to show that both of you feel really comfortable with each other and don’t need a constant barrage of words to feel at ease in each other’s company. Initially, it may be hard to avoid feeling uncomfortable when there’s silence because of the constant eagerness to prove that you’re great company. The awkwardness could also be accentuated because of the sexual tension. But over time, you’ll learn to feel relaxed around each other.
Anonymous
September 17th, 2015 5:44pm
You can talk about anything with your boyfriend, it's your boyfriend. Just talk about stuff that you are comfortable talking about.
TheTypicalButterfly
September 18th, 2015 8:34am
In my opinion, serious talk time to time with a person especially a male one will make them less enthustiastic for a talk with you. (it may vary in some case still) So trying to have some light conversation is sometimes a good way to keep the equilibrium you know. At the end though you made him your boyfriend for a reason and it is you who knows him better than anyone.
Anonymous
September 19th, 2015 2:46am
Find things of common interest, that you both will enjoy talking about. Also going out and exploring new things together will give you memories to talk about as well with each other.
needpeace84
September 19th, 2015 4:39pm
I can tell him, that although I have nothing againt same sex love, but since I am hetero, we should break up, but reamain friends, and focus on the nice things.
Bri
September 20th, 2015 12:26am
This is a very broad question, but in general you should be able to talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other about almost anything. As long as you are comfortable sharing that information, you don't feel forced, or if you feel like it could damage your relationship with them. That last part is something that needs to be looked into further though, since some things might need to be talked about even if you feel like it could damage your relationship. It really comes down to what it is that you are wanting to communicate with them, why, and how you can put it so it doesn't come across wrong or not in the way you originally intended. If you ever feel like you can't talk to your SO (please forgive my abbreviation) because you feel like they might react violently or in an abusive manner, no matter what the topic might be over, you might be in an abusive relationship. But also know that showing signs of anger or being very upset on topics like cheating, affairs, losing your job when you are the sole provider, ect. are understandable. Just as long as you feel safe. Overall, communicate with them only what you feel comfortable with.
Anonymous
September 20th, 2015 4:06am
You can talk regarding your future, career and personatily which will enhance your relationship with him or her
Anonymous
September 20th, 2015 5:50pm
It depends on how long you have been dating and how comfortable you are with him at the moment. It is all up to you and what you are willing to share.
dbettis1
September 21st, 2015 7:07pm
Think of your boyfriend as just another friend! It should be easy for you to talk to him about any and everything! :)
Anonymous
September 24th, 2015 3:24am
what can't you? thats the point of a relationship, sharing. tell him how your day went, how you are feeling, what you would like to experience... anything
koolRaja
September 26th, 2015 6:13am
You should talk about how you feel about yourself about others, what you like, what you always wanted to be. Trust me if he really likes you he will listen and understand.
FruitySummer
September 27th, 2015 3:35am
Anything you want to! It should be honest and from your heart it's not always easy to find topics but you'll find something.. look for similarities and things he's interested in ;)
Anonymous
September 27th, 2015 9:01pm
Whatever you want! It's your boyfriend and you shouldn't have to keep secrets from him. Unless they are big ones that you would never tell anyone!
attainablehappiness
October 12th, 2015 6:20am
Anything you have in common. You should feel comfortable talking about anything and everything even if it's uncomfortable. Show him pictures you find funny, talk about serious topics. Name a random topic and rant on it.
crystalsmilezz
October 13th, 2015 2:54pm
you can both talk about your plans for the future and what you both enjoy doing . sometimes you don't have to talk at all and can just enjoy each others company
Anonymous
October 15th, 2015 3:09am
things you have in common and what you want to do. most of all, just enjoy the time you have together.
goldenflares
October 17th, 2015 5:34pm
A boyfriend is someone who should also be your best friend. You should be able to talk to him about everything. Trust and communication are extremely important part of the relationship.
Anonymous
October 24th, 2015 11:27am
For me, anything! He should have accepted who you are and it should be fine with him if you ask silly, irrelevant questions. But keep in mind your limitations. Don't brag or talk about exes.
ActiveListener0809
October 24th, 2015 4:07pm
Everything you feel comfortable sharing including how your day went and what things you like and do not like.