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What can I talk about with my boyfriend on the phone?

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Last Updated: 08/15/2021 at 7:48pm
What can I talk about with my boyfriend on the phone?
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Anonymous
August 9th, 2018 2:55am
You can talk about different topics with them. Some examples include- movies, music, food, the kind of future you see with them, your family, friends and school/college.
niceMonkey80
August 22nd, 2018 10:21am
You can talk about anything and everything on the phone with your boyfriend. you can tell him if there’s anything troubling you, although i think it would be better to do that in person. you can tell him about your day and ask him about his. you can crack jokes or talk about new music you’ve heard or new films you’ve seen or new shows that have come out. just talk about your mutual interests, maybe a sports team too? if you want to go a bit deeper, you could talk about your futures together too and your hopes and dreams.
Anonymous
September 16th, 2018 4:20pm
Well, there are a lot of things that we could always talk about with our boyfriend. You could always get to know him better by asking him what is his favourite snack, food move and et cetera. Other than that, we could also know him better by asking if he's okay when he's feeling down. Sometimes, you could also talk to him about yourself so that he'd understand you better for example, how outgoing is your family, embarrassing moments with your family, what you like to eat and so on. Last but not least, on the phone, you could always talk about how your day went. It not only makes them able to know how your day went but you also would let them know if your day was good or bad on a daily basis.
Anonymous
September 19th, 2018 6:00pm
You can ask how his day went, what he had for lunch, did he think about you, did he call his mom regular to check on her etc.
ListenLady93
September 26th, 2018 8:42am
The best way to be interesting is to be interested. Talk about his likes and interests. You hear the passion in his voice and there will likely be a topic that sparks a more in-depth conversation. Questions about childhood can always help to open up conversation pathways, but keep it light. Like what did you want to be when you grew up. Inspire them to think nostalgicly and you'll never run out of things to talk about. Movies, tv shows, books and music's are also topics that help invite interesting conversations. You can get silly and come up with some epic would you rathers. I had fun once just reading terrible pickup lines on the phone to my old beau. We laughed a lot. There's no right or wrong and perfect phone conversation doesn't exist just go with the flow and you'll know what to say.
SimplySerendipity
November 11th, 2018 2:46am
You can talk to your boyfriend about a lot of things! Here are just a few ideas to get you started: - Favorite things (movies, songs, tv shows, books, video games, colors, snacks, brands, places, animals) - What you like about each other - Plans for when you see each other - Things you want to do together - Places you want to go together - Foods you want to try together - Funny stories - Favorite memories/ moments - How their day went - New exciting things in your guys' lives - Things you're looking forward to I hope this helps!
anaiahJ12
September 17th, 2015 5:52am
Avoid talking about your own self.. Better talk about how he feels about his day or his opinions about something else. In my own experience, I have a guy who was so discreet and locked about his own life and only me can crack the code .. I always ask him about some certain things that needs his opinions .. sometimes I relate it on our own situations. You can also talk about some erotic topics as long as it will not offend your partner ;) .. Make sure to always make the conversation light and happy :)
brightMelody97
December 1st, 2018 7:55am
Every relationship is unique! It's natural to struggle with topics of conversation when trying to deepen a new relationship. Feel out the conversational style of your partner: Are they more of a talker or a listener? Don't force anyone to talk too much or take over the conversation. Ask specific questions about his day, his family, and his future plans. Share a cute or embarrassing story from your childhood with him and then ask if he has any memories like it! I love to ask people about their family, their passions, and places they'd like to travel, but you'll know some mutual interests! And something to keep in mind is that if conversation doesn't come naturally after a few tries, its possible maybe the chemistry might not be totally right for you two, which is completely okay! No need to force anything.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2018 6:23am
Anything in the world. You can talk about anything and nothing, if you trust him. You can talk about future, past, your Dreams, his dreams, your future together, Both your concepts about family. About your families, your achievements, your most embarrassing moments. Your most amazing moments, and so on. If you both trust each other with your whole heart, you can talk about anything at all on the phone. And trust me, hearing the guy talk about his interests is one of the most amazing things you'll ever hear in your life. Talk about people, things, etc. For a long time. Communication is the most important factor in building a healthy relationship.
SadCupoTea
January 20th, 2019 1:00am
You can talk about anything you want! Your problems, your day, how you feel. Personally I tell him how my day went and things that occurred throughout the day that distressed me. Normally I will videochat with him instead of call because it creates a stronger personal connection to the conversation than just talking through the phone. It really helps me feel better or happier when I can see his face and hear his voice. That way it's like talking in person and you can just talk about anything from what I said before to movies or make future plans to interact and see each other.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2019 4:57pm
Talk about anything that makes you comfortable. Talk about how much you love him. Talk about your day. Ask him about his day. Ask him how he is doing. Tell him about the new movie you like. Let him talk. If he was sad tell him how much you love him and you believe in him. Tell him about your decisions in life. Tell him about how your younger sibling just got a date when he or she is only 7. Tell him that you miss him. Tell him about how much you care about him. Tell him about how much you are proud of him.
Anonymous
February 14th, 2019 9:17pm
I would say nothing should be out of bounds when talking to you significant other. (within reason of course!) From personal experience, I try to talk about everything. I try to learn likes and dislikes in regards to what sorts of topics are interesting for them to talk about. I also like to just check in on them to see how they are. Its never a bad thing for your BF or GF to know that you actively care and are thinking about them. I mean really, just be yourself and what not.
Anonymous
March 9th, 2019 7:05pm
You can talk about anything honestly. You can talk about your day, how you're feeling, any upcoming plans, any new music you've heard which you like, etc. If you find it hard to keep a conversation going or you're worried about running out of things to say, try watching the same tv-show on your own and watch the same episodes before your phone call (if that makes sense). For example, if today's Saturday and you'll be talking on the phone on Monday then you both can watch an episode of the same tv show and that gives you something to talk about and discuss when you're talking
Anonymous
May 4th, 2019 6:53pm
What are some interests that you and/or your boyfriend share? Anything from shoes, to cars, or you could talk about the feelings you have for each other, they are some possibilities you could use to spark a conversation. You could always ask your boyfriend, some personality questions, of favourite colours, to his favourite place to eat food. You could even suggest that he tells you where he could take you that is romantic to enjoy the company of each other. If either of you two have a license, you could ask him to take a road trip to a place neither of you have been.
CherryBlossom360
June 13th, 2019 8:03pm
Anything and everything!! Whatever it is that you and your boyfriend talk about, make sure it's positive: Getting in fights over the phone is never a good idea. Avoid the standard “What do you do” questions. Instead, look for fun in every conversational thread. Does he talk about a tough day with customers at work? Tell him the funniest story of a customer you’ve dealt with. Does he love Harry Potter? Make fun of him for it, Admit it, you’re a closet nerd aren’t you??” Tease him for dumb things he says, “Oh god, you’re the goofiest guy I’ve ever talked too!”. It should all come across light-hearted and playful. If he gives you banter back, you know you’re doing it right. :)
Anonymous
July 10th, 2019 1:21am
Talking to someone over the phone most especially that he is my boyfriend will be somehow very exciting. It has to be like what you are in person nothing change. You can talked about anything. Maybe about life, about the past that basically you have moved on already, about the future and what are your plans? Any idea that will help you become more a better person and a partner soon. Well its because you have to know more each other. And most importantly a simple sharing of how was your day going. Is it bad? or good? It doesn't matter, as long as you are sharing your daily life with each other are all that matters.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2019 6:45pm
You can talk to him about anything you wish! In my eyes, I would always want to either share something new about myself that he might not know yet, or you could even ask a few questions to him. Sometimes you may also want to vent or listen to some funny story. When in doubt, for sure, ask something or tell a funny joke! That is a great way to pick up a stale conversation and get it moving back in the right direction. Sometimes it may seem hard to come up with what to say, but don't force anything! Have fun, and enjoy your conversations.
resourcefulJoy7377
August 22nd, 2019 9:31pm
Conversation is the key to any good relationship. There are many good topics to talk about over the phone. Anything from deep meaningful conversation such as discussing past relationships, feelings, friendships, trauma, hopes, dreams, etc. Or light conversations about your day, things going on each others lives, or listing your favorites of things (i.e. favorite colors, books, movies, animals, etc.) It is up to each individual person to learn more about the person they are dating. I personally like to start by getting to get deep with a person I am in a relationship with, I want to know what makes them who they are. But as I said before, communication is key, and it's very important to maintain that communication throughout a relationship.
Anonymous
October 27th, 2019 10:30am
There’s actually a lot of things you can talk about on the phone! You can talk about how both your days went, and you can ask questions to get to know your boyfriend more as well! For me, my boyfriend usually loves to explain about his work and I’ll ask questions when I’m curious about certain things he says. I used to have a partner who doesn’t really talk as much so I went online to find questions to ask him to get to know him more! It could range from ethical questions and just questions about his past. All the best!
gentleSun78
November 1st, 2019 9:30am
You can talk with your boyfriend on the phone about everything what you are comfortable to talk. You can invite them to a date and talk futher there. You can have dating via phone and have a quality, fulfilling conversation with him. You can share your secrets if you are comfortable to do it. You can also share everything what happened to you in last days, weeks, months, or even years. You can share your best memories with him too. You can talk about everything you enjoy, sports, politics, hobbies, your job, family, ... Let's open up to him.
Jojo6
November 2nd, 2019 1:31am
I think you can talk about anything as long as the both of you agree that it's okay to talk about different things. Just communicate to one another your guys limits of what to talk about. Once you guys have talked about that, I think conversations will become something both of you feel okay talking about. Communication is definitely key with this. It's also good to be aware of your surroundings. If you are around other people, you don't want to be talking about inappropriate and uncomfortable conversations. You don't want to be talking about something in a public place that isn't really something socially acceptable to talk about in public.
Rotem
November 19th, 2019 1:40pm
I spent hours during the army speaking with my boyfriend over the phone. We both were located in different bases very far away from each other and every time we had the chance to talk on the phone we would use it. There are many things to talk about and only sometimes there's an awkward silence. But it can always be filled with an ice breaker or a story. As we grow and experience things we always have something to talk about. Talk about your favorite music - if you been to concerts or festivals, talk about traveling about dreams and goals that you have. Ask silly questions, ask anything.
JosmeFiling
March 31st, 2021 1:34am
There are many topics that you can talk about with your boyfriend, such as history, movies, sports, family, social issues, food, hobbies, among others. But first, you must ask him what kinds of things he likes and from there then you can discover and talk about the topics that he told you he likes. :-)
Anonymous
February 28th, 2021 1:07pm
Basically the same stuff you talk about in person. But one thing we need to know is that you don't necessarily have to talk to him every single minute of every day, so if you have something to talk about then you bring it up but don't stress too much on what you need to talk about. You're together because you have ground interests apart from the fact that you like each other so don't think too much and just flow with your common interests. When you stress too much about what to talk about you end up beating yourself up about nothing when you can freely talk to him about stuff you both find fascinating.
SupportiveMedic
March 19th, 2021 10:15pm
You could talk about school life, work life or just your life in general! Fluffy upbeat and maybe even soppy conversations tend to bring relationships closer and are enjoyable to both parties. As a boy myself, I personally enjoy it when my girlfriend talks to me about how her day has been, how she has missed me and how amazing I am. Compliments for him go a long way, and boys appreciate it more than we let on. Bring up your interests, too! Have you found a new song you love, or a new series you love and want to binge watch? Tell him about all of those things and he'll likely respond positively!
EricaA2000
March 23rd, 2021 6:40pm
Thank you for reaching out! I can really hear that you want to make good conversation with your boyfriend on the phone. It’s ok to have questions about what is considered interesting to talk about and I can see you’re curious! You may want to ask yourself what kind of conversation you want across the phone. Serious? Light-hearted? There are many things you can talk about with your boyfriend on the phone. Something fun you guys can do is ask questions to learn more about each other through playing 21 questions. Some questions you can ask are: Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What are your life goals? What are your favorite pizza toppings? I think this is a great way to learn more about each other while having fun at the same time - it will also allow you to see if your goals and dreams are congruent with each other’s or see if you appreciate each other's differences. Are you excited about learning from each other?! You are welcome to reach out to one of our listeners or therapist's on our site for further support. All you can do is be you!
BlueOasis420
April 7th, 2021 11:12am
Finding topics can be difficult, I understand. But if it's your boyfriend, you sure have many in common! Do you have similar interests or the same friends or go to the same school? You can also talk about what happened lately. Sure, in Corona times you can't go to the cinema, but maybe you just made a nice Easter celebration or did talk to an old friend from yours. If you're really unsure, make a list. What you really want to talk about and back-up topics. You normally switch from one topic to the other without really noticing, because you're really in the flow of talking when you have found a nice topic. If not and there's silence, you can use ur backup topics. If there's really nothing to talk anymore, just schedule the next time you want to talk to him and hang up. You sure find some topics you'll both love to talk about. Conversations are easy when they are started well. I'm sure you'll do a great job! Have a nice day
Anonymous
April 9th, 2021 5:55am
Something in common to start the conversation, and if there is anything new to him or you, if there is any concern or interesting news around you. It depends on which subjects your boyfriend wants to share with you and he is willing to know you more. It's the interpersonal relationship, so if you can't find the right subject, you can as him what he wants to talk about too. If the subject is really not your type, then you can express your feeling in a polite way and try to find a common interest. By doing that, you and your boyfriend can know better each other. Hope this answer helps you.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2021 9:17pm
You can talk about values and morals that you believe are most important to you. It is important that your boyfriend also know your goals and ambitions so that he is aware of where your life's direction is going and whether he would like to accompany on your life journey. You should also share with your boyfriend things you are passionate about and things that you like to do. It is important to share similarities with your partner. Also, communication helps to get your ideas and feelings across, therefore having open communication with your boyfriend is essential to your relationship. Talking about problems you are having with your partner is also very important.
CassD
March 31st, 2021 11:51pm
You can talk about a lot of things. Talk about the future, your guys' days, movie interest, hobbies, hopes, fears, and dreams, funny childhood memories or stories. You can talk about games you like to play, and even play those games. Talk about sports or movies. You guys can even talk about books you both like to read and if you like the same books perhaps you can find some to start reading together. Then you will for sure have stuff to talk about because you would be able to talk about the book every few chapters or even everyday.