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What can I talk about with my crush?

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Last Updated: 08/02/2021 at 11:20pm
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Anonymous
August 22nd, 2015 7:56pm
Firstly..make your crush comfortable while talking to you See if there is any topic,she is not willing to talk..simply avoid it. Aprt from that know her interest and try to find common interest and talk about them for starters.. Alsi give few compliments.. Not soo obvious..neither too cliché. Simple yet impactful.. Like about her eyes..voice smile or may b fragrance too.
Lea046
August 21st, 2015 1:21pm
You can talk about anything and everything. You can keep things simple like what happened to you today. Maybe something funny. Eventually this will stand as an icebreaker and conversation will flow smoothly.
Anonymous
August 23rd, 2015 5:56pm
If its a guy talk about sports and thing he likes but if its a girl talk about shows and gossip with her.
DipityEnigma
November 29th, 2015 3:43pm
I would suggest not talking about past partners as some people dislike this. You can talk to them about whatever you two have in common such as gaming, reading, the news etc. If you talk about what your crush has an interest in, it will help them feel like they have a connection with you. Try not to talk too much and make sure they're not bored either. We can all get carried away. Let them talk the most, once they start talking, they'll be thankful you were there to listen and let them rant away. Hope this helps.
Rebecca
October 24th, 2015 1:50am
Oooh, talking to crushes can be so nerve-wracking, I applaud you for being brave! I like to try and find something/a few things in common with a person, and talk about that! Anything like that would be interesting for both of you, and can help to build a stronger connection with them.
Anonymous
September 16th, 2015 6:49pm
How about whether or not the Seahawks are going to win the Superbowl this year? I'm kidding, sort of ;) But seriously, levity is the answer. Talk about light topics - things you know he or she enjoys doing or is interested in. Talk about your own likes and interests, but keep it light. Smile, laugh, make eye contact, breathe. We are more attractive to others when we are not trying to be attractive (in all forms). Often the anxiety we feel when we are overly concerned with how we are "being" in the presence of another can be detrimental to establishing and maintaining a successful relationship. Again, breathe.
JanNichole
August 21st, 2015 4:07pm
Common Experiences ● How has the semester been going for you? ● Do you understand the assignment that Professor Riley gave us in class? ● What do you plan on doing your project/paper on? ● What did you do over break? ● What sort of plans do you have for break? ● What did you do over the weekend? ● Anything interesting happen this week? ● How has work been? ● What did you think about the school team's last game? ● Do you know who’s going to Jenn’s party on Friday? Interests (Shared or Interests Your Crush Has) ● What sort of movies have you seen lately? ● Have any good book recommendations? ● What shows have you been following? ● What are your favorite bands/performers/songs? ● Have you been to any great concerts lately? ● Have you seen any good plays? ● What did you think about the football game on Sunday? Non-Question Topics ● Your surroundings: the weather, an interesting painting or decoration, a peculiar scenic detail ● Interesting or humorous websites ● Current events or news ● Local topics: new restaurants, favorite restaurants, local zoos, nearby museums, city officials, shared neighbors, new attractions that have recently opened ● Compliments on appearance changes: hairstyle, clothing, shoes, accessories ● Recent experiences with friends or family ● Humorous story about something that happened earlier in the day or week
Kiu98
November 29th, 2015 7:35pm
I don´t know, maybe about the fact that you like her (or him), we have to express what we feel, because, we don´t know when that person will leave our live, so, the best thing we can do is, open up and being sincere with that person, and, with yourself.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2015 12:59pm
In my opinion, you can talk about various of things with your crush if you are friend with him/her. You can try showing how much you care for him by asking him questions about his day, how is his condition and stuffs like that - this can be a conversation topic with him. You can also tell him about how you feel and what you have been through. It is important to not only focus on yourself, give him time to talk and share his experiences too.
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2015 2:16pm
Be as casual as possible while dropping small hints that you may want to go out with the male or female in question.
Anonymous
August 26th, 2015 2:05am
about what he or she likes, but still keep it simple, you can talk about his or hers future career that also helps but its always a good idea to have normal friend talks
Kbell18
September 26th, 2015 5:56pm
You can speak to your crush about what there hobbies are, what they are interesting in, about there family, just speak to them like anyone else
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2015 6:32pm
Music and movies are great conversation starters! If you're both into the same types of movies and music then you can plan a movie date or even go to a concert together
dorifishey
November 27th, 2015 9:18am
Talk about his/her interests! Whether it's a hobby, favourite show or book. It's important to see if both of you share the same interests and to see if you're compatible. You might want to reconsider the crush if both of you are vastly different.
Makarios
November 21st, 2015 6:21pm
Hello You may need to find out what topics interests him/her and what things you have in common that you can easily chat away about
Anonymous
November 21st, 2015 10:50am
I suggest a game of 21 questions! always gets the conversation moving and helps you get to know the person better.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2015 7:58pm
Take an interest in them and remember things they are saying to you, they'll feel amazing that you listened!
TeddyGraham
November 19th, 2015 7:39pm
Talk about things they like, Find things that they like to do and ask do so some of them with them, Just have fun, be yourself and you'll rule the world
verilylovely
November 19th, 2015 6:47am
There's tonnes you can talk about. Music, family, sports, movies, reading. Find what you have in common and the conversation will flow!
Anonymous
November 18th, 2015 10:46pm
Ask lots of questions and listen to responses. Find similar likes that way. Music, books, movies. :)
ProudBohemian
November 15th, 2015 6:38pm
Uh, this is hard. Listen, you should ask her/him what he/she likes. Like a normal person, nothing too personal. Just chill
Anonymous
November 15th, 2015 2:41am
Be yourself. Here's a tip: You're cute when you're confident, not so much when you aren't.
Anonymous
November 14th, 2015 9:46pm
Try to discuss feelings or find out if they like you through a friend discuss interests etc try to be yourself
courageousBeauty49
November 1st, 2015 2:03pm
Anything that comes to mind! You do not want to over plan when connecting with people. Just be yourself and see if things progress! If not, don't worry it just isnt a match! Your match is out there you just have to find them!
healingCloud23
November 5th, 2015 5:49am
1. How your day went 2. what makes you happy 3. your hobbies 4. your future plans 5. your dreams and ambitions
Octavie99
November 4th, 2015 1:02am
Ask him/her what makes them smile. You'll get to know what they like and care about. It will start a conversation. It will also make them smile when you ask this question.
blissfullyaddicted
November 1st, 2015 5:28pm
A lot of things, get to know them better. For example, favourite food, favourite colour, favourite shopping store, favourite outfit, favourite storybook, author. ANYTHING.
SmileForTheCamera
October 31st, 2015 4:15am
In my experience, talking about the weather wasn't a great subject. If you're not that close to your crush, get to know them! Ask about their family, their life, their hope for their future. Once you get really close to them, you can start asking them questions which will really engage them in conversation. These questions may seem very weird to you but they will strengthen your relationship. For example, would you rather questions. This is because it will set you aside from the other people your crush talks to. When your crush thinks about you, he/she will think about the unique questions you asked which will keep you in his/her mind for longer and make you stand out from the others.
AnotherOverthinker
October 30th, 2015 11:23pm
Everything you feel like sharing would be good to be expressed to your crush. It is not about what you are able or not able to talk about, but it is more about the way someone expresses feelings, thoughts and ideas. When this happens in a pleasant and polite way there is nothing that should be unsaid in my opinion!
BookLovingKitten
November 5th, 2015 7:46am
You should not have to limit who you are around them and be able to talk about anything. If you have to limit yourself then they are not the person for you.