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Lindsay Scheinerman, MA, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
My work with clients is to help them recognize and build on their strengths to find solutions for the conflicts presented in their lives.
Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
November 15th, 2015 2:41am
Be yourself. Here's a tip: You're cute when you're confident, not so much when you aren't.
Uh, this is hard. Listen, you should ask her/him what he/she likes. Like a normal person, nothing too personal. Just chill
Anonymous
November 18th, 2015 10:46pm
Ask lots of questions and listen to responses. Find similar likes that way. Music, books, movies. :)
There's tonnes you can talk about. Music, family, sports, movies, reading. Find what you have in common and the conversation will flow!
Talk about things they like, Find things that they like to do and ask do so some of them with them, Just have fun, be yourself and you'll rule the world
Anonymous
November 19th, 2015 7:58pm
Take an interest in them and remember things they are saying to you, they'll feel amazing that you listened!
Anonymous
November 21st, 2015 10:50am
I suggest a game of 21 questions! always gets the conversation moving and helps you get to know the person better.
Hello
You may need to find out what topics interests him/her and what things you have in common that you can easily chat away about
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2015 6:32pm
Music and movies are great conversation starters! If you're both into the same types of movies and music then you can plan a movie date or even go to a concert together
This is a hard one. Find similar interests, maybe observe your crush before starting conversation. See what they like, for example, you notice your crush watching anime in a computer room so you could go and talk to them about anime. Or basketball. Whatever it is, find a common interest x
I would recommend asking open-ended questions that are personal, but don't overstep boundaries. Questions like "What sports are you into?" are perfectly fine, but questions such as sex preferences or family issues may be a bit extreme for the first few conversations. I also would recommend keeping the conversation positive, yet revealing your true self. In other words, don't make things up and exaggerate who you are. In fact, it might even be better to under-exaggerate so that they can find out more about you. That leads me into my last point, which is don't let yourself open up completely; save some points about yourself for future conversations so that there is always something new about you and not that you opened up everything all at once in the first meet up.
It's very important that you learn more about her and preferrably from her. You can initiate a conversation starting with Your common interest, hobbies, life style, your preferences. You can simply describe your self. Talk about your nature . You can Talk about why you like her or how you met her first time .Ask her about her opinions her choices her views. You people can talk about past . You can share your experiences with each other . A random movie story or a funny incident can be topic of discussion. You can also talk about family too.
It feels sometimes that we are obliged to be funny and amusing and need to know something that maybe even we do not know. Sometimes is just too much as we are there to " impress". But consider that we need to look after ourselves as well, and it is healthy to be open to listen and let the situation or a person - our crush to surprise us and it is great when we surprise ourselves as well. There is nobody there who is a better master about our experience from ourselves. And it is wonderful to let other person to share mastery of their own experience. Instead preparing in advance or premeditating about conversation that needs to happen. It is also wonderful to know that we are comfortable being silent and just be with someone. Sometimes silence contains more power than anything else.
The best way to strike up a budding relationship is to find common ground. Try to discover what the object your affections is into such as hobbies, sports, world views. Anything you have in common can easily be used to strike up a conversation. People bond the best when they get to share and talk about the things which they hold a passion for. But remember, listening is just as important as talking.
You can talk about things you have in common with your crush or find out what they like things which makes your crush laugh also
There're many things about which you can speak about. You probably can figure out the things which interests your crush and can talk about it. On some day to day events and incidents, some funny topics and so on. So, take your time, figure out a topic with which both can be comfortable and have talk.
It's usually easier to ask things such as their taste in music, movies, foods, etc. That will help you form a basis to form a relationship (romantic or not) with this person.
You can talk about anything that makes you and your crush happy.If you dont know what triggers that happiness,then you have to find it first :)
You can talk about anything with your crush, because if they are worth your time, they will listen to you and accept you! Don't worry about falsifying your character, that will not be useful!
Listen to what they say! Learn about their interests, maybe try some of them out for yourself! Imagine how badly they want someone to share their interests with. Imagine if you were that person, who knows, they might just want to know what interests you! :)
Anonymous
June 20th, 2016 2:50am
Be open and honest and talk about anything that you are passionate about, as I have found that those are usually the easiest types of conversations to have. In my experience, showing that you're at ease and comfortable will help facilitate the conversation
Well, what do they enjoy? If they play sports, you could always ask them about their last game, or their favorite sports teams, or if you don't understand the sport they play, you could ask for them to explain it to you. If they like, maybe, music, you could ask if they've found any musicians that they like, or if they write songs of their own. That's always a great place to start! It might find you guys some common ground to create a conversation from.
Just get to know that person. Ask about her, her family, her goals, etc. Talking to someone you are interested in is no different than talking to your friends.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2016 4:55pm
You can talk about her dreams , both of your childhoods , your favorite places ., anything just try to avoid politics , sports
see if you have any comment interests! ask the person questions about what they like or don't like. It is a great way to get to know them!
Anonymous
November 28th, 2015 9:40pm
Find out what common interests you have and try striking a conversation there! It's definitely a good way to start :)
You can talk about anything that you want to talk about and feel comfortable with. Shared interests or hobbies .
Common interests, friends, Alcohol, the next party? Avoid Politics through, even if it'd make you looks smart. It often serves for a bad rep.
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2015 2:53am
Talk about anything! Like what you guys like to do on your free time, what you did on that same day! Anything! Just keep it interesting!
Anonymous
November 27th, 2015 3:03am
Talk about anything, this person should be your friend before anything else, so talk to them like you would talk to a friend.
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