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What could have done differently to make them stay?

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Last Updated: 08/22/2016 at 3:11am
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Top Rated Answers
June 3rd, 2015 8:47pm
Nothing. Don't for a second think that you went wrong somewhere. What"s meant to happen will happen. Some people aren't meant to stay in your life and you find out the reason years later. May you find the courage to move on with your life. God bless you. :)
October 3rd, 2015 9:03pm
We tend to believe that if our dear ones leave us, it's because of us. But this is not true. The reality is that in a relationship of any kind, the fault and the responsibility lies in all people involved. So if they didn't stayed, chances are that anything you would've done better, you still couldn't hold them for too long. If someone wants to stay, to fight, to be better, they will stay without us trying too hard.
May 14th, 2015 1:03pm
There is absolutely nothing you can do to make someone stay; he or she is responsible for himself of herself. When situations are out of control, you can only control what you can control in an out of control situation. Sometimes people leave. If you chase them, they will run; they may run anyway, but the reality is, if you chase them, THEY will run.
January 18th, 2016 10:31pm
At times we like to think about the things we could have done, but the truth is nothing more could be done. If you knew in your heart that you were being everything you could possibly do, then it was enough. Everyone has different personalities and so people have different things to bring onto the table. People need certain types of personalities, that doesn't mean yours wasn't good enough. It just means you're amazing personality is for someone else that needs you.
April 7th, 2015 7:54pm
Sometimes when people leave, it has nothing to do with us doing anything wrong. It was just their choice.
April 12th, 2015 2:48pm
Nothing they should like u the way you are no exceptions about it you are u screw them if they dont like you leave
June 3rd, 2015 11:22pm
I could have possibly not tried to take so many chats at once and given them more individual attention.
November 9th, 2015 3:01am
Sometimes people drift away for so many reasons and we cannot help thier actions. No matter what you say or do some people just move on
March 7th, 2016 5:44am
I personally do not believe you should put the blame of a failed relationship on yourself if you didn't do anything harmful. Sometimes they aren't the one and that's okay.
August 22nd, 2016 3:11am
People make choices based on what they think is right. No matter what you have done it will not change the choices they make if that's what they want to do.