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What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?

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What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?
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Top Rated Answers
piag860517
February 24th, 2016 5:15am
Stop answering...not even a hello...block him or her/ change your number and don't look for that person again becouse if you do you have them hopes; and then thy don't leave.
hsmiranda22
January 6th, 2016 8:43pm
Block their number. Even in the case that you miss them too, if you truly want to move on it's best.
Anggi
July 2nd, 2015 10:07pm
If you think you can handle it maybe agree to talk to your ex for one last time to end it for good and ask them to stop contacting you. If don't think you can the best thing to do is just to ignore them, they'll stop eventually.
peacefulSoul70
January 29th, 2016 3:15pm
what do you do if your ex keeps contacting you? You can possibly block him from your contacts or get a new number which one works best for you
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 2:58pm
I'd say block them if you don't want them talking to you, and if they continue, consider contacting the police for assistance or a trusted friend/relative if you are scared of going to police.
RobfromUK
February 12th, 2016 2:30am
This happened to me and there is honestly nothing wrong with deleting.blocking their number and from facebook or anything like that, if you decided thats what you want then you should go through with that decision.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2018 12:28am
If you really want to move on then the only option is to block her/him on all social media and on phone messaging.
Anonymous
October 31st, 2014 5:07pm
Tell them, be firm. If they still do, block them out or just move away from being accessible. It's harsh but that's the only way you both will have space to move on.
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2017 6:29pm
If it is bothering you and keeping you from moving on, then I guess it is time to make your boundaries really clear to them. Tell them how you honestly feel and that you can't continue to stay in touch because it is not going to be healthy for you as well as your ex. If there is no other way they would stop, you might have to block them from all platforms. Remember the reason(s) why the relationship ended and stick to the decisions you made for your own good. Letting them interrupt your life will keep you from building yourself up and being independent again. So check with yourself again - what will be good for you? And then make sure you stick to it.
hailey2016
August 13th, 2015 9:37pm
Just tell your ex that you are trying to move on but you can still be friends and just contact them once a week or less if you would like just to see how their life is going. But if you dont want to be friends or they are harassing you you could block their number.
BroadwayBaby
November 17th, 2014 4:39pm
All you gotta do is tell them to go away. Explain why you feel uncomfortable with it. Maybe they'll understand that.
soccer12811
January 29th, 2016 1:21am
I had an ex do this to me, you just ignore them. Delete their texts, hit the little red button when they call.
PeaceWalker
May 9th, 2016 3:50am
It might seem harsh or difficult at the time, but you simply need to block communications with them.
JohanDwanian
May 9th, 2016 8:59pm
If your ex keeps contacting you and contact is not something you want or need you have to cut that contact. If telling your ex does not work you'll have to block or remove the means of contact for it to happen. It can be healthy for both parties to be able to let go and deal with things. You can always resume contact in the future if you both feel it is appropriate.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2017 4:20pm
What I did when my ex kept contacting me. I simply blocked his phone numer / any social media. Just banning someone out of your life might sometimes just make your life better especially if they hurt you.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 1:56am
if you still like him then take it if you don't then call the police
K4ye
September 25th, 2014 1:14pm
I would keep in touch sometimes, but no more than maintaining the relationship to prevent us from hating each other. And, while doing that, I will take time to configure my feelings, and decide what to do about it. If i know we are not going back together, I will make it clear for him, but tell him that we could always be friend
Kathlyng90
October 24th, 2014 11:48pm
It depends on if you'd like to keep in touch. If not, which it sounds like, simply explain to them that at this time you think it's best to go your separate ways. Do not be mean, or hurtful since they have feelings as well, and the intention isn't to hurt them.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 8:58pm
From my personal experience I can tell you that ignoring is the best way. You can block persons almost in every app nowadays. And if he/she won't stop calling you, changing your number may be an option.
Hannah716
October 7th, 2014 10:02pm
Politely tell them it is in your best interest not to contact them anymore. Staying in contact with ex's is often not a good idea.
willxhelp
August 13th, 2015 12:42pm
You just have to talk to him and make him understand that you moved on and he have to move on as well
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 4:51am
You can maybe politely ask him to respect your privacy and not try to engage in uninvited conversation unless its mutal. If this doesn't work you can block him off your social media handles and use appropriate tools available in privacy settings of all major social media sites. You can ask your close friends and trusted allys to make sure you dont have to share companys at any parties or outings. If your partner tries to do stuff beyond your comfy level, feel free to contact your local authorities or the concerned officials. For most of my cases a good conversation, asking them to accept the end of the relation and respect each others personal space usally works. Good luck!
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 2:52am
Answer it and ask him what he wants so you will know. And then its up to you to make decisions. In Tha way.. You can either tell him to stop
wecanbeheroes
January 23rd, 2016 3:51pm
Your ex keeps contacting you. You don't want to talk to him/her for some reason. Would you like to talk about that?
lovemeforever6
February 6th, 2016 4:13am
Ask him to stop if he doesn't follow your request block all communications with him via text social media and or by phone.
cianbrennan
January 7th, 2016 8:16am
Continue blocking him/ her, repeated attempts are just demonstrations of being desperate. Any contact with your ex immediately after a breakup is not a good idea at all, emotions are still highly strung and it's highly unlikely anything productive will come from an exchange. Leave it for a few months until you're sure that you're over the relationship and then maybe attempt contact to resolve any issues you may have but only if you want to. You're the only person who can give yourself closure.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 12:30pm
Well, you can be friends with him/her. If you feel like being disturbed, be straightforward.I hope your ex understands!
Elleh
January 21st, 2016 10:47pm
I think that depends on your relationship and the breakup really. If you were on good terms then perhaps you can politely ask them to stop contacting you and that will be enough. If it wasn't so good and/or asking them to stop hasn't worked then it might be best to block them from contacting you where ever possible. If they still won't leave you alone and you feel you are being harassed by them then this more serious and it will probably best to speak to someone about this and get some extra help and support, especially if you need to report them to the authorities. If it is bothering you and making you feel bad then it is not acceptable and you do not have to put up with this.
Aniikama
August 2nd, 2016 3:47am
It's possible they may still like you. Just explain to them you wish not to talk to them and block them.
Uniqueg
October 23rd, 2014 9:56pm
It depends if it makes you uncomfortable, let them know how it makes you feel and be firm with your decision.