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What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?

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What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?
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BLMlove15
July 1st, 2015 10:45pm
Alert the ex in clear, explicit terms that you do not wish to be contacted anymore. Take legal action if necessary.
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 3:39am
It depends on how your ex is contacting you. If he or she is harassing you, it is important to seek help. You can also block phone numbers and block him or her from all social media accounts if necessary. Or if you feel comfortable and safe, them them know that you don't want any contact with them.
orla0910
July 2nd, 2015 9:38am
If you don't want to talk to your ex then I suggest you block him on everything as it will just help you move on from him. Block his friends too incase you see photos of him.
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 12:32pm
I would welcome her with an open heart if Im not commited to anyone......................................................................................................
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 7:18pm
If you still likehim/her, contact them back and tell them how you feel. If you are over with them, just tell them to stop contacting you. If they keep pestering you, block their number.
neverendingMelon46
July 3rd, 2015 6:15am
If you don't want them too, just keep telling them. Exs get bored and give up eventually. They are usually just lo0king to cause trouble because they are jealous, but they will give up eventually so don't give in to them
TheAnonymousHelp
July 3rd, 2015 6:17am
if you like it then talk to them if you don't then tell them it needs to stop or at least slow down
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 5:01pm
You block him on everything and if he keeps bothering you go to the police and get a restraining order on him
Happytolisten88
July 4th, 2015 11:20am
It's always better to maintain a friend,y relation even after real up so u can or he can contact but until in limits it's fine once it seems like stalking u ...u can always avoid :-)
Anonymous
July 4th, 2015 4:32pm
Ask him not to. Explain that you are over and be gentle. You need to let them know that you have moved on so should they.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2015 7:06pm
Ignore them if you don't want to talk to him, if you do than talk to him. Ignoring him is the best thing you can do.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 2:24am
Depending on the situation and how things are left, consider whether you want to speak with him or not. Sometimes contact with exes can lead to more hostility in my experience it's best to the intention and motive of the conversation. If you're personally fine and have moved on it may be healthy of you to refrain from such contact.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 5:57am
depends on why your ex is contacting if you had a bad break up and your ex is guilty and you feel like you can give a chance to them then go for it or otherwise just tell them you moved on and if that's not gonna work block the communications , you know technology leaves you with many choices :)
VARabbit
July 5th, 2015 10:57am
Understand that your ex may not be as 'over' the relationship as you are. Understand that they are also human, wanting to express themselves. But you are also human. If they only have friendly intentions, so be it, and be friends, nothing more. However, if you feel uncomfortable with them trying to get closer to you than you'd like, calmly tell them that you have moved on and they should to. It won't be easy as they might lash out, but you have to stay strong and understand that they are just letting out their emotions as well because they may be upset that you don't want to get back together. Remember to stay strong. If they still persist, you may need to tell a person close to you or get help from the police if the contacting gets worse until it turns into stalking.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 4:42pm
You can talk to them, tell them that you don't want to talk to s/he anymore. That the two of you are exes for a reason. If they keep persisting, you can always block their number if your phone allows you that function.
PondIsle
July 5th, 2015 8:25pm
If it's unwanted contact, I would make sure to state so. If they continue, you can block them on most social media sites, and there are free phone apps that allow you to block numbers. If it gets to the point where it's harassing, you may want to seek further action...
peachysunny
July 5th, 2015 8:51pm
block him on all social media and if you need to don't be scared to contact the police because you deserve to be happy and safe
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 12:07am
In my experience, answer them firmly and assertively by telling them that you have moved on/are trying to move on.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 1:31am
It depends whether or not you keep contacting them back. It depends upon whether or not you secretly enjoy it. If you honestly want your ex out of your life, block them. Unfriend them. Unfollow them. All that jazz. It's okay to remove someone from your life if all they add is pain and regret. If you want to stay in contact, whether as friends or as more, be careful. Remember why they are your "ex." Remind yourself what made it worth ending that relationship. Don't let them tie you back into that same trance you started with. Be polite. Be frank. If you truly think they've changed, and your intuition tell you so, give them another chance. That's all your call. Just be wary of this option. I would not recommend it.
DipityEnigma
July 8th, 2015 10:16am
Talk to your family and ask them to support you along with your friends. The route a lot of people have taken in this situation is to get a restraining order but that really depends on you and your situation. If they're contacting you over social media, simply block their accounts. If they're contacting you by phone, block their number using one of the many phone blocking apps out there. If they're contacting you by e-mail, put into your spam folder. When they start coming round to your house, stalking you or pretending that they've just run into you in the street, you could always threaten them with a restraining order but don't say it to them if you're not willing to go through with your threat. It is a difficult situation and I don't know all the details and this step really is a biggy to be left when you have no other options but it's worth it. Some people say there's no point, they don't care about it but the more they break the restraining order, the more trouble they get into and it goes on their record. I'm sure it won't come to that but the information is there if needed. I hope your problem is solved soon if not already.
Lucie27
July 8th, 2015 1:18pm
It can be really tricky when an ex or old friend try to maintain contact, where you know that it isn't healthy for you to speak with them. It can be difficult to know the best way of letting them know that you'd rather they keep their distance. My best advice would be to make sure they understand what YOU want. Make the boundaries clear. Say to them; " I understand that you want to talk, but I really need to have some space right now"
Ametrine
July 8th, 2015 4:31pm
If you do not wish to be contacted, calmly explain that you don't wish to hear from them under and circumstances and block them from reaching you. If it is still an issue, you may need to set up new accounts online and change your telephone number.
Sunflowerseverywhere
July 8th, 2015 7:39pm
Let them know that you don't wish to hear from them. Make this very clear. If they keep trying to get in touch, consider explaining to them that the relationship is over, really over.Lastly, try to block him/her from your social media profiles, block their number on your cellphone etc.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 8:16am
Start by explaining why things didn't and aren't going to work out. Ask nicely that they leave you alone. If that fails I suggest blocking the number.
NDS369
July 9th, 2015 10:44am
He is contacting you because you are letting him. It's up to you what you really want, you have to ask yourself that.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 1:33pm
Tell him that you do not wish to be incontact with him if thats what you want but if not then talk to the police or parent/gaurdian
Personalitikhum
July 9th, 2015 2:35pm
I know how it feels to be ignored by an ex, who I've just broken up with. So knowing the feeling I could empathize. I would smoothen the process of breaking up gradually instead of cutting of contact all of a sudden which is a big blow.
RIPGwenStacy11
July 10th, 2015 1:26am
Call your service provider and tell them to block their numbers. Block them on all social media. If it goes any father then that get a restraining order.
Imhereforyou88
July 10th, 2015 5:20am
Tell him flat out to stop messaging you and if he doesn't tell your parent mom/dad/legal guardian and if that doesn't stop it get a new phone number
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 6:40am
If you do not want your ex to keep contacting you, you can tell him/her that. Or you can just ask that person why he/she is contacting you.