What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?
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It can be really hard to deal with an ex who keeps trying to contact you. If you are under 18, it is much easier than once you are no longer considered a minor. The following steps helped me make my ex realize that I never wanted him to contact me again:
1) Asking him/her to stop contacting you. Keep it calm and polite.
If that doesn't work:
2) Telling him/her to stop contacting you. Try to keep calm and try to remain relatively polite. But also know that he/she will try to push your buttons.
If that happens:
3) You may need to involve someone else (i.e. a friend who will tell him/her to stop talking to you, getting a restraining order, etc.).
Anonymous
December 11th, 2015 9:06pm
Work out how you are feeling before taking other peoples feelings on board. You are the expert on you
If you don't wish to be contacted, it isn't difficult to block someone on your phone, email, social media etc. Ignoring all attempts works too..after a while of being ignored, people tend to put their attention elsewhere. Hope this helps.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 4:40am
tell him/her you don't want to talk to him and block him if he keeps bothering, you can also call police and ask for a restraining order
It depends what they're contacting you about and why you guys broke up in the first place. If they claim they have changed their ways, test that anonymously, and then make a decision on if they're worthwhile or not. Unless you don't want to get back together of course, but honestly I want to get back together with my ex.... If they are bullying you, then remove them from your life completely. Delete the texts, remove and/or block them on social media, and just don't respond to whatever they say.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 6:17pm
You can choose to talk to him and just talk like causal friend. If I oh don't want to talk to him though just block him number.
Break ups can be very hard and sometimes it is difficult for the people involved to let go or accept the reality of the situation. If you do not want your ex to contact you and you have made this clear and their contact is unwanted and causing you discomfort. There are measures you can take such as changing your number and other sources that they are using to contact you. If this persists you could seek legal advice. citizens advice, could be useful.
Explain that you have no interest in reconnecting with them. If they continue to harras you, contact legal help.
Ask them to stop politely. Usually we tend to give a reaction but if we surprise them with calm and polite manner then they'll be overwhelmed to a point they don't know how to react
Tell him/her how U feel on the subject hope he/she stops and comes to realise what it's doing to you
That depends on whether you want the contact. If you don't, politely ask him/her to stop. If they won't, change your cell/mobile number/home number and ignore contact with them. Block them on Facebook. If they are a danger to you, call the police - don't think they will just "go away" - some people can become aggressive and if you're dealing with that type of person, it's best to seek professional help (ie. the police).
If blocking fails,and he still tries to contact you.Then save all his messages,calls and text and file a police report.Inform close friends and your work that you want no contact with this individual.
well if you want them to contact them then ok but if not tell them how you feel about them contacting you but do it in a polite manner
Its okay to stay in contact with your ex its even fine when you are friends its okay. But if you don't like to be in contact with your ex maybe you should consider telling them about it.
If you've asked them to stop and they wont maybe try and block them on whatever platform they are contacting you on. On the other hand, you could try talking to them, asking why they keep contacting you.
That depends on what you want. Do you want to stay in touch and try keeping a friendship? Or do you want her to stop? You can everytime communicate to other people what your wishes upon such topics are!
If your ex is contacting you for good reasons i think you can be friends. we dont have to ignore anyone.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 5:36pm
I'd start off by asking him/her to stop and if that doesn't work I'd block the number and if he/she found a way to contact you again I would warn him/her that you are going to report him/her harassment and if he/she does it again report him for harassment
You should reply him in a mature manner. Although, if you're not comfortable with it, you could bring it up to him, and told him that you may need some space at the moment. Avoiding it wouldn't solve the issue, approaching it may :)
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 6:54pm
Simple solution. Block their number and just ignore them. Simple. Just don't talk to them and if it gets to harassment then tell someone
I recommend you speak to them and explain that they're bothering you or maybe block their account or phone number
Clearly state that you do not wish to be contacted, block them on social media, loose their number and ignore any other contacts, if you do not wish to interact with them any more.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2015 1:42am
If you have asked them to stop calling and it still persists there are several options. You could change the number, file harassment charges, you could just ignore the calls and let them go into your voicemail and then maybe your ex will get bored.
Listen for once and if you want let him be your friend to see how it goes. But if your heart feels that it is not right, move on and never look back.
If I am still interested, I would entertain my ex. If not, I will not care anymore. Even if my ex promises me to give me the world.
It's important to set boundaries. Oftentimes, breakups can be messy and boundaries aren't necessarily set. Take the time to talk to your ex and explain why them contacting you is making you uncomfortable and why you don't think it's a good idea that things continue the way they are. Remember to use I-messages, where you refer to yourself (your own feelings and thoughts about the situation), and do not place too much blame on your ex. By being assertive, your ex should be more accommodating to your needs and respectful of your space.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 9:27am
Block him. If it gets too much you can talk to someone who can help you to get your ex to stop with contacting you
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 4:48pm
You can politely tell him that you no longer want him to be calling/texting you and get a new number
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 7:54pm
If an ex keeps contacting you just ignore him. Don't see him or talk to him until your ready to talk.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 3:53am
If your ex girlfriend/boyfriend/partner has been contacting you what I would do is block the number or change my own number along with blocking them on other social media sights.
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