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What do you do if you have a crush on the person that has already broken your heart once?

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Last Updated: 03/26/2018 at 1:56pm
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Anonymous
April 3rd, 2015 6:29pm
If they have already hurt you once, Do not go back to them. This is the hardest thing to do, but you cannot go back. They will only hurt you again okay? Take it from me, I have done this and it didnt end well. Don't go back to someone that has hurt you before
Anonymous
June 10th, 2015 5:38pm
You are worth more than the value the person your pitting for places on you. You deserve so much more than have to constantly run after someone who clearly doesn't know how amazing and absolutely brilliant you are.
Ubby
February 2nd, 2016 8:15pm
It's perfectly normal to still have feelings for someone who broke your heart. In fact, sometimes when you have a broken heart, your feelings for them seem stronger in a twisted way. Try to think logically, and consider if this person is really right for you despite how you feel about them. Why and how did they break your heart? Is it something you have forgiven them for, or would it instigate fights later if you were with them?
lovelyTouch90
February 1st, 2016 6:22pm
Feelings are what make a person human. You having feelings for someone who has broken your heart is OK. Just know that the attempts you may have made in trying to work with that person didnt work for a reason. The world is full of people just like you with so much love to give, we just have too learn how and when to stop giving our hearts to the same people that continue to break them. It isnt a simple task to do but is it possible? Yes.
sprinkleofhappiness1
December 28th, 2015 8:18pm
If you start liking someone that you have been with in the past this is a normal thing because you know who they are and you are comfortable around them. You should write a list of the bad and good things he/she has done and you can decided which list is better for you. You can listen to peoples advice but always do what you feel is best because after all its your life.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2015 10:17am
If I have a crush on someone who already broke my heart, there are two possibilities I will do: first, I will try again and the second one is I'll stop myself because I don't want the past to happen again.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2015 8:07pm
Chin up. Approach from a different angle, maturity and friendship. Chances are you'll see them in a whole new light and be able to move on. :)
divinewillpower86
January 4th, 2016 12:27am
A crush is something that can be handled by a person inside. If some one has broken the heart once means he surely is Crush who does Crushing!
Anonymous
April 8th, 2015 1:23pm
you can always talk to a trusted friend, everyone deserves a second chance and maybe they have broken your heart but if you can open up your heart and trust them one more time things may work out
originalLion57
June 4th, 2015 10:22pm
Think about whether this person broke your heart on purpose or by accident and if they have shown remorse and understand that what they did was wrong. If they don't feel remorse and don't get why they made a mistake then you should definitely not give them another chance. Few people can learn from their mistakes and improve so that they never do it again, but be careful!!! And think about if the risk is worth it... if maybe there are other people who'd be better to take chances with. A crush often fades away after a few months, but real love doesn't.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2015 11:29am
What ever you feel is right. No one feels love the same. Second chances arent always a bad idea, but arent always a good idea. Depends on both of you and the situation.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2015 12:24pm
Move on and never look back. If they did it once, chances are they will do it again. If your crush is the one who shows interest, and is truly sorry for their actions and it feels right to you, go for it. Otherwise, burning bridges is sometimes the best option...that way you won't have to walk that path all over again.
Skyla7913
April 11th, 2016 8:11pm
It depends on how hurt you are and if you consider the risk worth taking. Remember how you felt, and ask yourself if you want to feel that way again.
Dazzle28purvi
June 15th, 2016 12:03am
You have to be strong and to remember to never go back to your ex. This will be fatal. But, you can always give the person a chance, depending on how willing you are to take the chance.
piag860517
July 1st, 2016 10:03pm
dont go there...listen..if a person that suppose to love you..borke your heart once..is going to do it again..people dont change...love your self, respect yourself...dont go there..never...if someone hurt you...100% is going to do it again...maybe not today...or in a couple of months but is going to do it... a person that loves you dosent break you
Anonymous
April 18th, 2017 5:19pm
I don't have a crush on that person. I love him. And he broke my heart just because he's tired of me. It made me feel weak and feel like i am worthless. Right now i am making more time for myself, family and friends,. I wanted to enjoy my life being me, cause i know who i am, i know my worth, and i don't need to insist myself on someone who made me feel worthless.
Summerrrrloverrrr
March 26th, 2018 1:56pm
You should try to get over him or try to make things better between you two. Maybe you’ll end up together or at least be friends