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what does it mean when he says he doesn't want to break up but he is not sure if he loves you anymore?

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Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 9:18am
It means for you to go on a break , you both need to see how much you cannot live without eachother
LibbyMaclain
February 23rd, 2018 11:24pm
It means that he is unsure of his feeling for you, but there are still some there. He still has friendly feelings, but maybe not romantic feelings. If he doesn't want to break up with you but doesn't feel like he loves you anymore, it could also mean that he really cares about you and doesn't want to hurt you.
GoddessOfBlossoms
February 18th, 2018 1:12pm
It may mean that he is trying to take some time with you to make sure that he is not really in love with you or maybe, he may think that his feeling of uncertainty for you is just temporary.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2018 7:04pm
Only he can truly understand what he means. But if he doesn't love you, why stay in a relationship with him? It seems pointless.
HouseOfGold21
January 18th, 2018 2:23pm
He probably just needs some time to think things through. He could be quite unsure about his own feelings, but he is sure that he still wants you in his life.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2018 11:02pm
It means that he is confused about the fact that he doesn't know if he loves you but doesn't want to loose you.
Joye74
January 4th, 2018 2:35pm
Human emotions are not like a digital clock or cannot be described in binary code of yes or no. He may not want to break up in the hope of recovering and resuming his emotions for you.
havartilikeits1999
December 8th, 2017 2:41am
Well, it sounds like he's confused if he still has feelings of love towards you, but he still either cares about you, sees value in your relationship, or is afraid of the upheaval that comes with a breakup. How do you feel? Does this relationship have value for you? Do you feel love for him?
Brittneym101
February 25th, 2017 12:33am
It means that he doesn't know what he wants and his feelings are unclear at the moment. He wants to keep you around, but he needs time to figure out if he still loves you so he is giving it a chance before he calls it quits to make sure that he is doing the right thing.
BeautifulOutlaw
September 15th, 2016 9:36am
That's a very difficult situation for anyone to be in. Ask him why he's not sure if he loves you anymore, or what's changed for him to feel that way.
cheerfulcat15
September 16th, 2016 7:10pm
I think it means that he is starting to loose interest. He still feels a connection and can't let go yet but he can feel you two drifting apart. This is human nature, people grow apart. It could also mean he just needs a bit of space to figure out himself before he can figure you out.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2017 6:52pm
I'd say it means he's afraid of change. Because breaking up means life will becpme pretty different, like, you need to get used to getting along on your own again. And it will feel pretty lonely and unfamiliar (at least at the beginning). So in a way NOT breaking up is the easier option, because everything will stay the same and he can stay in his comfort zone.
Greatlistener87
September 15th, 2016 2:07am
He could be comfortable in the relationship but if he is not in love with you then why hold you back. If you are looking for comfort then thats fine but if you are looking to move forward then you guys should think of what you guys should do next.
Anonymous
September 14th, 2016 1:16pm
He is quite confused. He needs sometime to look forward into the matter. Talk with him, know what is bothering him.
Anonymous
January 5th, 2016 2:34pm
That means he's a jerk and it's about time you leave him. If he really loves you he won't be confused ever
courageousHand84
October 20th, 2016 10:55am
It means he doesn't want somebody to have you as their gf, because he cant take that and that will be either due to jealousy or his inability to not you look after you. Or he is confused about his feelings towards you he doesnt know whether its love or lust he has to you.
WalkinDownRapperBlvd
December 8th, 2015 3:45pm
It means that he needs time to figure out his feelings. Either that or he wants that status of a relationship.
ImallEars97
November 10th, 2015 3:31am
This can be a difficult situation to discuss, however, communication is key to understanding why it is their feeling have changed. Feeling misunderstood or not understanding why something has happened can leave you feeling sad, alone and misguided. To avoid this, try to discuss the reasons for their change in feelings and try to understand their point of view on the situation. If things are for the best, try to reach a mutual compromise of what is to happen next but being honest and clear can really help in knowing exactly where you both stand. I hope this has helped you and I wish you all the best. :)
ItsStella
November 6th, 2016 10:03pm
It's probably him saying that he wants to be friends at the least and doesn't want to ruin anything between you two.
WhimsicalPumpkin27
November 12th, 2016 8:19am
He's confused. He wants to be with you but is unsure on how he feels so he needs to think about it. Give him time and space, he'll figure it out
Anonymous
February 15th, 2017 11:42am
Perhaps he just needs some time apart from you. It's a good idea to spend time apart, it brings you closer together as a couple and you and he could appreciate one another's presence more.
YourFriendforever
March 5th, 2017 10:13am
There can be a lot of meanings.. personally I feel he is confused and he doesn't want to lose you as a friend either. He just wants things to be fine so in that case talking to him and asking him about what he is going through and what he has in his mind is important. :)
tidyTurtle2476
March 17th, 2017 9:52pm
it means that he doesn't know what he wants. I would ask him if he needs space in order to sort our his feelings
RaluuuM
May 30th, 2015 5:47pm
He is just confused, and you have to talk abot this, and see what he really feels about this relationship.
Tranquilshadows
April 14th, 2017 9:18pm
In my opinion, it means he's comfortable with you and cares for you, but isn't sure if that necessarily translates to romantic love. it's the kind of thing you should speak to him about.
ChangeofPerspective
November 16th, 2017 5:54am
It may mean you'll only find out the truth when you walk away or give yourself a break from the emotional turmoil. I would rather know than waste time in a conditional relationship, but every person must make the decision based on their own experience.
Anonymous
May 27th, 2015 3:32am
He might need some time to think about where his relationship with you is going. If he isn't sure if he loves you, he needs to figure that out if he truly does or else there is no point in the relationship.
Anonymous
May 24th, 2020 11:52pm
There is still a part of him that loves you and is holding on to the great memories and moments that he shared with you. Being in love has its good and bad, and it brings people to crossroads at times, because the thought of breaking up with someone means you lose the person that made you so happy, and the moments and feelings you want to have and feel again won't be felt when you let go of that special person. However, the doubts, insecurities, and arguments create rough patches and obstacles that are hard to overcome, which at this point tests his willingness to stay for love. It's a painful process, but love has its own way of bringing you different experiences and emotions in your life. If he turns out not to be the one, then there is someone out there who will come into your life and make it better than it was before, and he will help you see the brightest light and experience the utmost happiness.
SamBright
June 10th, 2020 7:34pm
Try to take this time and remember the reasons why you are together in the first place. When a relationship starts, it's flooded with emotions and it could be very exciting. When some time passes by, you might not feel like you are gaining as much as the beginning. But if you believe there is still love there, do some things to help him know that you care. Make sure he knows that you're committed to saving the relationship, and if it ends up not working out then you'll still know that you did everything that you could to make it work.
usefulBubbles6826
February 25th, 2022 9:48am
May be he wants to keep something that he loves from the relationship, but he feels like something has gone missing. Maybe he is afraid of losing stability, or an important friendship that also is an aspect of the relationship. It's also possible that he feels a lack of thrill that is just naturally fading away when romantic relationships grow to be more secure. But what's the case here, is hard to tell without knowing more about the situation. All I can guess is that he is missing something - which can be be something in the relationship, something from the partner or something within himself - but at the same time he is afraid of losing something.