what does it mean when he says he doesn't want to break up but he is not sure if he loves you anymore?
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It means that he is experiencing conflict in where he isn't sure if his feelings for you are as strong but this doubt does not override his attachment to the relationship. And so he does not want to break up in case he regrets it and lose something valuable. Perhaps both of you two should take a break to sort out where you both stand.
Anonymous
October 23rd, 2016 5:48am
It means that he likes what you are doing, but he just doesn't feel the chemistry anymore. He is comfortable, but not crazy about you.
It can mean several things. The person may be afraid of being alone. The person may be afraid to break the relationship with the other person. Fear that the person wants him. It may mean that the person is afraid to make a choice. Or perhaps the opposite, afraid of hurting the other person.
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2016 10:08pm
It means that he probably doesn't know what he wants at that exact moment. Give him some time to think about it and tell him that you want to know if he wants to continue having a relationship or if he wants to end it, because if he keeps you on a leash you will end up more broken then you should be.
This could very well mean that he is afraid he's missing out on the single life. He may feel there are places to go and people to see, and he's concerned about being committed to one person in one place. Hey may need time on his own to figure this out. If you love him, give him that time. If you cannot tolerate the idea of him seeing another person while you're on a break, tell him so. It's always best to let a person know how you feel and where they stand.
His feelings has changed but he is scared to move on. He is comfortable in the current relationship.
Anonymous
February 18th, 2017 10:41pm
My guess is that what he's really saying is he's concerned about your wellbeing, but really isn't feeling what he used to feel. He cares about you deeply, but just can't feel the way you need him to feel. It's tough, but it's better than some alternatives. He cares. He wants to know you're going to be okay.
He is confused. Try to give him space. Call it a break but not break up. If he seems to enjoy not being by your side and then let him go and be understanding evem if it hurts.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2017 1:16am
It means that you have to give him some space to think about his priorities. If his priority isn't your relationship, you probably should take a break and see what happens from then on
Anonymous
June 21st, 2017 2:38pm
It means that he does not take your relationship seriously. I mean it depends how long this relationship lasts, but in most cases it's possibly because he doesn't want to be alone and he's just waiting to find another partner. Life is brutal, unfortunately.
Firstly I'm so sorry to hear you're going through such a tough time. From my personal experience it sounds like your partner is confused, perhaps there is a lot going on in his life and it is making him unsure about what he wants, doesn't want and what makes him happy in general. It sounds like the best thing you can do right now is make your feelings for him known and be there for him as he tries to confirm how he feels.
You have to understand the situation and talk to him about this. He loves you and don't want to leave you. May be he is going through some kind of problem or may be you need to make some changes in your relationship. Give some time and ask him is there anything in our relationship that is annoying him so that you can change it. Sometimes there is something that a guy can't talk about because he thinks it would hurt your feelings and that's what creats a gap or a problem in relation. You need to discuss and give him some time and for sometime go according to his way.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2017 2:07pm
It may mean that he is too lonely to be out of a relationship, sometimes it's comforting for people to want to be in a relationship when they don't love someone.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2017 7:11am
It means like he doesn't want to end the relationship between you two but he kind lost the feelings for you
Anonymous
September 19th, 2017 2:56am
Generally, assume that people mean exactly what they say - he isn't sure if he loves you, but he doesn't want to break up. I would think that maybe this means that he wants to be honest with you about how he is feeling, but he wants to try and work through his feelings and be sure he really understands them before deciding to break up.
he cares about you enough so he doesn´t want to hurt you by breaking up but may be the love is over for him
He do not want to lose you like a person. Maybe you he can get his feelings back to you. You mean a lot in his life
When we do something for a long time,it will become a habit of us..
It will be hard for us to let it go..
Maybe for him,he is confused and unsure about the love but feels insecure and guilty of breaking up..
He is unsure about his feelings. Probably needs time to get things figured out and what to do next.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2018 6:49pm
It might mean that he is unsure of his emotions. In the case that you were in an argument recently, it could be that he is in a conflicted state of emotions. He might be laying emphasis to the good times you spent together but is having trouble processing the bad stuff.
Anonymous
February 16th, 2018 3:48am
It's beacuse he wants to love but he is not sure whether to love with trust or just pretend to love
And in second scenario he could have moved on but not letting you move on.
Anonymous
February 24th, 2018 7:50am
Personally i would give him time to gather his thoughts and i would do the same, as id feel it was best for me and for my partner in question at the time
Anonymous
March 7th, 2018 1:55pm
It’s either he doesn’t want to hurt you or he is afraid of being alone, that staying in the relationship is easier than breaking up..
Anonymous
March 7th, 2018 2:50pm
It might mean that he's having doubts about his feelings towards you. He might be feeling uncertain if he does still love you and he wouldn't want to regret breaking up if that's true.
Anonymous
March 9th, 2018 8:37am
When he says he doesn’t want to break up but isn’t sure he loves you anymore he means he stills has feelings for you’ve but doesn’t want to continue a relationship with you.
It means that he doesn't want to hurt you but he is unsure of his feelings and he surely needs a break to figure them out.
Anonymous
April 1st, 2018 6:26am
It means he’s not mature enough to end a relationship he’s comfortable in even though his feelings have changed.
Personally, I think he's trying to cope with his own conflicting emotions. He may not feel "love" for you, but he doesn't want to lose you.
It means that your relationship might be going to the road leading to a breakup but it never means you can't turn back. Knowing that one person in the relationship isn't is important, you can't let he/she be dragged through a relationship only you really desire. You need to ask yourself this one question, Are you really happy?
Being in a one-sided relationship is very hard to deal with and can lead you down the wrong path, its important to talk to the person about how you BOTH actually feel and choose if you want to turn back or head to the road leading to a breakup.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 7:49pm
It basically means that he is not sure that he wants the relationship with you and you might have different interests. In this situation its best to guard your heart
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