Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

What does it mean when your love says he will come back to you but not right now he has to sort everything out?

2 Answers
Last Updated: 04/21/2020 at 5:29pm
1 Tip to Feel Better
United States
Moderated by

Polly Letsch, LCSW

Clinical Social Work/Therapist

I provide non-judgmental, person-centered, objective therapeutic treatment for individuals of all ages to improve social, emotional, mental and other areas of functioning.

Top Rated Answers
travelingwhisper
April 13th, 2020 10:37pm
He needs space to emotionally and mentally understand himself better; he'll update you when he has better understanding. Just focus on yourself so you can get through the waiting period with as much grace and comfortability as you can - it'll demonstrate your security in yourself and in your relation with him. It may be tempting to take the path of least resistance, which could be to worry and worry and worry - or it could be the opposite, which is to distract yourself and push *him* further away by rejecting him or whatever means so you can feel safe. However, both of those protest behaviors won't achieve your quiet, true goal, which is to feel connected with him. So bank on trust that you'll be okay and take care of yourself.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2020 5:29pm
He probably needs some time to figure out what he is going through, alone. Sometimes it’s best to be alone without thinking about others problems and all of that. Its not always about you so don’t worry too much, I’m sure everything will work out after he’s made his mind up. Thinking about it too much can cause you to overthink and stress and it might create more of a problem than there already is between you and him. So try to stay positive and maybe check up on him occasionally and maybe even offer him your support as always :)