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What is the best way to get revenge on an ex?

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Last Updated: 04/24/2020 at 8:08pm
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April 7th, 2016 8:41pm
How about you DON"T get revenge on anyone. Revenge seems like a great way to get rid of that feeling of pain and loss but in reality it isn't healthy for you or anyone around you. Revenge won't get rid of that hate and anger you have inside.
April 9th, 2016 9:42am
Be happy with yourself, and take care of yourself! Don't engage in any activities that you feel will hurt them but might also hurt yourself, like unsafe sex, doing things you don't feel ready for, etc.
April 9th, 2016 11:07am
The best way would be to show that you are truly happy without them, and whether they broke your heart or abused you or believe that they hurt you, show them that they were just a stepping stone on the pathway to something much greater, and you realize that now, and because they are out of your life, you are happy
April 10th, 2016 8:01pm
By being the happiest version of yours. That you are still happy/better without them. That I think is the best way for you to move on and your ex to burn.
April 14th, 2016 4:49pm
And why get a revenge? I *understand* that you are mad, and you hate your ex at this very given moment, but think deeper, would revenge *really* make you happier? Causing unhappiness because you were hurt? I don't know any best ways to get revenge, I never thought deeper of that, but I hope that you change your mind sooner or later. Good luck !
April 17th, 2016 9:12pm
I don't believe in getting revenge.I believe what goes around comes around,so hurting someone purposely,only hurts ourself.I think doing good is what is best.
April 21st, 2016 5:55am
Revenge doesnt help. Infact if you try to harm your ex in anyway possible you will only regret it later. Give it time. These feelings will subside.
April 21st, 2016 8:25pm
The best revenge you can make is simply being happy without him/her !
April 22nd, 2016 4:49am
You dont, it doesmt matter what they did wromg its never the answer, ots wromg it can backfire and it can just end with someone hurt
May 30th, 2016 1:09am
The best way to get revenge is by moving on. There is no need to get back at someone who did you wrong.
August 2nd, 2016 5:04am
The best revenge is for you to move on and do better than you were doing when you were with that person.
October 3rd, 2016 2:46am
Don't get revenge. Don't go to their level. The best revenge is be the better person. Karma will get to them.
December 12th, 2017 6:54am
Show them you're happy without them and still be kind towards them. Don't let someone see they had a negative effect on you.
February 20th, 2018 11:41pm
Get all your stuff back, engagement ring, furniture, bed, fridge, money and then walk away! Don't hold any grudges.
April 3rd, 2018 8:18pm
Go to the gym, improve yourself, that's the best revenge you can get, not only will your body thank you, your ex might want to come back after a improvement. If you want something quicker, date one of their closest friends, that always gets the job done, also take many pictures with their friend.
November 13th, 2018 2:26pm
The best way to get revenge on an ex is to be completely and totally happy on your own, without them. To have them thinking that they wish they were with you because you're emanating positivity and light and you earned it. The best revenge would to be to forgive them and help them overcome whatever negative parts if them caused you to want revenge in the first place. The best revenge would be to end up better without them, working on yourself and your soul, healing and refreshing and learning to love yourself in a way you didnt in the relationship.
March 18th, 2019 10:38pm
Be happy. Don't dwell, walk away and pick up elsewhere. They will look at some point so make sure you're smiling. Or I dunno, post them a spider. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
March 30th, 2020 3:26pm
The best way to get revenge on an ex is to live a happy healthy fulfilling life!!! The idea of revenge is counter productive. When you hold that kind of resentment and anger you stay connected to the person who has hurt you....let it go and in time it will all seem like it happened in another lifetime Although you can't imagine that happening now, it is 100 percent true. Our minds and hearts are not meant to live in the past or to live in hurt. Remove the obstacles and you will naturally heal Take it from someone who has been there Your heart will grow stronger with each positive thought!
April 24th, 2020 8:08pm
This is a question people often ask when they break up with someone and they are hurt. This isn't to say their emotion isn't valid, because it is. Breakups are hard for all participants, no matter how quickly or not they move on. And in response to what this ex maybe did, some people think they need to seek revenge and hurt them back. People don't need to do this, as honestly it is a waste of your time, energy, and happiness. My favorite response to this question or "How can I get revenge or payback" is to do nothing. I also reply the best way to "get revenge" is to succeed and be happy with yourself or someone else. If you let them stay in the past and move forward from them, you're already on your way to "revenge".