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What to do if a guy cheats on his girlfriend with you?

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Last Updated: 12/13/2020 at 6:08pm
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July 28th, 2019 7:03am
This is a horrible feeling and has happened to me before. A guy used me and I didn't know he had a girlfriend until afterwards. I dealt with this in the best way I could by one, telling his girlfriend what happened. She wasn't happy with me and thought I was lying because I had a crush on her boyfriend but then she realized I was telling the truth and we became close friends. Then, two, I made sure to tell myself that none of it was my fault. I didn't know he had a girl friend so there was no reason for me to assume he did. He was an honest guy, or so I thought. Do his girlfriend a favor and tell her what he did. She may not be happy with you but you are still doing a great service to her by doing this. :)
January 18th, 2020 2:28pm
If a guy cheats on you with his girlfriend means that he never really loved his girlfriend. If he cared for her then he would not have wanted to disappoint her by doing this. And considering the fact that he never really loved her I don’t think he is capable of loving you either.Honestly I think you should politely reject him and encourage him to be loyal to his girlfriend not so that he feels better but so that his girlfriend does not get hurt by his actions. I hope my reply helped you and I hope my advice works 😊
May 17th, 2020 2:37pm
Try to put and end to it. You are probably hurting his girlfriend, but yourself as well. At some point the guy has to choose between you and his grilfriend. If he does not pick you, you will end up hurt. If he does pick you, you might encounter trust issues. if he cheated once, he might do it in your relationship as well. He should communicate to his girlfriend about what he wants. If he wants to be with you, its only fair to break up with his girlfriend. I think in the first place this is his choice and he should try to come to a respectful solution that works for you and the girlfriend.
August 27th, 2020 5:56pm
If you didn't know he was dating someone and found out later on, you should tell the girlfriend and provide evidence (because most girls will blame you and accuse you of ruining their relationship) once you tell her apologize and make sure she knows you weren't aware he was dating her. If you don't want to tell the girlfriend just block the guy and never talk to him again. When this happened to me, I blocked the guy and tried to avoid him (because we kept running into eachother), I didn't tell his fiance because I didn't know her or even knew how to reach her but I made sure people around him know he's a cheater.
June 5th, 2016 5:40pm
You need to tell his girlfriend that he cheated on her with you, that he is not good enough to deserve her or you. You may experience guilt.
June 6th, 2016 9:56am
If you didn't know, immediately cut off all contact from the guy. Reach out to the girlfriend in a polite informational message.
June 9th, 2016 9:53am
Consider how it might have made the girlfriend feel. If it were you being cheated on, would you feel upset or angry? Perhaps talk to the boy and ask that he tell his girlfriend what happened.
June 9th, 2016 1:40pm
Actually, I probably tell him that he cheats, next thing I do probably would be talking with him seriously about this and if he doesn't stop cheating I would leave him forever...
July 8th, 2016 10:21am
Speak to that guy directly , if you don't want to get involved between them tell him straight away and leave, and be happy you came to know about the matter soon enough.
July 31st, 2016 2:23pm
Calmly contact the girlfriend and tell her about it, if she doesn't believe you try to show her proof if you have any. Refrain from insulting her or the guy, stay calm the entire time and explain what he did. If she starts acting up, don't do the same. Try to calm her down in a nice and friendly way and end the conversation in a friendly way.
August 4th, 2016 8:53am
If I was in your situation, I would speak to the guy about what happened and tell him that he must tell her, otherwise you will tell her. It is unfair to keep her blinded by it and I think you should let her know, in my personal opinion it is the right thing to do. It will save even more of a heartbreak if she finds out further down the line. Good luck :)
September 7th, 2016 4:46am
The girl has the right to know who she's dating, i would make sure she found out that he cheated on her
September 8th, 2016 2:17pm
One thing is to decide if this is the kind of person you want to be associated with. If his qualities are so strong that you choose to be with him, prepare yourself for him doing the same to you with someone else.
September 8th, 2016 7:46pm
Firstly! If you love someone there should be trust and loyalty in a relationship. When it's high and if anyone of them are cheating then you have to let him go and move on.
September 25th, 2016 8:30am
I would ask the girl for forgiveness becose even though I have done it without knowing it is still a mistake
October 21st, 2017 5:28am
Ask him what he intends to do about cheating and if he plans on telling his girlfriend about cheating on her. If not then make sure that he knows that his girlfriend has the right to know that he has cheated and know that there are consequences for the both of us.
November 24th, 2017 6:49pm
That all depends on how you feel about it. You should probably talk to the guy, see what is up with him cheating with you.
December 22nd, 2017 5:21pm
First, if you were already aware this guy had a girlfriend you might feel bad at yourself. because this is such an unpleasant situation. Then, considering talking to the guy if you have the chance, asking him if he's willing to come clean and confess to her girlfriend he has cheated. I would suggest this first approach before talking to his girlfriend directly.
January 24th, 2018 4:48am
You have to question this man's loyalty. I mean if you to were to start a relationship for example, the chances of him repeating this cycle of behavior is pretty likely. Definitely be cautious and keep your best interest in mind.
March 1st, 2018 6:40am
Hey love! Please don't trust that guy because he'll definitely cheat you with other girl. the best will be to go save the girl whom he is cheating from a heartbreak.
March 1st, 2018 10:30am
That's a very sticky situation. At day's end, you weren't the bad person in this unless you knew he had a girlfriend and enabled him to cheat.
March 1st, 2018 8:04pm
Leave him. If he cheated on a girl to get you, it could mean he can do it again to get someone else.
March 5th, 2018 6:24pm
I will think he is not happy with his actual relationship and he has to talk about it with his girlfriend... I will not proceed to have something with him if I know he has someone waiting at home. I will put a stop on him if he tries to have sex with me.
March 31st, 2018 12:22am
Confront the boyfriend, and let him know you know, and talk to the other girlfriend and possibly break up with him.
May 11th, 2018 9:55am
This all comes down on your personal boundaries and moral compass. If you want to be involved or if you want to stay away from this triangle. If he did that once but he want to be with his GF, its more about him loosing it because of some issues in relation,but he doesn't want to leave her. If he coming back to you over and over again then you can decide if YOU want to play the second violin. But do not get involved with her. Stay in your own life position. Also you can say NO to him. Take Care.
May 29th, 2018 7:54am
Well you should know that it is wrong to begin with but stop the relationship the moment you know about it. It isnt nice to break a relationship and you wouldnt want someone to break yours
June 10th, 2018 2:08am
You got to walk away mentally and physically , it’s not okay for you to get hurt and constantly get hurt because you were afraid to walk away
June 22nd, 2018 6:30pm
Dump him, and tell him that is not a way to treat women. Or anyone. People should be treated with respect and kindness. And if you are going to chest maybe you shouldn't date.
June 23rd, 2018 10:34am
Put your self in that girls shoes and know that a cheater will always be a cheater and if he did that with his girlfriend then what to expect from him
June 23rd, 2018 6:39pm
I would not continue to see the boyfriend. In addition, If you knew he girlfriend you would tell her because she is in a relationship with someone who is cheating. Therefore, you can’t keep it to yourself.