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What to do if a guy cheats on his girlfriend with you?

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Last Updated: 04/09/2020 at 8:32pm
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gentleVision89
July 8th, 2016 10:21am
Speak to that guy directly , if you don't want to get involved between them tell him straight away and leave, and be happy you came to know about the matter soon enough.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2016 2:23pm
Calmly contact the girlfriend and tell her about it, if she doesn't believe you try to show her proof if you have any. Refrain from insulting her or the guy, stay calm the entire time and explain what he did. If she starts acting up, don't do the same. Try to calm her down in a nice and friendly way and end the conversation in a friendly way.
sweetCandy976
August 4th, 2016 8:53am
If I was in your situation, I would speak to the guy about what happened and tell him that he must tell her, otherwise you will tell her. It is unfair to keep her blinded by it and I think you should let her know, in my personal opinion it is the right thing to do. It will save even more of a heartbreak if she finds out further down the line. Good luck :)
thoughtfulPomegranate86
September 7th, 2016 4:46am
The girl has the right to know who she's dating, i would make sure she found out that he cheated on her
allnaturalUnicorns70
September 8th, 2016 2:17pm
One thing is to decide if this is the kind of person you want to be associated with. If his qualities are so strong that you choose to be with him, prepare yourself for him doing the same to you with someone else.
Armaanridhima123
September 8th, 2016 7:46pm
Firstly! If you love someone there should be trust and loyalty in a relationship. When it's high and if anyone of them are cheating then you have to let him go and move on.
Weliveonlyonce
September 25th, 2016 8:30am
I would ask the girl for forgiveness becose even though I have done it without knowing it is still a mistake
beju
October 19th, 2017 4:45am
The guy should be politely made to feel that what he is doing is not adding to his positive image. He should be made to realize that integrity gives positive self respect.
miaaM
October 21st, 2017 5:28am
Ask him what he intends to do about cheating and if he plans on telling his girlfriend about cheating on her. If not then make sure that he knows that his girlfriend has the right to know that he has cheated and know that there are consequences for the both of us.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2017 6:49pm
That all depends on how you feel about it. You should probably talk to the guy, see what is up with him cheating with you.
WatchingOverYou
December 22nd, 2017 5:21pm
First, if you were already aware this guy had a girlfriend you might feel bad at yourself. because this is such an unpleasant situation. Then, considering talking to the guy if you have the chance, asking him if he's willing to come clean and confess to her girlfriend he has cheated. I would suggest this first approach before talking to his girlfriend directly.
Imperfect84
January 24th, 2018 4:48am
You have to question this man's loyalty. I mean if you to were to start a relationship for example, the chances of him repeating this cycle of behavior is pretty likely. Definitely be cautious and keep your best interest in mind.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2018 3:29am
Well, know that he didn't deserve you. Your way better then they will ever will. There will be another guy who will care for you.
PrettyCupcake00
March 1st, 2018 6:40am
Hey love! Please don't trust that guy because he'll definitely cheat you with other girl. the best will be to go save the girl whom he is cheating from a heartbreak.
Cpcoleman1WSU
March 1st, 2018 10:30am
That's a very sticky situation. At day's end, you weren't the bad person in this unless you knew he had a girlfriend and enabled him to cheat.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 8:04pm
Leave him. If he cheated on a girl to get you, it could mean he can do it again to get someone else.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2018 6:24pm
I will think he is not happy with his actual relationship and he has to talk about it with his girlfriend... I will not proceed to have something with him if I know he has someone waiting at home. I will put a stop on him if he tries to have sex with me.
AbreeSmiles
March 31st, 2018 12:22am
Confront the boyfriend, and let him know you know, and talk to the other girlfriend and possibly break up with him.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2018 2:21am
I cant say that I know what would be right here. The thinking behind what you do now might help. You should think about some of the behaviors and how'd you'd like to approach it. To reiterate, he cheated on somebody which is wrong for them but also shows that he is on a path where you might enable him to do further bad things. They may seem happy but he is fundamentally troubled which will put their relationship in BAD trouble. So I suppose the answer is what will you be able to do? Whether it is, to tell the truth, to hurt the sensitivities and relationships of others, or to withhold. It all depends on what you'd prefer for their lives.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2018 1:30pm
The right thing is to confront the guy and tell him he needs to tell his girlfriend. If he chooses not to although it is not your place you need to try and put yourself in her position and think about what you would want
Vivian4
May 11th, 2018 9:55am
This all comes down on your personal boundaries and moral compass. If you want to be involved or if you want to stay away from this triangle. If he did that once but he want to be with his GF, its more about him loosing it because of some issues in relation,but he doesn't want to leave her. If he coming back to you over and over again then you can decide if YOU want to play the second violin. But do not get involved with her. Stay in your own life position. Also you can say NO to him. Take Care.
positiveHoliday65
May 26th, 2018 5:40am
In my opinion the best and only way is the true. Tell her girlfriend but don't do it aggressive. All of them needs to talk and expose the arguments, a lie only will break all the relationship between you, him and her girlfriend.
Beautifuldreamer98
May 29th, 2018 7:54am
Well you should know that it is wrong to begin with but stop the relationship the moment you know about it. It isnt nice to break a relationship and you wouldnt want someone to break yours
Bran21
June 10th, 2018 2:08am
You got to walk away mentally and physically , it’s not okay for you to get hurt and constantly get hurt because you were afraid to walk away
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2018 6:30pm
Dump him, and tell him that is not a way to treat women. Or anyone. People should be treated with respect and kindness. And if you are going to chest maybe you shouldn't date.
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2018 10:34am
Put your self in that girls shoes and know that a cheater will always be a cheater and if he did that with his girlfriend then what to expect from him
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2018 6:39pm
I would not continue to see the boyfriend. In addition, If you knew he girlfriend you would tell her because she is in a relationship with someone who is cheating. Therefore, you can’t keep it to yourself.
NickE
July 21st, 2018 8:20am
Gather many different opinions from people you are close to. If that is not available, take a step to talk to the guy's girlfriend and bring it to her awareness. After this, do not contact the guy in any way, shape, or form.if appropriate, block contact from both people.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2018 9:13pm
Talk to both him and possibly his girlfriend if needed. Remember, you know your friends and significant others best.
Allears247
July 25th, 2018 10:09am
I don't see much that you can do on your part. He will have to work that situation out on his own. If he was willing to cheat on his girlfriend with you don't you at the very least wonder if he'd do the same to you. Thats just not an ideal way to start a relationship, but I have seen some weird situation work out.