What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

The question before me is "What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?" As I remember it was Friedrich Nietzsche who said "You need to know, what kind of a monster you are" For me I dissected that in to "we are all unique", "we all have our strengths and weaknesses", "we all need to know about them". So, to answer this question (and I am assuming that we might be talking about anyone - including parent, partner, co-worker, boss, child etc.) I would recommend You to ask: - why is this meaningful for me? - can I speak to the "someone" and clarify what is it, that they need/expect (from me) and how they need it (dont forget to ask yourself if you are willing to accept)? - how can I tell them what I need in return (to feel meaningful/enough) - where is my limit (where there is more harm than good in the exchange and I need to back off/try something else, in order to save myself)

Remind yourself of all the great qualities you know you have and tell yourself that someone will accept you for you. Because at the end of the day, you'd wanna be with someone who you know is good enough for you, not the other way around. And if anything try your best to either see what good enough is for someone and maybe achieving that, but really one does not have to change for someone unless change is for the good of yourself. Sometimes we may have bad habits we don't always notice, so we see the not so good of ourselves, but we can always change...our habits and actions are in our control.

I find that the only person we should feel good enough for is ourselves. Everyone grows and learns at different paces. It is not the place of another to determine we as individuals are not good enough. They may say we are not good enough for them which is their choice to make. I still do not allow this to deter me from being the best me I can be on any given day. No matter what any one person says, somewhere in this very big planet is a person who will love you for being you. The fun part for me has always been finding those people. I hope it can be just as fun an experience for all who read this.

The first thing is to stop thinking that you're not good enough or you're never gonna be enough for someone or even yourself. Stop feeding such negative things to your brain. Instead, input lovely things like: I'm worth it. I love myself. Because I'm so lovable, there are many people who love me. If someone is making you feel like that, then you need to distance yourself from them; they're not a good influence on you and are stopping you from loving yourself and others. Remember: think positive thoughts about yourself. Don't be your own worst critic; be your own best friend.

Be a little kinder to yourself. If someone is making you feel that way, as clique as it sounds, it's not you, it's them. You ARE good enough. End of. There is no questioning that. Some people just aren't as compatible with each other as you might like them to be. The fact that they are making you feel that way in the first place proves that whatever relationship you have with them isn't healthy. Trust me, wait for someone who makes you feel good enough because you will find them soon. A person worth your time doesn't make you question your worth. If you were meant to be together you wouldn't be asking this question because you would know that you are enough. Please, surround yourself with other people who make you happy. You deserve so much more than this.

I understand how you feel, and it makes you feel like you're not worth it and that everyone in comparison seems perfect and you're just there longing to be like them. However, in life, being able to take risks and chances makes everyone nervous, and stepping into a new atmosphere brings doubt on themselves because it's hard to reach your full potential and to show people you don't know, but people admire you for who you are and they want to know who the real you is, with your goods and your bads because that makes us human. It will make you happier knowing people love you for who you are and not the person you're trying to be, and you are perfect just the way you are, that's why we're all unique and special in our own way.

Not feeling good enough for someone might stem from not knowing your own worth. When you value yourself and know your worth, you will be able to see that someone's behaviour or expectations of you, are a representation of them and not of you. It's important to not allow someone else's behaviour to define your worth. Write down your worth and your value and if anyone or anything comes against that, you will know who you are and then you can take it on but not dwell on it because if it doesn't match up with who you think you are, don't pay attention to it. Easier said than done I know

Form me it is best to be your biggest supporter even if you are your biggest critic. By feeling inadequate you suppress your true self and emotions causing more distress since you are trying to be something you are not. If the person likes you in the first place there must be a reason that they do. That is because you are good enough, better even. If someone tells you that you aren’t good enough. It just means that they are not good enough for you. Surrounding yourself with negativity like that only plagues your image of yourself. Even though it is cliche positive vibes not only makes you happier but lifts your image of yourself also.

Being good enough for yourself is always enough. Be enough for yourself first and then you'll be enough for anyone that matters. I used to really struggle with not feeling good enough for people. But since I have started to feel like I am enough just as I am the right people have started coming into my life. If it is a partner I have also found talking about it with them really helps. I opened up to my partner about my insecurities and I was so shocked to find that he actually felt the same. So don't feel like you're the only one because I promise you aren't. As long as you are yourself and you're trying then trust me that's enough xx ❤️

It depends on the relationship with that person. If that person makes you feel unwanted and doesn't respect you, then it's better to leave that person. Sometimes it can be hard to step away, but if you take this problematic sept, your future self will thank you. Soon you'll find someone whom you feel good enough for, who will empower you, respect you, and love you just like you deserve to be treated. But first, know that you are entitled to be respected, loved, and honored. You don't need anyone else conformation to know your worth. Be proud of yourself and thank the creater who made you so beautiful.

No one is not good enough for anything. You are a human and you may have flaws and you have done mistakes, but those mistakes and flaws don't define who you are. it's what you've learned from them and how you tried to fix them that does. If someone ever tries to undermine me, I leave. If they won't say something constructive, then I automatically stop listening. No one has the right to tell me what I'm worth, and I shouldn't listen to the ones who do cause they don't really know me, or know what I have been through.

When you feel you are not good enough to get others approval, do a reality check of yourself: am i good enough for myself, what insecurities are prompting me to look out for external validation, do i feel low in self-worth, has something/someone caused me to disregard my self respect and become dependent on others. This process of inward looking, confronting your thoughts and inner chatter will help you to have a reality check and take stock of your mind matters. Then watch your emotions whenever it seeks /feels insecure. Observe and affirm within yourself -- that " you are good enough, that you are "sufficient" within yourself. Cheers!!.

Ah, a problem I face on a regular basis. This question really made me think: when we feel that we are not good enough for someone, is that not just a speculation on our part? To us, we may feel like there's so much we lack but what if to the other party, we are exactly what they need? I would say, do not try to change yourself for the other party. There is only one of you in the world and it would be terrible if you lose yourself to someone who does not see nor appreciate the real you. Do not beat yourself up too much, because you may be perfect in their eyes but you just do not know it.

If you ever feel like you are not good enough for someone the first thing to do is to know that you are good enough regardless what the other person thinks. It's normal to feel like we aren't good enough and everyone at least once in their life, has felt the all too annoying feeling of not feeling good enough. Even if hypothetically the person does for some stupid reason think you're not good enough, you shouldn't bother yourself with it. As cliche as it sounds, you know yourself best. Compared to the other person, he/she doesn't know you as well as you know yourself. If you can be good enough for yourself, don't bother yourself with somebody else's opinion.

'know your worth'. feeling of being not good enough for someone is not your problem anyway, because you don't need to please yourself to someone to like you or impress you. You live for your life not for them. always remember that your value doesn't based on someone's inability to see your worth. thinking that you are not good enough and that's bother you then move out and pretend to be okay. But instead of hating those people try to love them and you'll find peace of mind. remember, you are worth more than second thoughts and maybes..smile and be happy!

No one is good enough for another person—it is not a competition. We all have different values and beliefs, and our pace in learning is different too. Life is an experience, not a chore. We don't have to achieve anything in life to be successful. It is our experience, the process of learning that is enjoyable in life. We are born to be the person we are—not to be the person we want to be. What we think, we become, what we project, we attract. Be who you are, and the right person will find you. You don't have to be good enough for another person. You are enough.

Start to note what makes you special about yourself (what you bring to the table). When we don't feel good enough for someone else, we tend to put them on a pedestal and put ourselves in a corner in light of who we think they are. There's nothing wrong with admiring someone else, being inspired by them or wanting to share a connection. It can take effort to put yourself at an equal stance as them. But it can feel like we're giving so much of our power away when we don't give ourselves the same recognition we give other people.

Remind myself of my strong points. People can be valued in so many different ways. Maybe the other person just likes you for who you are, you are very honest and sincere, you have a warm heart. It's not necessarily the good you think it is. Try talk to the other person, chances are that you could find so many good things about you! If he/she cares about you, you will find it's nothing to worry about. If anyone let you feel down by saying something negative about you, remember it's not your problem and remind yourself you could do so much more.

When I feel like I'm not good enough for someone, I try to remind myself of all my good qualities. I'm no better or worse than anyone else. The things I'm good at, I really REALLY excel at. The things I'm not great at, I'm willing to learn and try to do better at. I'm smart, at least in the things I'm interested in. I'm funny. I am worthy of sometimes time, attention, and love. I. Am. Worthy. I. Am. Worthy. You. Are. Worthy. YOU. ARE. WORTHY.

There is no such thing as "good enough". Someone who only sees your flaw is going to spot a flaw in you no matter how perfect of a version of yourself you become. Honestly, the perfection you are aiming at is in fact a facade you are willing to build around yourself for the sake of fitting into someone else's unrealistic standards. That is not who you are. You are beautiful and you deserved to be loved just the way you were carved. I'd say, show them your ugliest and most vulnerable self and have the courage to wait and see who stays...and trust you will be amazed to see how many admirers your original beautiful self had, who were just too carefully hidden in a crowd to be noticed. And once you accept yourself ,once you realize you are good enough for yourself, you'll be good enough for anybody.

Its important that we look at who we are understand why we feel this way. We need to be able to really know ourselves first because we are our best and worst critics. Knowing what flaws we have and how we work on them is critical to showing love for yourself and others. Working on these defects will help us to feel more deserving of another. When we work on improving ourselves and our social skills we learn to be humble and considerate. Aproaching that someone and even being completely honest about how you feel either with them or to yourself shows your real character.

A) Self-reflect on: 1. Why do you think you are not good enough for someone? 2. Is it (the reason) a fact or your opinion? 3. What evidences do you have to say if it is a fact or opinion? 4. Do the evidences suggest otherwise? B) Ask the same questions with a person who knows you well C) Ask the 'someone' for whom you think you are not good enough D) Try to have an objective attitude while you self-reflect and listen to others as you ask these questions E) Based on your self-reflection and objective assessment of others saying, try to infer if you are good enough for someone

Cry. Ruminate on why you are not good enough. Give rationalizations as to why they don't want you. "Because they are human with needs and I don't meet them." Whatever humanization I can attribute to this pain so it makes it "manageable." Well, I wish I can do anything but I can't. Bear the pain of helplessness until you feel so numb then take the drug called hope. "Oh, if I do this then maybe." Then fall into a cycle of depressive thoughts sometimes the occasional suicide ideation. Talk to some random internet stranger to express your feelings because they can do a better job than a friend who knows your situation. And then you know about your friend's situation who probably miles better than you or not. Then get depressed. Think of the "You can't control what you can't control." Feel good about it then feel bad about it as well.

If you feel you are not good enough for someone you may want to take a step back and think about what exactly makes you think that, if you cantalk to that person about not feeling good enough this will help alot not only will you be helping yourself by further understanding that feeling. a benefit of this would be that whoever you dont fell good enough for will know that and such they will be able to understand what you are going through and may be able to help you more than if you just asked yourself the exact same thing.

I tell myself all the great things about myself. All the things I love about myself. I remind myself that there’s people who love me no matter what. Also, in times like these you need to give yourself the love you give others. Listen to your favorite music, perhaps take a bath, meditate. I also have a collection of kind words from my friends saved in my notes and when I feel down, I read them and my heart fills with warmth and love. It helps me. And last but not least, put on a song and DANCE AROUND YOUR ROOM. It releases so much serotonin.

If I am in this situation I make sure I do self care. I eat right, get enough sleep and do thins I like. In addition, I write out positive Affirmations and read through them daily. Also I try to turn my negative thoughts about myself to positive every time I catch myself feeling negatively. It is hard to do this at first, but with practice it does get easier. I am still working at this myself, but if you are consistent with it and dont give up it hopefully will make a difference. The biggest thing to remember is these negative thoughts are ingrained and it will take time, effort and repetition to break the habit of thinking negatively.

“We can’t hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love.” ~Lori Deschene Sometimes I am really terrible to myself and relentlessly compare myself to other people, no matter how many times I read or hear about how good enough or lovable I am. On an almost daily basis, I meticulously look for evidence that I am a nobody, that I don’t deserve to be loved, or that I’m not living up to my full potential. There is generally a lot of pressure to “stack up” in our culture. We feel as if there is something wrong with us if, for example, we’re still single by a certain age, don’t make a certain amount of income, don’t have a large social circle, or don’t look and act a certain way in the presence of others. The list could truly go on forever. Sometimes in the midst of all the pressure, I seem to totally forget all the wonderful, unique things about myself. I get stuck in my head and allow my inner critic to completely tear apart my self-esteem until I hate myself too much to do anything except eat ice cream, watch daytime television, and sleep. The other day, while I was beating myself up over something I can’t even recall at the moment, I read a comment from one of my blog readers telling me that one of my posts literally got them through the night. Literally. And if that one simple word was used in the intended context, this person was basically telling me that one of my posts saved their life. I get comments like these on a pretty regular basis, and they always open my eyes to just how much I matter, regardless of my inner critic’s vehement objections. Such comments also open my eyes to all the things we beat ourselves up over that don’t matter—like whether or not we look like a Victoria’s Secret model in our bathing suit, or whether or not we should stop smiling if we’re not whitening our teeth, or whether or not the hole in our lucky shirt is worth bursting into tears over. Lately I’ve been trying harder to catch myself when I feel a non-serving, self-depreciating thought coming on. And I may let these thoughts slip at times, but that’s okay because I’m only human. While my self-love journey is on-going, here are a few things I try to remember when I’m tempted to be mean to myself: 1. The people you compare yourself to compare themselves to other people too. We all compare ourselves to other people, and I can assure you that the people who seem to have it all do not. When you look at other people through a lens of compassion and understanding rather than judgment and jealousy, you are better able to see them for what they are—human beings. They are beautifully imperfect human beings going through the same universal challenges that we all go through. 2. Your mind can be a very convincing liar. I saw a quote once that said, “Don’t believe everything you think.” That quote completely altered the way I react when a cruel or discouraging thought goes through my mind. Thoughts are just thoughts, and it’s unhealthy and exhausting to give so much power to the negative ones. 3. There is more right with you than wrong with you. This powerful reminder is inspired by one of my favorite quotes from Jon Kabat-Zinn: “Until you stop breathing, there’s more right with you than wrong with you.” As someone who sometimes tends to zoom in on all my perceived flaws, it helps to remember that there are lots of things I like about myself too—like the fact that I’m alive and breathing and able to pave new paths whenever I choose. 4. You need love the most when you feel you deserve it the least. This was a recent epiphany of mine, although I’m sure it’s been said many times before. I find that it is most difficult to accept love and understanding from others when I’m in a state of anger, shame, anxiety, or depression. But adopting the above truth really shifted my perspective and made me realize that love is actually the greatest gift I can receive during such times. 5. You have to fully accept and make peace with the “now” before you can reach and feel satisfied with the “later.” One thing I’ve learned about making changes and reaching for the next rung on the ladder is that you cannot fully feel satisfied with where you’re going until you can accept, acknowledge, and appreciate where you are. Embrace and make peace with where you are, and your journey toward something new will feel much more peaceful, rewarding, and satisfying. 6. Focus on progress rather than perfection and on how far you’ve come rather than how far you have left to go. One of the biggest causes of self-loathing is the hell-bent need to “get it right.” We strive for perfection and success, and when we fall short, we feel less than and worthless. What we don’t seem to realize is that working toward our goals and being willing to put ourselves out there are accomplishments within themselves, regardless of how many times we fail. Instead of berating yourself for messing up and stumbling backward, give yourself a pat on the back for trying, making progress, and coming as far as you have. 7. You can’t hate your way into loving yourself. Telling yourself what a failure you are won’t make you any more successful. Telling yourself you’re not living up to your full potential won’t help you reach a higher potential. Telling yourself you’re worthless and unlovable won’t make you feel any more worthy or lovable. I know it sounds almost annoyingly simple, but the only way to achieve self-love is to love yourself—regardless of who you are and where you stand and even if you know you want to change. You are enough just as you are. And self-love will be a little bit easier every time you remind yourself of that.

You have to remind yourself that this is a negative thought and it simply isn't true. We all have negative thoughts from time to time and sometimes we have to be reminded that they are not grounded in reality. It's important to find an alternative positive means of thinking. Instead of focusing on how you don't feel good enough for someone, you focus on all the ways that you are the best for this person. If you keep letting negative thoughts into your mind then they will overwhelm your life and control how you live. It is best to focus on positivity and surround yourself with positive thoughts.

I try to work out why I feel this way and then decide if it is me that's telling myself I'm not good enough or the other person. Most of the time it was me so I had to try and understand what made me feel this way and what did I need to do to stop feeling like this. In the cases where it was the other person's opinion that I was not good enough for them, I had to decide if I should keep them in my life or not which hasn't ever been easy. Sometimes just talking it through with the person helps.

Human being's social life is all about relationships, be it parents, partners, friends, neighbors, colleagues, children etc and for one thing, all relationships come with certain privileges and certain responsibilities and most of the relations we develop during life time are need based. So it happens that at times we can feel we are not good enough for someone. and this feeling comes out from the reactions of the other person where they can be direct in sharing this or giving hints in some other ways like lack of interest, less respect, cold treatment etc. One more point to check is that sometimes it can be our own creation, when we misunderstand or judge wrongly or simply expect too much from our own selves and it can hurt our self esteem, self worth and instill in us self doubt. Good news is that with conscious awareness along with self love, support of family members, therapy we can help us better. The best way is replacing negative self talk with positive self talk. When we feel not good enough for someone surely we were good enough for them at some time so finding the real reason is the first step. A clear communication is a key to healthy relationships. So finding the rt reason, making sure its not our false notion, talking out to someone close, an open communication with relation in concern, seeking therapy , accessing information can all help finding our self confidence and self worth back and feel more amazing, productive and contented. Maintaining a monthly relationship guide helps ,hearing our inner voice is that good time to reflect on our relations. At the end of the day , It helps to remember that we all are unique, amazing in our own ways and at times "to let go " is important . Good luck !