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What's the best way to get back your self worth after a break up?

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Last Updated: 08/31/2021 at 3:59am
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June 7th, 2016 5:10am
Invest in yourself. Tell yourself your strengths and qualities. Do things (not thing about doing things) that even if small like practicing music 5 minutes a day that will give you a sense of accomplishment. Try to accomplish lots of small things. Spend lots of time with friends and family that value you.
March 6th, 2018 10:12pm
The best thing you can do is FOCUS ON YOURSELF. The best method on focusing on yourself is by trying to restore your lifestyle on a healthy track by establishing healthy habits. You keep your mind occupied, improve your self-esteem, gain stability, and become happier by setting up your priorities straight. There's a lot of ways you can do this. Everyone is different, so it depends how far away you have strayed for you goals or ideal lifestyle. Definition: Self-esteem, "confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect." You need to know what you want for yourself and our of life. Otherwise, you will continue to tolerate abusive situation and relationships. Goodluck xo
August 2nd, 2016 5:55am
self improvement and personal growth is the best way to get back yourself. Learning new skill or taking up new hobby. Learn that nothing is permanent in life. Each person that comes into our life is either a blessing or a lesson. We grow stronger as we learn. Enjoy and bless every moment of our life.
October 3rd, 2016 5:09pm
By loving and supporting yourself. Know that a break up didn't happen because you're a bad person or something is wrong with you. People grow apart - we're all constantly growing and evolving. When someone decides it's time to move on and the feeling isn't mutual it can be one of the hardest times in our lives.
May 9th, 2017 11:34am
The best way for this is trying new activities! getting anew hobby, setting goals and achieving your goals. By doing this you will feel more positive and happy, you will be focusing on goals rather than your grief of the past relationship. Learn new things, try something different. It is all about new beginnings even though it can be tough. Look to the future as good things are coming your way.
March 2nd, 2015 3:25am
realizing that break up does not make you any less of a person no matter how badly it ended. you gave the person all that you could your love, respect etc so you are good. You did all that you could to keep the relation but he/she was not worth it. They left a person like you who loved them so much for some thing that was not as precious as you. Never loose hope after the break up, it is very heartbreaking but still always know that there is a better person somewhere who is waiting for you and it worth your efforts.
March 5th, 2015 7:01pm
Participate in things that you used to do before that person was in your life. Do things that you might not have been able to do when the two of you were together. Focus on the positives and the silver lining about them being gone.
March 13th, 2015 9:32pm
Every time you see your own reflection, regardless of where you are, what time it is, or with whom you are, tell yourself that you are awesome and amazing. Because you are awesome and amazing, and if anyone else tells you different, don't listen to them!
April 8th, 2015 1:14pm
The best way to get back one's self worth is to stand for one's own self and try reaching new goals in life. Life is too small.
April 29th, 2015 11:16pm
Think of all the things that make you great! There was a reason the person was attracted to you to begin with. Just because they don't see it anymore doesn't mean that it's no longer there!
June 5th, 2015 12:02pm
Allow yourself time to breathe, time to rest, eat and watch your favourite show. Take some time for yourself to allow yourself to heal, and then reach out to the support of others to help you through.
June 14th, 2015 10:30am
Dont think about what you have done wrong. Think about the positives and hang out with friends who support you and make u happy!
June 17th, 2015 5:07pm
Plan a date with is the best way ....respect yourself and try something new..get new friwnds to talk to and make sure that you know that you are the most important and 1st periority of your selflearn to love youself for who you are..and it wont be tough to get over him or her
December 29th, 2015 1:46pm
You have to realize that another person cannot make you love yourself- You have to find a genuine, deep understanding of who you are, with or without that other person, and fall in love with the soul you were blessed with. Because truth is, there's only one YOU in this world. You gotta keep your head up! The world needs you!
April 12th, 2016 6:05am
You do not worth what the society says you do. You worth the way you say you do. Be strong know that the breakup was for a reason and whatever that reason was stand by it and move forward with your head held high.
July 19th, 2016 8:53pm
Maybe try telling your self that it maybe wasn't the right relationship for you and that you will meet the right person
September 19th, 2016 12:10am
Find something new and exciting that you love to do, a change in hobbies can help you have fun and meet new people.
January 15th, 2018 5:30pm
Break ups can often be challenging periods but the also present opportunity to rediscover yourself. It is common to lose the essence of what makes "you" you within an intense and committed relationship. Taking this new found time to rediscover your passions and activities can be both a rewarding and healing experience. Opportunity to expand your circle and develop yourself can reward in fun and enjoyable personal growth and lead to the formation of new romantic relationships. Whilst the pain from a break up can be unbearable, take comfort in knowing that time is the greatest healer of all.
January 29th, 2018 5:16pm
Once you realize that you are responsible for you own happiness, not others. Everything starts by loving yourself.
January 1st, 2019 5:25am
The first step is to recognize people do not determine yourself worth. It is important to believe you are worthy of all that you are and have. When a relationship ends it does not mean you are unworthy. If you look back at the relationship with clear eyes you may see it was not good for you anyway. Look at the positives the relationship had to offer and dismiss the negatives. The relationship was in the past, now it is time to look to the future. Work on enhancing you self-esteem and being around positive people. Stay away from negative self-talk and find positive, uplifting people and material to read. Began to celebrate yourself. You are worth it.
January 14th, 2019 7:22pm
After a breakup it is important to realise that you are the only person you need. Many people look for support, love and care from their partners but they don't realise that they can provide themselves with the exact same things. The only person you can depend on is yourself and it is important to move on with a smile on your face and look foward to future adventures. There is so much more to life than a significant other and renember there is always someone that cares, loves and supports you no matter what. Stay strong and move on with memories and looking foward to making more.
March 5th, 2019 11:29pm
There a plenty of ways that can be ideal for someone who has just been faced with a break-up. It is important that you surround yourself with people that love you and care about you like friends and family. Naturally, when we are around the people that love us it is easier to feel good because it promotes positive energy. Plus, break-ups can feel quiet difficult to go through so no one should have to cope with a break up on their own. Another good way to get back your self-worth is by doing the things that make you feel good. Making time for yourself to laugh and have fun.
February 24th, 2020 4:37pm
February 23rd, 2021 3:19am
I've recently gone through a breakup, and it did take me a while to get back on my feet and get to love myself again. I cut out everything I saw of them and just told myself good things when I looked in the mirror. Your partner does not define you and nobody can tell you your worth. Everybody belongs and everyone is beautiful, and you don't need to rely on anybody for that. I know it's easier said than done, but when you do realize it, you can start to get back on your feet. You are more than you could ever think you are.
August 31st, 2021 3:59am
One of the best ways is to work on your self care, really focus on what is best for you and how you can make yourself happier. It is super easy to kind of forget about yourself because you are so focused on the grief, but it is important to maintain a good mental health. You can spend more time with friends and family, do things that you enjoy, pick up a new hobby, or anything else that you might enjoy doing. Sometimes it can help if you talk to a friend or someone else close to you that you can trust. You can also of course talk to the listeners on 7 cups.