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What's the best way to get over someone who you liked for 5 years?

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Last Updated: 05/04/2021 at 4:37am
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Top Rated Answers
January 15th, 2015 5:32pm
I guess the 1st step should be accepting the fact that it was not meant to be. Falling for someone is a beautiful feeling. However it can get really difficult when the same is not reciprocated or when we have a break up. Time is the best healer. There is nothing wrong in getting sad about it. It is a normal human feeling and it's perfectly fine to be sad. Never push yourself too hard to get over it. Don't get angry on yourself if you're taking a little longer to get over the person. Take your time. Do not rush. Just remember the the feelings will go away with time and you'll feel better slowly. :)
April 9th, 2015 3:41am
Five years is a long time and getting over someone needs time. Here you have to introsepect whether moping for someone is even worth it or not.
April 16th, 2015 4:26pm
The hardest part is getting over someone. This motto works in a lot of situations: "Ex's are ex's for a reason" but even if they aren't an ex, the same rules apply; if they hurt you, they're not worth being with.
July 21st, 2015 2:49pm
The best way I found was to get on with my normal day to day routines, I had to force myself into going to work, socialising etc but I know they we not sitting around doing moping after me so figured why should I?! Time is a great healer and I know people always say that but that's because it's true.
July 23rd, 2015 5:08pm
My relationship is complicated, but I have been in a relationship with someone for almost 5 years. We've broken up on several occasions throughout the entire relationship, but we always manage to over come everything. The best answer that I can give to this question, would be to give it time. Don't force yourself to do it because otherwise you're not going to get over them. We all get over things/people at our own pace. So what may work for other's may not work for you.
August 24th, 2015 11:12pm
I think if you find flaws in them and realize that they will never like you and that you are just wasting your time that can help. Also realizing that there is someone who will start liking you might help. And finally f you haven't told them I suggest telling them and I they don't feel that same way mor on.
September 22nd, 2015 6:01pm
Cut off all contact with them, and get rid of any physical memories, anything. Also, reach out to the people you love for support, or come to 7 cups of tea. We have all been through it. You aren't alone
November 9th, 2015 8:16pm
Allow yourself ample time and distance (that includes physically and on social media) to grow independent of them. Engage in constructive activity to occupy your mind and surround yourself with anything uplifting. Reassure yourself that it's probably for the best and keep an open mind for new possibilities.
November 10th, 2015 4:14am
find whatever way possible to come to terms with the fact that not everyone is a suitable match for you, sometimes it's just not meant to be.
March 13th, 2017 9:58pm
I have dealt with this. For me, it was just not relying on this person as much. I am still friends with her, but I just don't talk to her everyday and ask for her to be as important in my life. That change has improved our friendship and allowed us to grow. I am very happy that I was able to move on - it has made life much better for me.
May 22nd, 2017 3:31am
Ask yourself certain questions about the person that may help you to realize something that you did not realize before. Try also to set your mind to others things
November 13th, 2017 3:11pm
The best way is to move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea and by moving on you will eventually find someone new you like as much or maybe even more.
May 4th, 2021 4:37am
I believe when people say that it takes time to get over something/someone. It's important to note that this person may always drop by into your thoughts, and acknowledging that is a step forward into getting over them. It helped me to get over someone since I moved a country away from them. What helps better not only for me but for others I know, is to take your own time to not think about them and busy yourself with something you enjoy and the people close to you. A person (myself, and from other's experiences) will slowly start losing that interest. It also depends on if you had a romantic connection with that person or if it was just liking or crushing on them. No matter what the circumstance is, getting over them is possible and the best help is time along with family and friends who know of your situation and know you for you, doing everything they can to make you feel better and get over that person.