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What's the best way to get over the hurt, frustration and anger?

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Last Updated: 10/20/2020 at 11:36pm
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Top Rated Answers
HeartoverMind
February 12th, 2015 8:20pm
Write all your frustration down, let your mind be at peace. It allows your head to forget. You can choose when you want to remember it, that makes it a lot easier.
silverVision22
February 11th, 2015 9:29pm
Recording your own thoughts and feelings in a diary is definitely a great way to vent out suppressed feelings. Talking to close friends and pampering oneself and going out is a great way to forget bitter experiences too. You could also adopt a new hobby or start something new to keep yourself busy. Time is the biggest healer. Still, if you are not feeling better you could take up professional help.
Erikaco
October 20th, 2020 11:36pm
The best way to get over this is to experience the emotions fully. I believe that we should feel these emotions but we should not stay in them for a long period. These emotions are difficult and have the potential to make us feel stuck and prevent us from moving on. It is a daily thing, that requires work every day... it is learning to let go of the anger little by little each day. I find that it helps to write down every emotion that is felt and to express them - but staying in this place should be temporary. Acceptance and forgiveness are ultimately what helps one move on from these feelings. Forgiving yourself for the decisions made and the person or thing that caused harm is so important. Doing this is easier said than done and it takes time, but it essentially frees us from these heavy emotions and allows up to move on.
Anonymous
June 16th, 2020 6:07am
You might be hypersensitive and thinking that you are annoying your friends by being yourself, if you genuinely are annoying them and you're not trying to be someone, you're actually being who you are, then it is time to find new friends, as adapting constantly to feeling like you're not annoying people being true to yourself then they aren't that great of friends. There is friends for everyone and you are not alone. Have they actually said that you're annoying? if they haven't, then you could just be self critical of your behaviour and your identity, and you need to stop over thinking re-evaluate your position on the subject.
compassionateHand16
November 21st, 2017 12:17pm
Allow yourself to process each of these feelings by asking what makes you hurt, frustrated and angry about the specific situation. Once you know the real reasons, you will be able to figure out what to do with them in the most healthy and productive manner. Invariably, you will understand the importance of letting go since clinging on to negative feelings is only going to harm you the most.
uniqueNight65
June 12th, 2017 10:07pm
Talk to someone. It does not help us when we hold in our feelings. Our thoughts, while they can be wonderful, can be very dangerous. Spending too much time thinking about things and holding in feelings can hurt a lot. The best way to let go of these feelings is talk to someone, even if it is someone who will just listen and not return advice. Try to engage yourself in things you enjoy. Try to occupy your mind so that you can begin to forget these feelings and let them go.
HappyAndReady
January 3rd, 2017 9:50am
Find an outlet where you can express it. With hurt, tell the person who hurt you, how they hurt you, and regardless of what they say, move on. Frustration, deal with it (or as much of it) as you can, and let go of what you cannot control. Anger, forgive. I didn't promise any of this would be easy.
Greatlistener87
March 22nd, 2016 3:53am
All things heal in good time. Most importantly is for you to let go of what you can't change and move forward knowing that you are more matured and wiser in not making the same mistakes again.
DecisiveDeclan99
February 1st, 2016 11:55pm
By finding some sort of outlet to channel your emotions in a safe way so that no one gets hurt and you can deal with your emotions safely
Avenoir
November 30th, 2015 1:06pm
Acceptance. Accept hurt, frustration, and anger. Accept pain, rejection, doubt... accept it and see it for what it is; an emotion that cannot rule you or define you, because you are more than your pain.
Humblebee7
November 30th, 2015 8:47am
Talking openly and meditation would be the best way to get over frustration, hurt and anger according to me.
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2015 1:29pm
The best way to get over hurt, frusteration, and anger is to do the opposite. Bring happiness, help someone, and make them happy. These are all feelings, feeling that YOU feel. You must first understand that they hurt no one, but yourself.
anchoredwithhope
September 22nd, 2015 8:54am
Music is the most amazing therapy available for getting over these emotions. I have found that music can take away any bad emotion or at least let it out of your soul.
NellRose
June 22nd, 2015 6:36pm
The best way would be taking deep breaths use different non violent ways to tame your anger violence isn't always the answer for your anger
lovelyLynx18
June 21st, 2015 11:25pm
The best way in my experence is to let it all out in a healthy way. Try writing a letter to them and tell them how you feel then burn the letter. Maybe just talk about it with friends or even just tell the person who hurt you.
aremedy4memory
May 16th, 2015 5:14pm
Talking to your loved ones about whats bothering you in order to release stress overall get rid of what hurts you
Anonymous
April 27th, 2015 9:54pm
In my experience, these things get easier to manage with time, and the complete removal of whatever is hurting you, frustrating you, or making you angry. You can't control other people, but you can control how you react to the way they treat you.