Whats the best way to get over your ex moving on before you do?
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It can be really tough but you just have to focus on yourself and the things that make you happy until you get to the point where the thought of them moving on before you is not important to you. It’s not who moves on first that matters. What matters is the quality of your life afterwards. Make the best out of it, love yourself like no one else can, explore your strength, be the best you and take charge of your emotions. I know, It’s easier said but believe me little by little, you’ll get there. Time does heal.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2018 4:01pm
It takes time from personal experience to be able to move on even though the relationship between your ex may have been good or even bad the thing is to always wish them the very best in their endeavors and that they do find happiness where they were not able to find with you everybody is very different and unique in their own ways and how they accept things and has well as how they feel and want to be felt sometimes they don't get the complete feelings that we offer but it doesn't mean that you are a bad person always remember that
Anonymous
November 21st, 2017 8:33am
That you're better than they are and that one day you will find that special someone and understand that maybe they weren't the right person after all.
When it comes to the ex thing, though it's not easy to do but yeah we should be more thoughtful to ourselves. If we have decided to separate, then there should be no worries about their actions in our lives.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2016 3:13pm
Talking to other people and living for myself. Not thinking about them or having them on my mind constantly. Distracting myself.
Everybody has their own time! Don't be upset because your ex moved on before you. Maybe they didnt, who knows.
Listening to empowering music, meditating over the past, accepting change, and embracing the future.
By becoming friends with two amazing men. Ben and Jerry. Seriously though in excess eating to cope with your feelings is bad an occasionally treat won't hurt. Spoil yourself. Put yourself first. Focus on you.
It's not a competition so don't let it bother you, the important thing is to make sure your okay and healing from the situation, and people have have different healing periods than others
Having your ex move on from the relationship before you could be devastating but also a realization that you, in time will experience the love of another person once again. Different people take different time to adjust to living a way of life where that one person is no longer apart of the daily routines or thoughts. Grab some good food and surround yourself with friends, happiness is just around the corner!
Everyone moves on at different times. Your clock might not be the same as theirs, but that is completely okay. Rushing emotions can make them even harder to deal with. Allow yourself to process your emotions to help them all make sense and come into place in your head. Maybe they have a different way of coping, but you deserve to take your time! Most importantly, take care of yourself. The world seems like a roller
coaster when you're going through a breakup, but you'll realize everyone goes at their own pace. Many people believe in you, and your ex might have a different external way of seeing the world. However, taking your time is the road to recovery!
An intimate relation is not easy to get over. If you are emotionally invested in a relationship it takes a long time to get over the negative aspects. The positive spects of every relationship should be retained for ever because it shows that you are a person who is capable of love and being loved. So in my opinion you never really get over any relation, you just learn to remmber it without the attendant rejection and othe negative emotions relate to it. When you are truly invested in an intimate relation then it does take a long time . Perhaps your ex was less emotionially invested or better equipped by her childhood upbringing and personality to deal with the negative side of the break up and thus was able to move on
This can be challenging because it can make you feel more lonely and isolated than before. A lot of people say the best way is to get "back in the game" and find other people - and that can be useful for some people. Personally, what has ultimately worked for me is to focus on myself and confront the fact that it can be hard to be alone with myself. I got into exercising, trying new things (crafts, cooking/baking), and simply catching up with old friends I hadn't talked to in awhile. It's never easy, but know that a lot of people struggle with this and you can take this as an opportunity to reflect on where you are in life and, more importantly, where you want to go. You don't need anyone to be an awesome person on your own :)
Remember that everyone is different and everyone copes differently with different situations! It's ok to move at different paces, just do your best to keep yourself from comparing yourself to others. Also remember to be open with friends and family members about how you are feeling! It's always more difficult to deal with an ex moving on before you do when you are trying to put on a facade and pretend that it's not bothering you. It's ok to be upset that your ex is moving on, whether it is before or after you do! Feelings take time to go away.
Anonymous
April 5th, 2020 4:51pm
To focus on yourself and become a happier, more confident person (which will naturally make you more attractive too). Don't waste time thinking about your ex. He's not worth the time. When you've healed yourself, you can find someone even better who will not make you feel like you're inadequate, like your feelings are unwanted, like you're too emotional or sensitive or that you are wrong just for having feelings and whatever you do will never be enough. You should be with someone that is kind and caring to you, who can address your emotional needs and who does not only give you attention when is convenient for him. Do not be with a person who is so self-centered.
Remove them from all social medias or try to not use them at all, don't dwell on past things. It is hard from the start but friends are an assets in these types of situations; and at the end just try to move on. I know it's easy to say but at the end that's all there really is to it. Find your happy place and go there when you start to think about your relationship and do not make the mistake of repairing something that's already broken, it will only bring pain and suffering. Just devote to yourself and your hobbies
Anonymous
March 26th, 2020 12:47am
In my experience, I always found that I need to purge my exes from my social media and limit contact with them. It is hard to watch the person you love be with someone else, but at the same time, they deserve happiness just as much as anyone else. In my last relationship, I found that I did not fully feel "over" them until I came to terms with everything that happened in our relationship and gave myself time to fully process everything. Being able to sit back and evaluate the good and bad parts of my past relationship helped me grow and move on from them in a healthy way.
If my ex gets moving on before I do, that's a good thing. Being able to move on is hard so I'd congratulate anyone who can muster the strength and finesse to do so.
For me personally I need to talk to someone about my grief, spend some alone time and try to focus on my hobbies. The tricky part is finding the balance between resting to cope with my emotions and being productive.
I'll most likely feel sad and inadequate that I'm being left behind. But as life experience goes, this sadness probably wouldn't be the first time, nor will it be the last. So just hold on, because life is a race.
Anonymous
March 13th, 2020 7:08am
The first thing is knowing your worth. Getting to understand that you deserve the extra ordinary, by that whatever action your ex might take must not disappoint you because for all we know he/she might be the most hurt one. They will do anything to prove that they are not so as soon as you realise your worth you can easily let go. If he/she goes then definitely they were part of the process. Henceforth self care is important after a breakup and the zeal to be better than the person you were with the ex so that when you finally meet the real one you will not compromise your worth.
You should try to avoid them on social media, and their new partner. Do not look at pictures. Do not check up on what they are doing. Just forget about them.
Another thing you can do is take a break from social media entirely. You can pamper and focus on healing yourself. YOU TIME is what you need.
Watching lots of funny movies, eating chocolate, and calling a friend ALWAYS worked for me. Eventually you will just forget those people. You will move on and find a new person. It will take time and healing yourself. Everything will be fine.
One of the ways you can get over your ex moving on before you do is by focusing on yourself. Think about how you can make yourself happy and content. Moving on is not a race. As with any aspect of our lives, once we start focusing on what we have instead of what others have that we do not, our perspectives shift. Progress occurs even with small steps. One good place to start thinking about you is by keeping a daily journal that tracks your activities, your emotional state, and the level of support you're receiving from your peers. After you have moved on, this journal will be a great reminder of how far you have come.
It’s best to understand that some people need more or less time to process situations in their lives. While you may take more time to move on from a previous relationship, their ability to move on more quickly is not treated to you. Focus on rebuilding yourself and becoming a better person. It will be uncomfortable at first, but as time progresses, you will feel better about yourself and you place in the world. Breaking up with someone is not easy, especially if you had strong feelings for that person. It’s important to continue growing and developing as a person.
Best way to get over your ex before you move onto someone new is realize that it was most likely for the better that you broke up. You need to love yourself before starting a new relationship. Get rid of all you and your ex's old things together and start a new. Starting a new relationship before you are ready can come crashing down quick and hurt you more. Think about why you broke up and how you can improve yourself first. Don't think about improving yourself for others but make it all about you and take care of your personal needs.
Anonymous
January 18th, 2020 4:46am
The best way to complete that is to find something you love, like a healthy hobby, and engage in that. Surround yourself with good friends and family and find a way to work on yourself. It's always good to maintain a good diet and sleep schedule as that will help to keep oneself in a better space. The best thing to do is to gace the emotions, and to keep yourself busy so that you dont get too much time on you hand to think about the ex. Aleays remember things did not work out for a reason. It gets better.
This is always a difficult question to answer. For me, I tend to try and remember the reasons you have broken up, this is especially hard if it was out of your control, however, most relationships always end for a reason. In the moment it doesn't feel like it, but in the future you will see. Another way I try to look at it, is that if you and them are meant to be together, you will be at some point in the future again. Whether it's been a week or a few months, or even years, it will still feel a little awkward seeing them with someone else. A way to get over it, is to eliminate them from your life completely, even it's temporary and you reconnect in the future. The less you know, the less it can hurt you. However, that is very difficult and I appreciate that.
The best way to get over your ex moving on before you do is to put yourself first and focus on what is good about where you are now in your life and also to see how you can make your life even better. Speak to your family, friends, loved ones and remind yourself that you’re loved and respected. See breaking up with someone who didn’t appreciate you for the amazing person you are as simply one of the stepping stones to finding someone who will admire your qualities and be happy to grow with you. Learn from your past relationships and with time, you can wish your ex happiness (from afar).
Its a hard one. It depends on a million things like whether you stay friends, how long your relationship was and so on. I think its important especially in the social media age to look at how this information is effecting you and what would happen if you took a break from having them on your feeds or seeing them with this new person irl. Its always difficult to see someone you used to love in live with someone whos not you. Read a book, talk to friends, listen to some sad songs but most importantly dont compare yourself to them. If you need more time then thats totally fine. Dont feel pressured by them moving on. The one great thing about being single is that you dont have to do anything for anyone but you!
Hey there. It can really hurt to see someone you love(d) move on so easily, but it’s important to remember that they aren’t someone to compare yourself too. Everyone processes things differently. Take your time to grieve. Keep in mind the reasons you split and the growth that you can achieve without them. If you’re on good terms and still talking to eachother, consider taking a break to care for yourself. If not, I’ve found that in this situation trying to look at the situation the way my best friend would helps - protective of myself. You’re worth your own love.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2018 9:41am
Do whatever you love. Learn something you're interested in, do exercises, do yoga, read books be in nature and travel. Explore the world around you and try some spirituality ! You know what? I've experienced same and I know how you feel...it was terrible and I was feeling awful. But than I find out that there's so many things I can do in my life and improve myself. I've jumped in introspective world and knew so many important things about me and putter world. I've found my way and I felt better. Gain knowledge and solitude really helped me to find myself and figure out my standards. Now I'm very happy and I want to make others feel the way I feel. I hope my words will help you to find your own way to your happiness !
Anonymous
February 9th, 2019 12:33pm
It sounds like you are caught on your past relationship with your ex, who is already progressing into new relationships and moving on with his life. Breakups are hard, especially ones that have prolonged for years at a time, and so you may feel negatively about yourself in different ways. Of course, that is all normal to feel and it is perfectly fine to feel this way. Unfortunately, I cannot have you any advice- 7 Cups is a page for listening and handing out support where it is needed. You may find it useful to read the 7 Cups Breakup Guide, to aid you in this journey.
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