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Whats the best way to get over your ex moving on before you do?

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Last Updated: 03/04/2022 at 7:26pm
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Top Rated Answers
May 20th, 2015 5:44am
By becoming friends with two amazing men. Ben and Jerry. Seriously though in excess eating to cope with your feelings is bad an occasionally treat won't hurt. Spoil yourself. Put yourself first. Focus on you.
June 10th, 2015 9:14pm
Having your ex move on from the relationship before you could be devastating but also a realization that you, in time will experience the love of another person once again. Different people take different time to adjust to living a way of life where that one person is no longer apart of the daily routines or thoughts. Grab some good food and surround yourself with friends, happiness is just around the corner!
December 29th, 2016 3:13pm
Talking to other people and living for myself. Not thinking about them or having them on my mind constantly. Distracting myself.
November 17th, 2017 6:23pm
When it comes to the ex thing, though it's not easy to do but yeah we should be more thoughtful to ourselves. If we have decided to separate, then there should be no worries about their actions in our lives.
November 21st, 2017 8:33am
That you're better than they are and that one day you will find that special someone and understand that maybe they weren't the right person after all.
April 6th, 2018 4:01pm
It takes time from personal experience to be able to move on even though the relationship between your ex may have been good or even bad the thing is to always wish them the very best in their endeavors and that they do find happiness where they were not able to find with you everybody is very different and unique in their own ways and how they accept things and has well as how they feel and want to be felt sometimes they don't get the complete feelings that we offer but it doesn't mean that you are a bad person always remember that
June 21st, 2018 1:26pm
Remind yourself that everybody has their own pace in life. You are your own person. Recovery is not a competition. The point is too heal completely, not fastly.
July 7th, 2018 1:21am
It can be really tough but you just have to focus on yourself and the things that make you happy until you get to the point where the thought of them moving on before you is not important to you. It’s not who moves on first that matters. What matters is the quality of your life afterwards. Make the best out of it, love yourself like no one else can, explore your strength, be the best you and take charge of your emotions. I know, It’s easier said but believe me little by little, you’ll get there. Time does heal.
November 18th, 2018 6:12am
Its not a competition of who moves on faster. We all have different ways of coping. Others cope faster than usual. He's now your ex, so i guess its better if you mind your own business now. Focus on yourself. Find yourself and love yourself. Dont rush things. Everything will heal at the right time. Stop thinking about him. He is not a part of your life now. The more you constantly think about him, the more you wont be able to move on. Focus on yourself and do things that will make you happy. It will be hard at first but soon enough you'll cope. Pray.
April 17th, 2020 11:37am
Think what made you and your ex for the breakup. Think what fault of your ex did you stop being with your ex. Think how bad your ex treated you that hurt you badly and made that person your ex. Then why your ex didn't try to save your relationship. Then why your ex accepts he or she failed to correct you if you have your mistake. Then why he or she accept that you can't be with him or her. Think which action from your ex always made you furious. I hope you'll find enough reason to hate your ex now and won't think about your ex.
August 31st, 2015 7:41pm
Everyone heals differently and at different rates than others. The best thing you could try to do is to find things that keep you busy and keeps your mind off of the situation. Engage yourself in friends, family, and other activities such as hobbies, clubs, etc...Hopefully as time goes on you too will be moving forward. If you find that you are having trouble and its interfering with your daily life, you might want to seek a counselor or therapist to help sort of your feelings.
December 21st, 2015 1:12pm
Just be honest. there is no "best" way to do this, it depends on your situation and your ex's preferences. think about it from there point of view, and try to move on quickly.
July 4th, 2016 6:18am
Just remember there is a reason why u guys have broken up and be happy that he has moved on as you will in your time as well.
July 11th, 2016 4:39pm
An ex is an ex for a reason. When splitting up there is no rush to find a replacement. The fact it is taking you longer shows maturity on your part. Spend the time to do things you like. Spend time with your friends and take up a hobby. Have fun and do things that make you happy in yourself. Inner happiness shines outwardly and when you feel good you will attract a suitable partner to you.
September 23rd, 2016 9:01am
Go and spend more time with your friends and donot go to stress. Be as strong as rock and donot rely
October 5th, 2016 3:16pm
Everyone moves on in their own time so I think it is important not to rush the process, give it time and try not to dwell on it.
October 12th, 2016 11:26am
Find out what you really want in life is the main point to understand what makes you truly happy and stay positive in this moment.
October 16th, 2016 11:49am
As hard as it is you just have to take it one step at a time, remove all traces of them from your life. Hang out with friends, and this is a personal opinion give it a while before you start dating again. Take some time to think
October 26th, 2016 2:23am
Move on yourself! Moping over a lost love won't help anyone, but getting out there and doing things for yourself will help you to move on and sooner or later you won't remember Boyfriend/Girlfriend #4!
October 27th, 2016 7:08am
To recount the reasons why you left the relationship in the first place. By realizing that your a seperate person and that it isnt a competition.
November 2nd, 2016 3:11pm
Time. Loads and loads of time. And maybe doing fun stuff with friends and family, it's like distraction.
November 2nd, 2016 8:43pm
Try to not get involved with his life as much as possible. Don't look at his profile in social media ect. Focus on your self and what is important for you right now. Me is now in the past. Racing with him/ her for who gets the first new girlfriend/ boyfriend will only get you stuck in the past.
November 3rd, 2016 9:52am
Realize that just because things didn't work out between you, doesn't mean they don't deserve the right to try again with someone else.
February 18th, 2017 3:33pm
I have been exactly there. Feel the pain, cause that will be the first thing you will feel automatically, and after that, think about what he told you when you broke up. Remember his words, remember what you couldnt stand of him leaving you, of your relationship. And think that now another person is gonna bare those flaws in a most appropriate way for him. His ignoring you when you needed some advice, his lack of patience when you were at the mall and wanted to try some dresses and buy them, his complete lack of interest in some cultural topics. I couldnt bare all those aspects of him. Some time after I saw him moving on in that way, I luckily knew a guy whose "flaws" were for me "normally tolerable". In a way that will make him feel accepted and loved as they deserve and as you deserve to be loved and accepted back. Like this guy did.
March 24th, 2017 11:33pm
Going through a break up is not an easy experience. It may be difficult to move on when you are holding onto the past however it can be done. Always remember that the first step to moving forward is to accept your past relationship by believing that you shared wonderful memories together rather than convincing yourself that there were many struggles in your relationship.
April 5th, 2017 2:49am
Realize that people all react to changes differently. Remember that no matter how fast they moved on, it doesn't invalidate the past relationship you two shared. Think about how you want them to be happy even if how things ended hurt you.
April 18th, 2017 9:24am
Actually, you're not with this person for a reason. So let's find someone who will understand you better and who will be perfect for you. An ex that is moving on faster than you is not a bad thing. Everyone wants to move on after a break up. So why not doing the same and be glad for the other person. Accepting this reality and be glad for that is a great way to move on too
April 20th, 2017 11:01pm
Breakups are never easy, and sometimes people move on faster than others. Jealousy does nothing but hurts you, making it harder to move forward. Accept and understand that people move on at different rates, it is nothing against you personally, merely a change in the other person life, such as the many changes that you are yet to experience.
April 27th, 2017 9:38am
I would suggest focusing on the great things in life currently. Direct your attention to other things that make you happy and distract you from the sad and awkward situation of a breakup. Allow yourself to become happy about things that would normally cheer you up.
May 5th, 2017 12:13am
Come to acceptance of who you are and your individuality. This will begin a healing process and make you happier as a person overall and strengthen future relationships. Talk to friends and family, and those around you. Spend time with those you love and care about and realize you're self worth.