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Whats the best way to get over your ex moving on before you do?

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Last Updated: 03/04/2022 at 7:26pm
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May 14th, 2017 12:01am
Avoid getting in touch with him or stalking his social media. Disconnect your life from his, and focus on your own journey. Plan how you are going to move on in life and just do it, step by step, one day at a time. Life is a journey, not a race, and we do things at our own pace.
June 16th, 2017 9:24am
Indulge in things that make you happy. Join tap dance classes and keep yourself engaged. Be happy...
August 9th, 2017 2:47pm
Love yourself! Give yourself importance. Self worth. And let go of the memories you have shared. Be happy
September 2nd, 2017 3:43pm
Do what makes you happy- go hiking, go to wine tastings (if you are of age), read, do some DIY projects. keep busy.
September 13th, 2017 5:28am
Remember that them moving on first doesn't reflect on you. Them moving on first just shows you that you can keep going and moving forward on your own. You get to experience loving yourself, they do not.
November 9th, 2017 10:23pm
Go out and do what you enjoy, regardless if you do it alone. Me time is extremely important! Go see a live band that you've always wanted to see! Go see a film on your own one you've been so excited for since the trailer. Go for a walk and take loads of pictures to look back on when you get home.
November 19th, 2017 6:15pm
I'd say surround yourself with friends that love you, do anything you can to keep your mind off that person
November 22nd, 2017 3:14pm
Distract yourself, go out with your friends, set up a new life where you don’t have to think about them.
December 9th, 2017 7:44pm
December 30th, 2017 8:06am
Tell yourself that everyone has different ways of coping and dealing with their emotions. How quickly your ex has moved on has nothing to do with you or your past relationship. Also, you have no way of knowing whether your ex has truly moved on, so instead of speculating about their emotions, focus on moving on yourself!
January 1st, 2018 1:28pm
I believe the best way to do this is to love yourself. The fact that they have moved one quicker dosen't mean that you are less deserving of anything and in time you will find someone who truly loves you. Take back all that "relationship" energy and focus on being the best version of yourself.
January 4th, 2018 2:15am
By taking care of yourself, seeing friends and family and surrounding yourself with good energy. Keep busy and occupied and try to avoid reckless or impulsive behaviours.
January 7th, 2018 12:27pm
Ice cream, Movies and crying your heart out with bestfriend. Stand in front of mirror, Imagine him in front of you .....say everything you want to, shout, scream, cry anything. Don't keep it inside. Do it everytime you feel low because of him. Slowly you will feel like you are letting your sadness, anger etc. etc. out.
January 8th, 2018 9:00pm
The good news is that managing a breakup isn't a contest! Your ex will manage at their rate, just like you manage at yours. The important thing is to surround yourself with love and support and do your best to move forward!
January 26th, 2018 4:09pm
I’m still not over my ex completely so I’m sorry if I can’t help too well. You can try to occupy your mind with other things, such as school, hanging out with friends, listening to music, reading, going to the movies, etc.
February 15th, 2018 3:15pm
To find someone else. Or make yourself more busy that you won't think about your ex. Hobbies help you a lot
February 18th, 2018 2:02am
The best way to get over an ex moving on before you do is to learn to accept the things you cannot control. Only through acceptance can you truly carry on.
February 24th, 2018 1:08am
Breakups can be very difficult; we all go through them. I think a great idea is to focus on yourself and strengthening that love you have for yourself. You can use the love you gave to someone else to transfer it to yourself to make yourself physically and mentally healthy. Also, hanging out with friends can really help!
March 2nd, 2018 2:30pm
Spend time with people who make you feel good, like friends and family, practise mindfulness and do nice things for yourself to show yourself you are special. Express gratitude everyday and try to focus on others who are in need.
March 7th, 2018 7:00pm
No matter how you feel or what you do, you cannot control that. Take solace in this fact and focus on what you can control, whatever that may be. Find happiness in the reality that your time spent with your ex can never be taken away, and neither you nor your ex will forget it. That's so special, your ex is still your best friend as you are there's (even if you do not interact).
March 15th, 2018 2:13am
Seize contact. To put it bluntly, cutting all contact with your ex is the easiest way to get over him/her moving on before you do. Of course, the action of breaking contact will not be easy, but it will be rewarding beyond imagination, which you, in time, will see when you look back at the stituation.
March 26th, 2018 1:00pm
The first thing is to accept that he/she has left you or that the relationship is over. Spoil yourself and get rid of everything that might trigger memories of your ex.
March 31st, 2018 5:42am
There is no best way for that. Unfortunately time is the answer in this case. You can be angry, try to replace what you had with someone else, try to forget about him but that doesn't work like that. Only time can heal this wounds and you will move on without even realising it.
April 5th, 2018 4:49am
Start going to a therapist might help or support groups for relationships. Maybe tell your friends and family
April 6th, 2018 8:31am
Your in no rush, give yourself time to move on when your ready. If you move on straight away, can you truly feel committed to the new person?
April 7th, 2018 6:22am
i know from experience how much it hurts seeing your ex with someone else. no matter how much you tell yourself and everyone else you’re fine and over it, it always like this huge pang in your chest. you just have to realize that they aren’t important anymore. what they do shouldn’t affect you. there’s gonna be better people out there for you and you will one day be happy with someone else even if you don’t think so in that exact moment.
April 12th, 2018 8:17pm
The best way is to not be pressured to do it quickly and to be "the first". It is not a competition and dont compare yourself to her/him. Take your time. Be relaxed about it and this is THE FASTEST way.
April 13th, 2018 1:05pm
Watching someone you love/care for move on before you are able to is always difficult, but you have to allow yourself to be happy, however hard that might be. If you don't allow yourself to be happy, and simply be jealous, then that can have an adverse effect on how you see future relationships.
April 26th, 2018 1:56pm
This is never an easy thing to counter. But you need to understand that if they have moved on, then you should too. While it hurts, it is something that happens in life and the best thing you can do is surround yourself with supportive people.
May 2nd, 2018 3:12am
The best way to get over that is to realize it's not a competition and that there is nothing wrong with living live at YOUR pace.