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What's the best way to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you ?

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What's the best way to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you ?
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IamTheHybridPanda
April 13th, 2016 1:54pm
Having self-worth, the more you love yourself the more you won't care about people who neglects your existence.
goldfinch25
December 27th, 2015 4:28am
Genuinely recall every single instance that they have not been there for you and rationally think about what their excuses or reasons are, to see if they are justifiable. Always try to be open-minded because some people just can't be as sympathetic or empathetic as you want them to be. However, there is a line between not caring and not being able to care as much as someone requires them to care.
shutteredsilence
November 3rd, 2015 3:07am
Focus on other things. Turn your attention elsewhere. Create something. Write, draw, read, exercise. Learn something new. Discover something about yourself. Don't just turn inward, however. If you have other friends, turn to them. In time you will be able to move on.
Anonymous
April 10th, 2016 3:18am
There's no answer, believe me. I have been there and done that. Only time can heal it. We do have to try our best to be strong and move on with Life. Just don't let anyone take your kindness as weakness and for the rest of it, as the saying goes "time heals all wounds'
lenimentus
December 16th, 2015 8:46pm
My approach is that I don't stop caring or showing that I do but I let other things take priority. We are compassionate begins, made to feel and spread happiness. To wish not to do so goes against our nature and in turn also makes us feel worse/numb.
Anonymous
June 10th, 2016 12:32pm
That's what I want to know. Can someone tell me. I care too much for people who refuse to reciprocate
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 11:47pm
Release the negative energy and let yourself know that you are better without that person. You can then begin to rebuild your self esteem and leave this person behind you.
suchAngel
April 3rd, 2018 8:35pm
Try to indulge in other activities and people you really care about. After all, at end what matters is how you feel about certain things and people. You can never get over someone untill you find someone else or some other thing as much as it. Love yourself first.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 9:44pm
This is a tough question to ask, because feelings cannot usually be easily cut off, even if you want them to. It takes time to resolve feelings for someone and it differs for every individual. I would say the best way to stop caring about someone is to focus on things and people in your life that bring you joy and make you feel happy. Once you pay attention to these great parts of your life it might become easier to stop caring about someone who doesn't seem to feel the same way, and therefore probably wouldn't bring you the same joy as these other things/people.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2015 10:42am
Distance yourself, write everything down to get all emotions out of your system, and see where that takes you. Try something constructive, a poem, a picture made of words, a story or even just a diary entry
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:50pm
Distract yourself do something for you, pay more attention to yourself rather than this person that you care about.
ciaraorourke333
January 31st, 2016 11:10pm
You have to remind yourself that you deserve better, you don't need them because if they don't care about you then they are not worth it
Hussy15
March 23rd, 2016 11:07am
Identify the reasons of why you are being so careful. What makes you go towards them. Once you know what is it that keep attracting you, You will easily understand the reasons and will be able to cope up with the exact true problem instead of a problem thats wearing a mask.
fruityIris44
September 22nd, 2015 6:49pm
I am presently in a situation where my soulmate stopped communication due to various misunderstandings and she disconnected. It is true that a partner may move on and want to focus on other things besides your relationship due to various factors. The reality is they cared for you in one instant and probably have remnant caring feelings for you unless you did something that was completely devastating to their soul. The best way to deal with the situation is to find ways to focus your energies on other matter - spend time with trusted friends, family, focus on hobbies that you love, meditate, etc., so you get your mind of the loss of the relationship. You don't need to stop caring for your former partner even if she doesn't care about you. But, you can get to a peaceful state by focusing your energies positively on things that matter to you.
LoneWolf1010
January 16th, 2016 4:22pm
realization and accepting reality will give a feeling of "getting wasted" "being ignored".... if these feelings are converted into positive way of feel "do i deserve him/her?" and "y should i care? when he/she doesnt for me" that helps great...
msJoyce
December 27th, 2015 3:40am
I don't think it's completely possible to just stop caring about someone, especially if he or she is someone you had an amiable relationship with. However, one can try to care less and less over time with the acceptance that the other party is not deserving of the care you give. You are the bigger person by caring about that significant person and know that you tried your best to receive the same amount of care back. Accept it and move on.
energeticEyes1035
May 22nd, 2018 3:30pm
Stop hesitate your inner voice! The moment you doubt that someone dont care about you. Then thats the answer. Dont live up your expectation that someday they will realized or change. Be firm to yourself and stop wasting your time. But remember that we have different love language. Somehow, we express it in different way. You need to evaluate whether they really dont care about you or you just expect too much, and they get tired to satisfy your expectation.
Daniela95
February 3rd, 2016 7:38pm
The best way is to try to concentrate on yourself as a person and do what makes you happy. Growing as a person might help you love yourself more and thus realising that there are people who care for you and that you deserve being loved and treated well.
Anonymous
March 24th, 2016 5:40pm
You should find someone better that would want to be with you in life. You shouldn't try to hold on to someone that do not want you or have anything to do with you. You should try to find someone that would like to spend time with you and that would probably get your mind off of someone that does not care about you no more.
Anaiviv01
April 22nd, 2016 11:54am
When we care about someone that doesn't care for us, it means we are putting someone else first in a dysfunctional way. The best thing we can do is to embrace ourselves wholly and learn to love our bodies, our minds, our souls. It's a path that takes time, but it's all about balancing emotions one day at the time.
bunnyg
June 5th, 2016 1:09pm
That person is obviously a waste of space in your life. I personally would say goodbye to the person even if it will hurt me but it's for the best. then i'll do all the things that i love and care about things that matter. never stay somewhere that you're unhappy. x
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2016 5:00am
Learn how to respect yourself and learn that you are worthy and there would be no need for you to look for someone who is not caring for you.
HereToHelpAsBestAsPossible
April 9th, 2016 5:36pm
Find things you care about more than you care about them. Don't let the way other people feel about you define how you feel about yourself.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2016 3:36am
Accept the situation. That's the only way you can hope to be healthy. Its a wound that's only healed with time
Rebekah28
April 22nd, 2016 12:21am
Put all of that focus into a new hobby, job or maybe just a craft. Don't put you attention on another person because the same thing might happen again. Focus on yourself and finding out what you want out of life and a loving relationship
mike251
January 29th, 2016 3:10am
The best way is time. There is not really any other way. Just time away from that person, and time to work on yourself will solve this
Anonymous
February 4th, 2016 12:42am
When you realize that you care about someone who does not care about you, it is important, for the sake of your own well being, that you begin to move away from that relationship. Try to fill up your life a little... Take a class that you're interested in, try out some new recipes, or establish a healthy exercise routine. In addition, make sure you're checking in with yourself; "What do I need today?", "What am I feeling?"
OrchidSpring
March 17th, 2016 3:14am
Cut all contacts with them. Hangout and talk with positive people. Know your worth. No need to waste energy and time for a negative person.
glowingWatermelon69
April 8th, 2016 1:07pm
you can stop caring about someone who does not care about you by simply start caring about your own self. Some people are important in life but not more than our own selves. Know that you deserve caring in return.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2018 1:09am
I've read alot on this page, I've tried everything... I still can't stop but it has gotten better. I also don't have much experience as this happened the summer after 8th grade. This person was completely like a brother to me and when he said he didn't care anymore it hurt. I don't see him anymore in the hallway or lunch. If something reminds me of him then ill try to find a new way to remember a memory like that. It's difficult but it also gets me somewhere. I know I still need help, just not as much. There is only so much a person can do.