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What's the best way to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you ?

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What's the best way to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you ?
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Anonymous
May 13th, 2015 5:00pm
There's no need to stop caring about people who you love so much as no matter what love and care always come back to you
bountifulWings18
January 10th, 2016 3:02pm
Engage yourself in something you care about doing or in activities with other people and remember what are the things you care about.
Nico22
March 27th, 2016 2:49am
It is ok to care about someone who doesn't care about you. Care without the expectation of care in return is the truest form of Love. BUT, we do have to love ourselves first. It's important to decide what you desire or need in a relationship in order to evaluate whether you need to continue a relationship or not. Caring about someone who doesn't care about you isn't bad, but it does make you vulnerable to unhealthy situations.
Anonymous
June 5th, 2016 9:29am
You're always allowed to care for a person even if they do not care for you back. Not being consumed by it is they key, caring and obssession over someone is a fine line, the best way is to occupy your time doing something you love or spending time with family and friends. Anything to take your mind off the person.
temporarycarla
March 20th, 2016 12:48pm
Make a list with all the things you dislike about that person, for example "he never replies me", or things like that, and then make a list with the things you would like a person had. Then compare both list and realise that that person doesn't deserve you. Meet new people and soon you will forget him/her.
purpleidea777
April 8th, 2016 3:15am
Accept the fact that they don't care for you. If they're not giving you the time of day, then neither should you. They don't deserve to take up your thoughts.
Chingu
January 17th, 2016 4:43pm
You shouldn't stop caring. Its natural for someone to care about everyone, especially for one they used to enjoy spending time with. You should never loose that, even if they don't appreciate it. Take a deep breath, and act normal. However, don't let him/her not caring about you hit you in the core - its not necessarily permanent.
strawberryLake18
April 6th, 2016 5:45pm
The best way to stop caring about him or her is to start caring about your own self .. You have to look for yourself and learn to stop waiting for others to care for you caring about others is a great quality don't stop doing that insted just focus in not loosing yourself while doing that .. Hope that helped
happyblueberries
January 21st, 2016 5:29pm
Focus on yourself. Realize that you deserve a lot better, and are worth more than someone else's mistreatment of you. Try your best to keep that kind of negativity out of your life.
lexieejolleen
March 19th, 2016 3:29am
Just to try to get them out of your mind. Your someone special and if they don't believe it or see the potential in you then you don't need them in your life.
persistentPal3994
April 14th, 2016 10:05am
Start caring about yourself and your parents
JaseyRae
April 14th, 2016 5:24pm
You try your best to avoid that person. I know it can get hard, but out of sight is out of mind. Distract yourself by doing your hobbies and things that you like doing a lot. Specially, do the things that would make you feel good about yourself. This will help you realize that sometimes the people who don't care, don't matter.
kianaranae0
January 7th, 2016 9:05pm
Don't try to think of the things that the person did to make you feel happy. Try to remember why you shouldn't care about them.
soulglitch
March 26th, 2016 1:00am
I personally think mute receiving anything about them on social media sites e.g. mute them on twitter. unfollow them on Facebook and even delete their contact so you're not faced with them.
RaCat
April 23rd, 2016 3:30pm
Have a little space to yourself. It's hard to forget people but it's possible. Just try not to communcate with them for a while.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 2:08pm
Understand that you are worth the love and care. Focus on caring for yourself and understanding that there will be people who will love what you have to offer
briaannasaurus
January 24th, 2016 8:52pm
You should try to cut off all communication with them. If you see them on a daily basis try to limit conversation. That way you can forget about them. You can still have them in your life but limiting conversation will prevent you from thinking about them too much.
dreamVision89
February 15th, 2015 7:35pm
The best way is to stop focussing on them and focus on you! Take up a class, start a new hobby, reunite with friends you haven't seen in a long time. Research some CPD in work. The more you do for yourself, the more you'll begin to realise what's really important to you :-)
serenitynow04
January 8th, 2016 1:47am
Try to stay busy. Surround yourself with people who do care about you. Take up a new hobby. Anything to fill your time.
HazelEyes2
January 28th, 2016 1:12am
Remind yourself that they don't care about you. Find friends who will be honest with you and tell you the same truth. Make a list of the things this person has done to disappoint or hurt you. Make a list of the traits those who do care about you have. Maybe focusing more on those people than the one who doesn't care will also help.
calmRose33
April 7th, 2016 3:55am
distance yourself away from them as time goes on those feelings will start to fade give it time. time is really a great healer
BradUK
April 9th, 2016 3:56pm
Suppressing emotions often results in further issues. The best thing to do at this point would be to say "I care about this person, what now". As soon as we accept our emotions, it allows us to utilise the energy that we would otherwise invest surpassing them into producing positive emotion. Much love!
carefreePerspective39
January 24th, 2016 9:46am
Sometimes we must not stop caring. It concerns relatives or important people who are not able to give us back the same because of their healthiness. I guess this question applies to another issue- lack of interest, disregard, even ignore. It means very often those people don't need us in their life so we simply should find someone else who will appreciate our effort to build up relation. How to stop caring about them? From realisation that they might take an advantage of us, don't need our friendship, have their own life.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2016 3:46pm
This is always a constant battle for me! I find myself having a big heart, but I think it's always best to find time to care about yourself. Get out into the community and volunteer with the homeless or women's shelter if you want to still care for others!
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2016 10:47pm
Think about what you want and what you need, what's needed must be looked and what's wanted must be earned
Meenu545
February 5th, 2018 5:59pm
Its nothing that we have to stop caring about one who doesnt care about us. Just make sure that you give your self enough care than the one who doesnt recognise it
understandingOrange
June 9th, 2016 6:53am
The best thing is to be with friends and family because when you are alone all you are going to think about is the other person. Being with people who you care about and vice versa is good to both make you happy and get your mind off the other person.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 2:56pm
Try to keep your mind busy with other things you enjoy practicing/doing. Read, go for a walk, or do any other activities that can keep your mind busy and easy you'll forget about that person.
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 11:14pm
Think progressively about things you care more about. Then, once you start thinking about other things, it consumes more of your mind, so you think about them less often
organticMango15
January 27th, 2016 10:20am
You can't just stop caring about someone like that, it's an experience that takes time to overcome. Even though eventually most of the time you forget about the person, it doesn't seem like it at the time. It takes time, time is the biggest healer. It's just like when you break up with someone, you don't stop caring about them, even if you ended on bad terms. Let time run it's course and eventually you will begin to feel better about the situation.