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What's the best way to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you ?

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What's the best way to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you ?
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gracefulMelody71
December 31st, 2015 9:34am
allow your brain to lose focus over the fact that the other person doesn't exactly care for you. In other words, you should think less about the said person. Try to actively divert your attention. Things will slowly, but surely, be alright.
tidyKiwi5130
January 6th, 2016 10:01pm
Time is the only way. Focus on who you are, not who you are when you are around them. In the meantime try new things, go new places, make new friends, and hold tight to your old ones. Time flies when you are having fun, and the more time goes by the less you'll find yourself thinking about the person.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 3:44am
You don't really stop caring for them, it's just the intensity of the care that changes. With time, and reduced interaction, you'll slowly start caring about them less.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2018 11:00am
To start caring about yourself first. Take good care of yourself and you won’t be dependent on anyone else to meet your needs. Living with someone you don’t trust to help you must be very stressful and depressing. We can only change how we feel and think. Trying to make someone do something to help you become stronger and listen and work with you when they have no desire to do so, is only going to make you feel worse again. Be strong and depend and believe in yourself. with time and practice you’ll be closer to fulfilling your dreams you want and deserve. Never give up!
warmheartedJet3319
January 31st, 2019 11:13pm
I really wish I had the answer but I am struggling with the same thing. I guess you just have to move on because there are better people out there. You don’t deserve that nobody does. My best answer is that if he/she doesn’t see how great of a person you and he/she isn’t the right person for you. It might hurt and you might be saying to yourself how do I make he/she like me but you shouldn’t say any of that. You have to move on and find things that make you happy and most importantly spend time with you best friend.
karlie12
November 2nd, 2015 9:28pm
Understand your self worth and that you deserve someone to care for you in the same way you do for them!
Nati24
December 10th, 2015 7:45pm
I feel the best way to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you is by accepting it. Accepting that you can't make someone love/want you and moving on. I know, it sounds easy but the first step to any hard situation is accepting reality and from there, stuff will fall into place.
PracticalMaple
December 11th, 2015 12:04pm
if they don't care about you then they aren't worth your time and you just gotta remember that, remember that you deserve to put your care in to someone who will return that care towards you
Anonymous
December 11th, 2015 3:53pm
I think that's impossible. Deep down you will always care and it's okay. Just don't let them hurt you.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 7:34am
accept that they have moved on and cut them out of your life. you don't need that burden of caring for them when they have nothing to offer you back.
leejanelle
December 12th, 2015 8:22am
Unfortunately, we all have those people in our lives who we feel such stong emotions for but the feelings are not mutual. The best and most healthy way to get these feelings to go away is to not think about them or that person. That may come as a struggle especially if you have done everything with that person. The best thing I can suggest is to surround yourself with people who will help you distract yourself from that person. And soon, that will come as a natural.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 1:17am
Just stop all contact with them and don't look at them, message them, or anything. Then after a while of not talking to them you will start to move on and not care anymore
Sxfihernandez
December 13th, 2015 5:53am
you should just ignore them and try not to see them often cause if not you will get the feeling again
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 10:49am
The best way to go around it is just pretend you care about them until they end up saying oh I don't like you then walk away
Zeleu
December 16th, 2015 7:20am
I think that the best way to go about resolving unrequited feeling is to try your best at finding something or someone else to put your energy into.
SafePanda3
December 16th, 2015 6:50pm
I would say the best way to stop caring about some doesn't care about you is by shutting them out of your life
calmListener21
December 16th, 2015 7:32pm
You must stop investing your time in that person. Slowly you will find that time occupied by some other person or activity but in the beginning you have to make efforts.You must realize that one person cannot be the reason of your happiness and must carry on with your life.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 7:08pm
try to meet new people or do something, because you won't have a time to think or care about someone
marawhalen
December 17th, 2015 10:08pm
To look at them and make them something bad in your life just to know they wouldn't do the same for you
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 10:10pm
Its kinda hard to do that. Sometimes we don't choose who we care about, it just happens. If you want to avoid being hurt constantly by them, try to stay away as much as you can. Hopefully your feelings will fade away eventually.
Sapphire3
December 17th, 2015 10:42pm
Find new people/places/activities that appreciate and care about you in return. Simply find time to spend elsewhere and with other people who DO care about you. You don't have to hurt or humiliate, just walk away. Also don't allow yourself to be treated poorly or taken advantage of - stand up for yourself and only keep those around you that respect and honor you.
frostySky51
December 18th, 2015 1:47am
Avoiding the person, but when you see each other be friendly. Provide space, it's a win win. Focus effort else where.
LovelyLinda72
December 18th, 2015 9:59pm
To care about yourself and distance yourself from the person who doesn't care about you. Try to find new hobbies and interests and catch up with old friends.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 6:51pm
The best way to stop caring is just to not talk to them at all and to block all contact with them and then eventually you will forget about them
BatWings89
December 20th, 2015 2:19am
Concentrate on yourself. Be aware when you're projecting on them and idolizing them. Treat yourself good and just look you have a good and productive time until the time gets by. Feelings need some time to fade.
AmarG
December 20th, 2015 7:25am
Find someone who really cares about you. It may be family or friends. Make yourself busy with stuff and avoid seeing that person for sometime. And you should always accept the facts and move on.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 1:39am
Distract yourself from them. Do things you love and things you are good at and try not to think too much about them. As time passes, you will be able to stop caring for them. Caring about someone who doesn't care about you kills you, honestly. But don't hate them, they might have their own reasons.
sweetDay98
December 23rd, 2015 10:11pm
More than not caring about them, it would be a good idea to understand why they don't care about you and be okay with it. It's not a competition of not caring. Your feelings are yours and their feelings are theirs.. It is not necessary that you behave the same way that they do.. choose what's best for you. Be the most compassionate person you can be and walk away from negativity. Don't spread it..
CuddlyOasis98
December 24th, 2015 2:13am
Just when you start thinking about them or care for them. Keep in mind that they don't care about you. That way you could stop caring about them
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 3:01pm
The best way to stop caring about someone is to talk with that person. Talk to him/her about how you feel about them and be honest.