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What's the best way to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you ?

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Last Updated: 11/17/2020 at 8:08pm
What's the best way to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you ?
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Top Rated Answers
paul1982
December 27th, 2015 6:49pm
The best way to do this is to realise from the start there is going to be no instant fix. Chances are you will always care about this person but, in time, the intensity and type of caring may change. Acceptance of a change of situation is the key, although it does take time.
highopes
December 30th, 2015 6:07pm
move on... find new people who deserve caring about ... meet new friends ... do sports or any kind of hobbies
WhisperingPiano
December 30th, 2015 10:18pm
That is a tough one and unfortunately no quick fix. I think the best thing is to cut off all contact completely. It is difficult and the best way is cold turkey but no contact means no hurt and your mind eventually gets used to them not being around.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 8:37am
The best way to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you is to not think about them or show affection towards them
salomons
December 31st, 2015 8:45am
Just do it, stop. Maybe talk to that person first, tell him or her your wish and what you think. And if you feel you dont want to care anymore, just leave it.
gracefulMelody71
December 31st, 2015 9:34am
allow your brain to lose focus over the fact that the other person doesn't exactly care for you. In other words, you should think less about the said person. Try to actively divert your attention. Things will slowly, but surely, be alright.
Dreeger
December 31st, 2015 7:49pm
If you stop talking to a person that does not care about you, that person will not talk to you out of him or herself. That is how you know.
tidyKiwi5130
January 6th, 2016 10:01pm
Time is the only way. Focus on who you are, not who you are when you are around them. In the meantime try new things, go new places, make new friends, and hold tight to your old ones. Time flies when you are having fun, and the more time goes by the less you'll find yourself thinking about the person.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 3:44am
You don't really stop caring for them, it's just the intensity of the care that changes. With time, and reduced interaction, you'll slowly start caring about them less.
bleerposh
October 2nd, 2019 1:11am
I would say to just remember how dirty they did you and use that as your ammunition to be a better you. But you have to do it for yourself. To “ stop caring “ is hard especially if you loved this person. But to help yourself get through you have GOT to distance the thought of “ winning this person back “.. that’s not how you detach. It only leaves you with a lingering thought of desperately wanting them to care for you. I really Hope that you look deep within yourself to see that if this person didn’t care about you then they for damn sure don’t deserve your tears
ButtercupBoo
September 15th, 2020 5:34pm
I have did that so i will answer this from my experience. It's not easy. It's painful. It takes quite an amount of time, depending on the person you are. It took me a while but what helped me is self-love. No matter what you go through because of other people mistreating you or hurting you, if you love yourself enough, you heal quicker. I was sad and mad because that person had given up on me, and it took me a while to realise that i had given up on me too. Giving yourself up is the worst thing you can do. Be there for you. Love you. Support you. And never blame you for things others do to you. ❤️
KACOSMIC
October 9th, 2020 6:43am
Learning not to care! Not everything that matters to us is worth it! And what is it to care? To care is to take something into account, to give too much importance to something, such as a problem, an issue to be resolved, an opinion of others about you or something about you. I do not mean to say that we should “shrug” everything and everyone, however, without any shadow of a doubt, we give a lot of importance to matters that do not deserve or whose concern as they do not have any effect, since, at times, there is nothing we can do about it, only leading to wear and tear. It is necessary to develop a filter that helps us to choose what really should occupy our minds, freeing us from unsuccessful concerns, whose importance must be rethought. For example, I tend to worry less and less about what they think about what I do, although I still have several steps to go in this direction, nowadays I worry more about what I think about my personal actions, yes, I believe it must be of great importance, especially if we want to evolve as human beings. It is not uncommon for poorly resolved issues in our psyche to be the main reason why we care with annoyance that they could be faced with less seriousness and concern, since it is often about letting others' postures bother us, and when we care, we get uncomfortable , stressed, among many other things harmful to our well-being. We have to consider and value in these cases, that we always have people around us who like us and are the ones we have to keep open, learning not to give power to those, whose way of acting causes us discomfort. Let us cultivate only sincere relationships with strong ties, which are really worthwhile. Often, we let ourselves be bothered by people who don't even know it bothered us, such is their indifference towards our person, and off we go to the corner of punishment, thinking about what they told us, or the attitudes they had, wasting time and wearing us out with those that are not even important to us. It is actually our insecurity that opens the door to self-questions about the judgment they make of us. That is why I always repeat today that I care more about what I think about my actions, because that is what really matters. If my conscience says that I do my best, the rest is no longer important. I no longer cared much about “things”, and more and more, I care less, important to me are the people I love, doing things that bring me well-being, however, I have not yet reached such an evolution that allows me to be free me for good of what bothers me, what doesn't do me good, of people who add nothing. Sometimes our needs lock us up and trap us, but we have to work to become free and, finally, find the moment when we no longer need to care about what doesn't matter. I do not even pretend to be perfect, just as I do not expect others to be perfect, so what I most want is not to care about those who want to blame me for being imperfect, after all, that they resolve with themselves. We are going to focus on what really matters, and yes, for each one the sense of importance can be different, for this it is fundamental to know how to recognize when our troubles are caused by circumstances that involve things that we should not care about. Let us make our filters and thus lighten our load. I have with me that those people who express only a “blasé” air in the face of any situation and towards any person. You learn that no matter how much you care, some people just don't care.
Nati24
December 10th, 2015 7:45pm
I feel the best way to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you is by accepting it. Accepting that you can't make someone love/want you and moving on. I know, it sounds easy but the first step to any hard situation is accepting reality and from there, stuff will fall into place.
PracticalMaple
December 11th, 2015 12:04pm
if they don't care about you then they aren't worth your time and you just gotta remember that, remember that you deserve to put your care in to someone who will return that care towards you
Anonymous
December 11th, 2015 3:53pm
I think that's impossible. Deep down you will always care and it's okay. Just don't let them hurt you.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 7:34am
accept that they have moved on and cut them out of your life. you don't need that burden of caring for them when they have nothing to offer you back.
leejanelle
December 12th, 2015 8:22am
Unfortunately, we all have those people in our lives who we feel such stong emotions for but the feelings are not mutual. The best and most healthy way to get these feelings to go away is to not think about them or that person. That may come as a struggle especially if you have done everything with that person. The best thing I can suggest is to surround yourself with people who will help you distract yourself from that person. And soon, that will come as a natural.
Sxfihernandez
December 13th, 2015 5:53am
you should just ignore them and try not to see them often cause if not you will get the feeling again
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 10:49am
The best way to go around it is just pretend you care about them until they end up saying oh I don't like you then walk away
Zeleu
December 16th, 2015 7:20am
I think that the best way to go about resolving unrequited feeling is to try your best at finding something or someone else to put your energy into.
SafePanda3
December 16th, 2015 6:50pm
I would say the best way to stop caring about some doesn't care about you is by shutting them out of your life
calmListener21
December 16th, 2015 7:32pm
You must stop investing your time in that person. Slowly you will find that time occupied by some other person or activity but in the beginning you have to make efforts.You must realize that one person cannot be the reason of your happiness and must carry on with your life.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 7:08pm
try to meet new people or do something, because you won't have a time to think or care about someone
marawhalen
December 17th, 2015 10:08pm
To look at them and make them something bad in your life just to know they wouldn't do the same for you
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 10:10pm
Its kinda hard to do that. Sometimes we don't choose who we care about, it just happens. If you want to avoid being hurt constantly by them, try to stay away as much as you can. Hopefully your feelings will fade away eventually.
Sapphire3
December 17th, 2015 10:42pm
Find new people/places/activities that appreciate and care about you in return. Simply find time to spend elsewhere and with other people who DO care about you. You don't have to hurt or humiliate, just walk away. Also don't allow yourself to be treated poorly or taken advantage of - stand up for yourself and only keep those around you that respect and honor you.
frostySky51
December 18th, 2015 1:47am
Avoiding the person, but when you see each other be friendly. Provide space, it's a win win. Focus effort else where.
LovelyLinda72
December 18th, 2015 9:59pm
To care about yourself and distance yourself from the person who doesn't care about you. Try to find new hobbies and interests and catch up with old friends.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 6:51pm
The best way to stop caring is just to not talk to them at all and to block all contact with them and then eventually you will forget about them
BatWings89
December 20th, 2015 2:19am
Concentrate on yourself. Be aware when you're projecting on them and idolizing them. Treat yourself good and just look you have a good and productive time until the time gets by. Feelings need some time to fade.