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What's the best way to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you ?

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Last Updated: 05/17/2022 at 3:45pm
What's the best way to stop caring about someone who doesn't care about you ?
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Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 6:51pm
The best way to stop caring is just to not talk to them at all and to block all contact with them and then eventually you will forget about them
BatWings89
December 20th, 2015 2:19am
Concentrate on yourself. Be aware when you're projecting on them and idolizing them. Treat yourself good and just look you have a good and productive time until the time gets by. Feelings need some time to fade.
AmarG
December 20th, 2015 7:25am
Find someone who really cares about you. It may be family or friends. Make yourself busy with stuff and avoid seeing that person for sometime. And you should always accept the facts and move on.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 1:39am
Distract yourself from them. Do things you love and things you are good at and try not to think too much about them. As time passes, you will be able to stop caring for them. Caring about someone who doesn't care about you kills you, honestly. But don't hate them, they might have their own reasons.
sweetDay98
December 23rd, 2015 10:11pm
More than not caring about them, it would be a good idea to understand why they don't care about you and be okay with it. It's not a competition of not caring. Your feelings are yours and their feelings are theirs.. It is not necessary that you behave the same way that they do.. choose what's best for you. Be the most compassionate person you can be and walk away from negativity. Don't spread it..
CuddlyOasis98
December 24th, 2015 2:13am
Just when you start thinking about them or care for them. Keep in mind that they don't care about you. That way you could stop caring about them
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 3:01pm
The best way to stop caring about someone is to talk with that person. Talk to him/her about how you feel about them and be honest.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 8:42am
Honeslty, if you were really involved with the person I don't think there is a way to forget them but to get your mind off them find someone who really cares about you.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 5:32pm
separate yourself and do not think about that at all .do not take any interest in his life and show that you are busy
FountainOfTruth
December 27th, 2015 6:18am
Cut them out of your life, cold turkey, and immerse yourself in something new and positive instead. I know this might sound super difficult and in some cases almost impossible. But if you care about them despite this not being reciprocated, there's probably no other way to stop caring but forget about them and focus on something (or someone) else.
generousTouch42
December 27th, 2015 6:37pm
You could gradually withdraw the extra care you show to the person. Reduced visits, phone calls and text messages
SaraMichelle
December 31st, 2015 9:01pm
Moving on. I feel though that it's okay to care about that person. You don't have anything to do with that person but it's still okay to care. Caring is just a basic human action. It's something you shouldn't fight because you could end up heartless and cold.
AbnormalAlex
January 3rd, 2016 4:57am
Realize that you are the most important thing, and even if you care for someone deeply, that doesn't always mean they are meant to be a part of your life.
eleanor0610
January 3rd, 2016 3:24pm
Don't try to stop caring. Instead, just fill your time up with other things. Go dancing, read, write, explore, see your other friends, hang out with your family. Eventually, you'll stop thinking about them and you'll move on. Good luck
glowingPeace73
January 6th, 2016 4:13am
Getting over someone is hard. We have all been through it. Most of us don't know how to cope with it. Distracting your mind from whoever this person is, and not keeping in contact with them. It always leads to the same heartbreak.
shupoooof
March 6th, 2020 4:55pm
Do not be afraid to meet new people. In order to truly get over someone (from experience) you need to find someone else. That sounds impossible right now, I know, but truly it is the only way. Don't worry soon you will look at this person you will laugh and say wow I cannot believe I was that involved emotionally. It took me a while to get over my last ex and it was very hard and I get very confused over how other guys work. its hard and it hurts like hell! But the advice you need to get under somebody to get over somebody is one of the best advice I've been given honestly. Good luck hun! You will find somebody some day who loves you as much as you so love them!
Rebekah
August 13th, 2020 1:55pm
This is something that a lot of people have to go through, and it can be super hard. It can be done in a plethora of ways, however. One of these ways includes to block all contact with the other person. This would then help to perhaps "get over" the person (if you care for the person in a romantic way) and would also aid us on our path to not caring. Another way could be to acknowledge the feelings and let them out, through crying, talking to a friend, or even reaching out to a listener on 7 Cups. Furthermore, another path to take could be to surround yourself with friends and loved ones, to remind yourself that you are loved and cared about, and the other person who seemingly does not care is possibly not worth your time.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2021 7:40am
in my opinion the best thing to do to stop caring about someone is to focus on yourself , I've had the same case before like I didn't stop chasing my partner after breakup , after a lot of tryings to get him back I started to care about myself by accepting it and giving myself some love, I started to hangout with friends just to forget a little bit about him. It was difficult at first but I made some improvements, I set some goals and told myself that the only one that I should care about first, is me.
ShrutiScarlet
May 15th, 2022 7:17pm
I wouldn't suggest you dig and dive deep into someone not caring about you part. Yes its painful realising that someone whom you hold dear to you doesn't seem to care enough for you as you would want them to. It's completely valid and understandable to feel hurt and want to stop caring in order to get rid of the negative emotions such as pain and disappointment. Tho if you actually want to move on and stop caring, the only way to do that is let yourself feel the pain, work on stopping of the denial process and start accepting that you were okay without them before and you would be ok with or without now. You are important and loved. Try to see that you have a life of your own and there are others out there who would like to be with you. Closing the contact number, getting new hobby, keeping yourself busy, getting in some activities which heightens your confidence would work as well :)
KesiaJiang0729
May 17th, 2022 3:45pm
There is a saying that I have been remembering for a long time, that is, the person who wants to leave can't be kept, and the person who loves you will not leave. When you like someone, you always silently pay attention to his movements, do everything possible to add his friends, pay attention to his every move, and want to know what he is doing all the time. Therefore, if you want to forget a person, you must learn to stop paying attention to him, block news related to him, and stop every thought of looking for him. When a relationship ends, you need to understand that it means that the two people will no longer have any relationship, and each other will no longer have any reason to contact each other. Therefore, there is no need to be sentimental or reluctant, because all these nostalgia are meaningless. Not disturbing each other is the greatest respect for each other and the best way to say goodbye. When we love each other, there is no problem with caring more, but when the love ends, caring will also become something for no reason, it will become a burden to each other.