What's the easiest way to break up with someone?

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TheMasonJar
November 12th, 2014 5:06am
Easiest would be just texting them or giving them a note, but we all know that is way too cowardly and way disrespectful. I'd recommend doing it face to face. As hard as that is, it's the best way to do it. If you can't do it, maybe you're not supposed to break up with them.
Behappylovie101
November 15th, 2014 2:30pm
Ask them if you can talk and make sure you're alone and tell them you're sorry but it's really not working out anymore. and be sure to be nice if they didn't do anything wrong. You might think texting is the easiest way but it's actually one of the worst.
Mayaisthename
November 15th, 2014 5:49pm
Be completely honest, be clear to why you doing it, it may hurt in the beginning but it's worth it
Anonymous
November 16th, 2014 2:06pm
Tell them how you feel and why you should break up.. They need closure.. It be done face to face or on the phone.. Avoid text messages
TropicalSeas91
November 20th, 2014 10:53am
Take them somewhere where you are both comfortable and can have a quiet conversation without too many people staring. Make sure there is an easy way of escape for both of you, just in case someone needs to run out of the room. Have a quiet conversation about why you feel it will no longer work out, try to avoid an argument. When its done, grab yourself some ice-cream or chocolate and go home.
charlieboo96
April 5th, 2015 3:05pm
Face to face,be honest with how you feel,lying to make them feel better can quite often leave them confused,and give them false hope
mysteriousWillow50
April 5th, 2015 6:03pm
Being honest and open about that you don't feel it's working out. Give reasons for why you feel it's not working. it's difficult to end a relationship but clear communication is key to making the situation as smooth as possible.
Anonymous
April 29th, 2015 3:27am
Be honest with yourself about what you need and want from a relationship and then tell that person the truth. You are doing them a huge favor if you tell them the truth because then you both have the opportunity to learn and grow from the relationship.
Funfloor
May 2nd, 2015 12:03am
Tell them . You want to break up and that is the end, hold your breath and count to ten. Feel the earth move and then and heres my heart burst again. bye.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2015 3:17pm
By being honest. You should just say that you don't feel like they are the right person for you and that you should both move on with your lives.
AdventurousSoul8
May 14th, 2015 3:10pm
There's no "easy" way to break up with someone. It is always going to be difficult. Rather than thinking about the easiest way for you, maybe think about how you would prefer to be broken up with and replicate that.
summerof09
May 17th, 2015 6:57pm
Tell the truth and be straight to the point. Stop making excuses and stop using the line "It's not you, it's me".
hopefulocean27
June 13th, 2015 11:21am
There is no easy way as it will always hurt them. But start preparing them a week before and then talk to them about it. Don't shout or cry just talk like friends.
Strawberrybliss91
November 3rd, 2015 9:19am
Well the best way to break up with someone is by face to face, as it's more respectable and it shows you still value them as a person.
Anonymous
December 8th, 2015 8:31am
The easiest way to breakup with someone is by ceasing the talk with him or to deactivate phone numbers, social networks
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 11:34pm
the easiest way to let someone go is to just be honest so you don't hurt them even worse after breaking up.
Anonymous
January 14th, 2016 2:35am
The easiest way to break up with someone is by standing your reasoning, in person, not over text. It will always be better to face them and explain why you're not happy.
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 3:51am
In person and allowing them the dignity they deserve by not beating around the bush and saying "its not you its me"
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 4:28am
Don't look away from the person, rack up your courage, smile and tell them something along the lines of: "Look, we've had some pretty great times togegther, and it sucks and all, but I don't feel like we're... Clicking, anymore. I wish we could continue being close, but I don't this is going to work out..."
BatWings89
January 15th, 2016 7:46am
That really depends on the person and if you want to have it easy now or for the future too. I've made the experience that knowing why you want to break up and sitting down with them and talk to them is the best thing, because people really care for the why when such things happens. If you live together, think about how you could live at a friends or something similar to make the breakup easier. If you do not live together, try talking at your place or a neutral place where you can still have a private conversation and a scene won't matter. It's good to leave the person the option of leaving whenever they want.
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 11:28pm
There isn't an easy way to break up with someone however, once you have decided to end a relationship it is better not to drag it out. Be clear that the relationship has come to an end - expect them to be angry/upset. Take time to listen to them. Make sure it is in a place where you are able to leave. Consider making sure a friend is around to support them
divinewillpower86
January 16th, 2016 6:01pm
There is no specific easiest way for break up! Break up is break up! One might end up all of a sudden, while one might take around 10 to 30 days! However feelings of break would never be same. Someone might feel very hard to come out and someone might settle well after two days! It connects with the depth the relationship has had!
ptvDarcey
January 16th, 2016 8:25pm
Face to face. being openly honest without being cruel. Give them a reason so they question themselves but remember not to bow down to guilt tripping. If they cry on you or beg you to stay, respect your decision.
Soarfree
January 17th, 2016 2:51am
The easiest way may not seem so easy. You need to confront it head on. Don't tell lies about the reason behind it. Just come out and say it
SenpaiXD
January 17th, 2016 8:33am
By using communication. Tell the person you do not have feelings for them anymore because of various reasons as you would explain to them. Be sincere but serious, try not to raise your voice or make things worse by condemning the other person for their personality. And then after that, give yourself and the someone time to move on.
Anonymous
January 17th, 2016 8:45pm
Always face to face. And if you feel threatened, have a friend with you while you do it. If that makes you feel better.
Anonymous
January 17th, 2016 11:06pm
There is no easy way to break up. Where feelings are involved there will always be pain, for you or your partner or both. If a break up was easy it would imply you have been in the wrong relationship all along. The best way to break up is to be mindful of the other person's feelings and to be patient and kind. Kindness is the best thing humanity has to offer
Anonymous
January 18th, 2016 5:11pm
I would not say there is an easy way to break up with someone but its best to be honest with the person. Just tell them how you feel and your reason for wanting to break up. Make sure not to be harsh about it, put yourself in there shoes and let them know as kindly as possible whats going on. If they care they will understand, of course they will be hurt but eventually over time all wounds heal.
Glace19
January 20th, 2016 7:04pm
there is an easier way, because someone will get hurt. but being honest it's a start. will not be easy to pessoaaceitar disruption however, there will be sincerity.
Tuesmonessentiel
January 23rd, 2016 6:15pm
I find the easiest way to break up with someone is to do it in person, talk out why you want to break it off. Make sure to make your intentions clear and try your best to make your partner understand.