What's the easiest way to break up with someone?

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MsWhite
July 19th, 2016 12:19pm
The easiest way is this : talk to them face to face, tell them what's going wrong, tell them the reason you want to break up, and get out. Hopefully they'll understand. This way is the easiest way, rather than plotting and planning a lot of complicated ways of breaking it to them that you want to move out of the relationship.
teenie124
August 1st, 2016 10:54pm
It is always good to talk face to face. It is important to show that you respect this person enough to say it to their face, but in a nice manner. One wants to be gentle and watch the way they speak because they do not want to sound harsh. Always be honest when breaking up with someone.
cherishedBeauty45
August 8th, 2016 10:39pm
Never on text, you need to tell them your feelings and why you have become to feel this way, never be shallow about it.
Youareloved15
August 9th, 2016 3:46pm
Take them to a private place and tell them calmly you don't think things are working out and you'd like to meet other people
gloriousMoment72
August 23rd, 2016 12:47am
The easiest way to break up with someone is telling them face to face why things are not going to work out.
Anonymous
August 29th, 2016 7:23am
Be upfront and honest. Do it in person too! Don't blame them or insult them, be calm, be honest, and be kind.
Anonymous
September 14th, 2016 4:47pm
I feel that it is best to speak directly to them and get everything out in the open. That way there is no misunderstanding
cosyheart21
September 17th, 2016 11:19pm
I don't necessarily think there's an easy way to break up with someone, but there is a respectful way to do it. The last thing you want to do is blindside your partner, by breaking up with them out of the blue. Even if you have reasons why, breaking up so suddenly, when your partner isn't expecting it, will only blindside them, and make the entire process even worse. Talking to your partner beforehand, about your relationship and how you feel it's going, is the best place to start. Then you can get input from your partner about where they see the relationship going too. Communication and honesty are the keys to any relationship, and even though it can be difficult, talking things through beforehand can save a lot of heartbreak in the end. I can't stress it enough -communication is the key.
generousEnergy13
September 21st, 2016 6:12pm
Tell them how you really feel be honest it's better than living a lie. Face to face is the best way
optimisticBlossom66
September 22nd, 2016 2:52am
There is no easy way to break up with someone. The best thing you can do is go up to your partner face to face ask to talk to them and let them down gently by being honest and letting them know why you want to break up with them and hopefully they will accept that. :)
Anonymous
September 24th, 2016 9:44am
Express how you feel to your partner. Explain why you feel this way. Try not to be mean or rude.
2cupsofteaa
September 24th, 2016 5:32pm
They really is no easiest way. Breaking up is tough. But I guess through an email or text as confrontation is not needed? Nevertheless, I'm sure that person would try to follow up after doing something like that.
caringdaisy
September 25th, 2016 7:16am
Do it in person. Never do it over the phone. Remember that no matter how you do it it will hurt the person. If you do it over the phone it will hurt them even more. 1) ask to speak to them alone where no one else is around 2) tell them you think you should break up 3) tell them the reason you are breaking up 4) do not get angry with them when they get upset - they are allowed to
Gracism
September 28th, 2016 6:14pm
To their face. Never over text or letter. That seems impersonal. To there face, never smile or laugh when you tell then that the relationship just isn't working out with you. Also point out if you are willing or not willing to still be friends afterwards.
peacefulWaves54
September 29th, 2016 1:53am
It's not easy to break up with someone, but if you honest and kind you will get through it! Respecting the other person will make it easier on them, talking things through can really help you both come to terms with what's happening.
Anonymous
October 2nd, 2016 4:48pm
In person is the easiest way to break up with someone. Make sure you tell them exactly how you feel and don't just brush them off or make them feel completely unwanted. Try to make them understand why you wish to break up and if you do this you guys may can decide to still be friends and the break up will be far easier and less dramatic.
Laks1
October 6th, 2016 10:48pm
There's no easy way to break up with someone especially knowing that you are going to hurt the person's feelings. The least you can do is to be honest about why you want to break up.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2016 1:56pm
Just tell them that you feel like you want different things then them and you think that use would be better off as friends
crispAngel57
October 12th, 2016 5:16am
Being honest with them. Sitting them down and talking to them, just telling them what the problem is or how you are feeling.
ThaliaRavenclaw
October 13th, 2016 3:46pm
Tell them. Straight up. Tell them all the times you were together and you were happy, tell them it wasn't for nothing, but tell them why you are breaking up with them: don't leave them confused. Give them reasoning and something to think about rather than having constant questioning in their mind forever.
Robin13
October 16th, 2016 1:58pm
It's never easy to break up with someone. It's always really difficult. You just have to face it and tell them (preferably in person) that you don't feel like it's working and you don't want to be with them anymore. It hurts for both parties.
MyGlassIsHalfFull
October 16th, 2016 2:34pm
I would personally hate myself if I was to breakup with someone over text message or email. So whilst face to face conversation seems like the hardest you'll thank yourself later for being brave.
Melil94
October 20th, 2016 1:21am
Have an honest and open discussion with them about why you do not feel it is working. Being honest will cut down on confusion and anger.
Anonymous
October 24th, 2016 7:16am
There is no "easy" way to break up with someone. But it's best to do it in person and be as direct as possible. If you're direct, it's harder to back down or take it back. You just need to get your message across and explain to them how you feel.
Anonymous
October 28th, 2016 11:26am
Breakup is never easy! However I think the best way to go through this matter is by having a serious conversation with the significant other. Tell him/her what is wrong with the relationship that made you decide to breakup. Try to listen what she/he has to say about it. Always make sure to tell the good side about the relationship. Just try to be as nice as you can...
NaturalPillow
October 29th, 2016 12:46am
I believe it is by being honest about all of it. Not over the phone, or a text. Just think of the reasons as to why you have come to the decision you want to break up with the other person. It may hurt one of you, but being there face-to-face and being sincere about your thoughts can go a long way.
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2016 1:58pm
Be honest. Don't lie. Break ups are never easy. Just do it face to face and try to stay calm. Don't break up in anger.
gentlePassion41
November 4th, 2016 6:28pm
to break up with someone you would need to do it to their face because over the phone like through text will sometimes make the other person feel like you don't care about their feelings at all.to be honest there really is no easy way to break up with someone because its really hard but honesty and time will make it easier.
Anonymous
November 5th, 2016 7:21am
The easiest way to break up with someone is to be honest with the other person. You should confront them and let them know how you really feel.
katiecat19
November 9th, 2016 7:22pm
The easiest way to break up with someone is to just be honest and up front about it. Make sure you are very clear and concise with what you are saying and don't be rude.